Do you ask before trying out anal for a first time with your girlfriend or wife or lover?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend seems to have problems with communication and we had a hard ge fight about it. He started pushing me for a bj even when he knew that I’m not ready. So , we sorted that out and while we were having sex I asked him about 3-4 times- what do you want to do? He kept saying -nothing. Why do you want? I swear I asked him clearly just to make sure he doesn’t do shit again. Then as we were having sex I felt how he tried to initiate anal. He eventually did but it didn’t last long. When I told him that later he said sorry and that he was ashamed but honestly I’m kind of pissed. I told i asked him repeatedly and his explanation is that he never tried it and he was ashamed. He is 27, I’m 24

[Kyren]

Anal sex without preparation can be a painful experience. I'd certainly ask her before or during sex if she was interested in giving it a try. Your boyfriend needs to make an effort in being more cooperative and communicative about what he's looking for with you instead of forcing it upon you. There should be limits and guidelines about what you two expect during sex so nothing gets misconstrued and no one gets physically/emotionally hurt during the process.

[Anonymous]

Some things you do not need to ask for. You can give some hints and if the mood calls for it, even be rather aggressive in getting them. Oral can go in that category. But that is when you know your partner likes it.

Anal is well. Never done without checking as a rule. It need some prep to keep everyone happy and enjoying it. Your boyfriend sounds very inexeperienced sexually.

[YunoKo]

Sure, important question.

[Joe_R0yAle]

I dont know whats up with that, I know telling a girl to do something can kill the mood sometimes, but still you should ask first.

[ScaryCool]

That's wrong. Lay down the rules. If you guys are doing this stuff he Should be already known boundaries and care about you enough to not force stuff. Either try pulling a dildo out on him and just "hey I'm fucking your was this time. I'm not asking." Really though if it continues it's gonna be an unhealthy part of that relationship so you gotta decide what you're gonna settle for.

[sakalator]

I'm a virgin, but I know I would 🙂 I think I am sometimes too polite, because you know, you need to be quick while having sex 😀 but I would ask her about everything probably 😅

[vodkabunneh]

U definitely ask for that shiet doe! What communication problems he seems to be having? I mean like is there a real health issue here? But indeed u ask for that sort of thing before initiating, especially anal!!

[Steve37]

NEVER try anal without asking first.

[trick1988]

Yes ask first

[Revolver_]

I ask

[mat_colombo]

I think he is very rude and doesn't really care much about you. Anal is a big deal and can be very painful

[masterkamasutra]

he is kind of asshole.

[Seppelson]

Of course I ask

[Anonymous]

I’m not a huge anal fan, but I would prob just try to put it there. If she stops it that’s cool. I might ask her about it though if I felt I wanted it badly enough? My last girlfriend now wife, just took me and put it there though so I knew where she stood there.