"She already slept with three guys? What a slut" "She started having sex with her boyfriend after only one month! That´s so cheap..."
I´m a good listener, and this is what I hear a lot around me about different people. One of the people being talked about is my close friend. Did you ever judge someone like this? I bet. But here´s the thing with judging: You don´t know the whole story in the first place. in the second place, it´s just too common in our society to instantly judge what we don´t know or do, because what I AM doing is automatically right and applies to everyone, right? Wrong.
There are girls and guys being mature earlier than others. My friend had her first boyfriend with 14 and lost her virginity to him. Most people judge her for that, but why? Because you were still chillin´on musically while she felt ready and had the lust to do it? There was really no pressure, she knew what she was doing and loved him. So, is there any reason why she shouldn´t do it? Since then, she tried out stuff with other guys and had more boyfriends afterwards. So still, is that a bad thing? No, because it´s her, and only her choice.
Or some other friend of mine. he´s gay, slept with five guys since he´s been eleven and is still under age. Woah. That´s what I was thinking too. but Me, and no body else has the right to say that it´s wrong what he´s doing. He´s such a great and funny person, I really love him and I´m so happy we are friends.
I´ve slept with a guy who´s had several friends with benefits with some of my friends. He´s a butterfly, and I knew it. It was a one night stand. Some people might judge but, why should they? I feel comfortable with that, yes, with being "used" for my body, because I also used his body and it felt great.
Some people save themselve until marriage, and that´s fine. Some people, the butterflies, sleep around with lots of people and have casual fun. That´s also fine. I don´t see virginity neither as an achievement in life, nor as some super special treasure to keep. Same with people. My close friend is not a slut of less value than some holy marry who saves her/himself until marriage. I value everyone equally, and I think everyone should. It´s a question of respect and tolerance, and whoever is accepting black people or muslims should be able to accept "sluts" and "Marrys".
It´s about being tolerant. I would definitely not apply all those things to my own life my friends did, but I don´t judge. Slut shaming someone for their lifestyle just because you are just tolerating people living like you is really one of the worst things in society, not only referred to sex, but in general.
Society is not really getting a point of what a slut is. I can tell you my definition of a "slut". For me, it´s a person who is emotionally unavailable and is not able to determine their sexual life or desires, which ends up in irresponsible choices. For me, a slut is more than sleeping with a lot of people having fun. It´s being selfish and so unempathetic, that you put your own sexual lust over the respect to your fellows, which ends up in cheating on your partner, helping someone to cheat, betraying your friend who likes a guy and having a thing with him behind her back, and generally don´t pay attention on the feelings and emotions of the sexual partners, but using them only to satisfy your own lust.
That is a slut for me. Someone unempathetic and selfish, only aiming for their very own satisfaction.
Not to change up with butterflies, people who are having fun, as long as it´s okay for themselves and the people they´re interacting with.
I really want this wrong mindset towards butterlfies to be disappearing, because too much shit is thrown on people living their lifes. Please, just let people how they are. You don´t have to agree with them, but accept and tolerate them, and know the real differents between sluts and butterflies.
Thank you for your attention. Now fly off and have fun, or not.
What Girls & Guys Said
14 55You cannot ride the cock-carousel for an extended period with no repercussions. Comes with the territory.
And you may as well get paid - whores get more respect in western culture than sluts do. Just sayin'.
I wish more people were like you. I'm honestly starting to lose faith in my generation.
I suppose you don't figure that cuts both ways, huh? Just for women? Men who sleep with lots of women are studly and cool, but a woman who has lots of sex is a whore or a slut to be reviled. Not seeing the hypocrisy there, mate? Not surprising, sadly. Most men my age or older grew up with parents freely using such terms (ass well as the N-word, 'coloreds' and lots of choice descriptives for gays). Bigotry sucks, man. It's 2018, not 1957 anymore.
@pixelator2000 - You're making a LOT of assumptions there - and you know what that means, right? If you want to marry a slut or a whore that's your business. Most upstanding guys won't. They get to pick from the rejects. Probly like you. LOL
If you want to have sex with as many people as you can fit into your daily schedule, have at it but, don't be surprised when that is all you are seen as, a f*ck. Somebody to be a cum dumpster and nothing more. Some guys don't mind getting the sloppy seconds that are left over after a promiscuous woman has finally reached her 30's and is ready to give a man her full attention but there aren't as many of those as you think.
A "Slut" is someone who enjoys sex for it's own sake, instead of only as an adjunct to a "relationship". Perfectly natural; laudable even. I'm a slut, and proud of it.
slut
slət/Submit
nounderogatory
noun: slut; plural noun: sluts
1.
a woman who has many casual sexual partners.
synonyms: promiscuous woman, prostitute, whore; informalfloozy, tramp, hooker, hustler; datedtart, scarlet woman, loose woman, hussy, trollop; archaicharlot, strumpet, wanton
"she dressed like a slut and didn't act much better"
2.
dated
a woman with low standards of cleanliness.
Women want to mate with the strongest male out there, whether it be by deceiving, manipulation, cheating, lying etc.
When you have so many sexual partners, you will be judged because past defines future.
If you apply for a job in a company or you hire a new employee what do you see? THEIR PAST.
Because we know that past is best predictor of future behaviour.
There shouldn't be any problem to anyone whoever people are sleeping with.
But the problem comes after sleeping with 10,000 men now this slut wants to land a safe deal, a nice guy to marry.
She will act like a virgin and sell BS like past is past or past doesn't matter.
If you're looking for marriage or serious relationship past definitely absofckinglutely matters.
If sluts want to have sex, hey by all means have it no problem.
But don't try to manipulate and deceiving people by acting all virgin and marrying a nice virgin rich guy. That's manipulation and cheating.
Be honest with your past.
If you have to lie about your past then deep down inside you know you did something wrong.
Lol, absofuckinglutely. 😂😂👍👍👍
Yep, agree...
Literally the only word I've ever heard from men about a man who sleeps around on that picture is Bro, and that's mostly in a college frat-boy sense
EVERY OTHER WORD IS A WORD WOMEN PUT ON THE MAN, and is now complaining that THEY CALL THE MAN THOSE WORDS!! Women slutshame more than men do
Holy fuck. What is it with feminists and trying to control what people have to say? Some people are judgmental. There will ALWAYS be judgmental people.
YOU WILL BE CALLED A SLUT IF YOU SLEEP AROUND!!! THERE'S ABSOLUTELY NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT, SO STOP CARING AND GO RIDE A DICK
slut
slət/Submit
nounderogatory
1.
a woman who has many casual sexual partners.
synonyms: promiscuous woman, prostitute, whore; More
2.
dated
a woman with low standards of cleanliness.
Tis in the dictionary. Technically if you don't clean up after yourself you are a slut as well.
I don't know if this is legitimately from the dictionary but if so then that shows you the double standard.
@SanHoloz It's been the definition in the dictionary for a long time.
That is what the term "slut" means
Do I call anyone that? No.
I wasn't trying to say you do, I was commenting on that the word is in the dictionary and that is the definition. So a girl (only girls can be sluts apparently) who has casual sex is synonymous with a prostitute. It's derogatory and I wonder if there is an equivalent term for a male with the same definition.
@SanHoloz Sloven (plural slovens). A habitually dirty or untidy man or boy; the male equivalent of slattern, or slut.
Hahaha thank you, I haven't ever heard that one
You're over complicating things. Here's the definition. What's the difference between a whore and a slut? A whore will fuck anybody, a slut will fuck anybody but YOU !! End of story. :)
I use the words "slut" and "fuckboy" to describe the type of person you're talking about. Someone who uses sex in ways that hurt others. If you're not a person who likes being monogamous, then just try to find an open relationship. If your partner doesn't want that, then you either accept it and stay with one person or you try to find someone else.
If you're single, then have sex with whoever you want - as long as you're not manipulative or use sex to get what you want.
I would personally never be in a relationship with a promiscuous girl, but to be honest, that doesn't really say much because I don't like relationships to begin with.
You can try to make as many excuses for women being sluts as you want, but that's not going to make anyone want to date them. A cheap lay, sure, but not even close to girlfriend or marriage material. Quite the opposite, in fact.
Prostitutes.
People who are addicted to sex I think, to the point were it's unhealthy
Sorry to say this, but no one cares what your definition of a slut is. We have our own and it will always stay this way.
Your friend will be considered a slut by most of us, and your gay friend will definitely be considered a slut by almost all of us.
Its just how men are, its nature.
In everyday life, it doesn't affect you, but it does affect you in dating. Thats where you lose points.
Guys will stop valueing women on their sluttyness, the day women will stop valueing a jobless, lazy bum that lives in his moms basement any lower than a smart, handsome, successful, rich man.
Aka , never
you have ~bad friends
You know what I believe? Everyone is free to ruin their lives. I don't care.
a real slut is a girl who talks to more than one guy at the same time
Uh... no.
@VaIiant yeah
A slut is someone who sleeps around.
@VaIiant same thing
Having sex is not the same as flirting😂
@VaIiant flirting with multiple guys is what sluts do
@VaIiant flirting with multiple men at the same time is slutty behavior. It isn't the definition of a slut yes. Don't feel bad I'm sure your mother is as well, rubs off.
@TheUsername27 you now the world is fucked up when girls think its ok to flirt with multiple guys
@TheUsername27 I’ve never been attracted to more then one guy at a time... I’m sticking up for people who have. Also, you whoremongering dickwad, don’t speak of my mother again. Don’t be salty just because girls would rather talk to anyone else then someone with standards like yours.
Also, @2opaz, flirting with several guys is not slutty behavior😂Many people don’t date exclusively. I’ve never understood why, but if you have a connection with multiple people, and you’re not sleeping with both, it’s not slutty. The definition of a slut is someone who sleeps around. So, if a guy flirts with more then one girl, is HE a slut as well?
@VaIiant no, he is a man
@2opaz are you trolling?
@VaIiant nope
I just checked out your profile and am pretty confident you’re a troll😂
@VaIiant what makes you say that?
Your posts dude😂
@VaIiant what about them?
They’re hysterical joking ones. So I’m pretty sure you’re joking on this
@VaIiant yes i am.
In my brain, slut is a woman who sleeps with a lot of guys and outaide the relationship.
Crap, another feminist..
Yeah it's a woman who sleeps around. Gross.