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Do you believe in marital rape?

Why or why not?

(In the end, i'll write my personal opinion)

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I guess that my opinion is somewhat clear now after writing a lots of comments on this thread's answers... Personally i don't believe in marital rape because between a real husband and a real wife in real marriage, marital rape cannot occur... I believe that after a sacred marriage the husband and wife become one physically and spiritually, which means a forever consent and no need for permissions...
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STILL the couple can say no to each other in a lovely and respectful way only if there's a good excuse behind it such as a harsh situation or being sick or something else and they will make it up for each other later... No sane wife would tell her husband no if there isen't a good excuse and ofc she must explain to her husband why she can't cause he is her husband or vice versa in case if it's the husband...
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  • Believe in it? You mean like believe it's a thing? Yes I do. But I also think it should never get to that point. Your wife does not owe you sex. But by the same token you don't owe it to her to be a loving husband. But if neither of you are going to try to make the other happy then why are you married?

    I think we need to focus specifically on what got it to this point. Is she deliberately withholding sex to punish him? Or does she really not feel like sleeping with him because it has progressed to this point. In other words is this FIXABLE on his end.

    I remember talking with a wo. an on here that it had reached this point in her marriage. She wouldn't budge. I told her she may not be wrong. But someone else has to make the first move. Ultimately I was unsuccessful in helping her.

    I guess what I'm saying is no it is technical still rape. You are forcing someone against thier will and you don't do that. Especially one you claim to love. But I do consider it grounds for divorce. Obviously a guy should do everything he can to right this ship. But if all else fails you do have to keep the NUCLEAR option on the table (divorce). Because at this point you aren't a couple anymore. You're roommates.

    • Well said

    • Thanks man. I wanted to weigh in on your back and forth with @brainsbeforebeauty but I know from past experience it would just degenerate with her. Only because she referenced wedding vows. Well what about "to love honor and cherish"? No it doesn't specifically say sex. But I think that falls under that. I think some women (unfortunately) just consider withholding of sex as thier "trump card".

    • You're welcome, the things that you have said came to clear my explanations and what i was trying to say, wise words... People who are smart try to understand the explanation and take it from all aspects than they respond with wise words and not attack you after reading a word or two than being immediatly judgmental at you...

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  • As far as I'm concerned, marriage = consent. If you don't want to get raped then don't marry a rapist as nearly all men prefer a willing partner.

    • Finally someone who understands what i'm saying, thanks 👍🏻

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  • Rape is sex without consent. Full stop. If you do not have permission in that moment it is rape. It does not matter how many times you have had permission previously, and it does not matter if you are married or not. It is rape. Consent is never forever implied, and even if it is implied consent has to be confirmed for it to not be rape.

    • So you're saying that even if the couple are married, he must always ask if he can kiss or touch or have sex and if he doesn't get the stamp and the official signature on it with witnesses, it'a considered rape, just like a stranger who kidnaps and rape a woman right? 😂😂

    • Frankly, you don't understand the concept of rape very well. I hope you never get married lmao.

    • Don’t bother. He’s a rapist himself.

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  • Rape is rape, period!

    Go back and read the wedding vows… Nowhere in there does it say a woman consents to have sex on demand whenever her husband ordered her to or have to ask permission to say no…

    • But the husband have the right to touch his wife and make love to her anytime he wants to and the wife would be happy about it unless she had a good excuse for it to say no and at this point the husband will accept the excuse and comfort his wife and the wife will make it up for him later, that's what i believe in... What i don't believe in is that when a wife treats her husband like a stranger or less than a boyfriend like asking for everything he wants to with her, it doesn't works like this, well at least for me! Between a husband and a wife things are totally different than being strangers or what's between a girlfriend and a boyfriend, that's why there is marriage, a husband and wife becomes one spiritually and physically and they also become a family, will live together and die together which means living together till death! The bond between them is higher than any consent or law or anything manmade!

    • “anytime he wants to “ … that’s the past people are having an issue with…( It’s a marriage not a dictatorship ha no pun intended or I’d a spelled it dicktatorship😂) You’d be her husband not her master…

    • I'm a master spongy forehead, also dicktator, bow for your king 🤣🤣 You can't say no to a caveman so you don't regret it later and if you were sick, a caveman have a 6th sense, he can feel it and won't jump in for sex cause the little bird tells him all the secrets 😂😂

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  • Sure. As they teach you in law classes, you have to separate the facts of the crime from procedural concerns.

    If the husband has vaginal sex with the wife against her will that's rape. Similarly, if she inserts an object into his anus against his will that's rape (or aggravated sexual assault or some such, depending on your country).

    Now, in terms of legal proceedings it's going to be tough to prove. They are living together, there are no witnesses, they are not agreeing on what happened.

    So while I agree that it can be impossible to untangle, the existence of the crime as such is beyond any doubt.

    • Thanks for your insight and i agree with you...

  • Do I "believe in it?" Yes, it exists, from what I have heard.

    • Rape is considered a forceful sex act or some believes that when a girl doesn't consent and the other does it, it means rape! Between a married couple, how is it considered rape? Once she's married she gave him a forever consent, they are husband and wife, not strangers and not even a boyfriend or girlfriend, what's the use of being married if he's going to ask for it everytime and wait for consent!

    • "Once she's married she gave him a forever consent," Did she do that verbally? In writing? Is that implied in the law of marriage?

    • Yes she did but that doesn't means that she can't say no if she's suffering from something or if she's sick or not in the mood, a forever consent means her husband can have sex with her and touch anytime he wants cause she is simply his wife unless there was a good excuse to say no, ofc she won't be forced for sex because a good husband will never hurt his wife just to pleasure himself

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  • If he isn't violent or holding her down when she is refusing, then no I don't.. it isn't like you haven't fucked the guy before..

    • Finally a smart lady, thanks miss @anemone978 because you were smart enough to understand what i'm trying to say from the 1st glimpse... Not only that, what i meant is that a spouse shouldn't be like kids always asking "can i hug you? Can i kiss you? Can i touch your hands? Etc" why the hell are they married if the relationship is going to be like that, i meam of the wife is sick or suffering from something, she can simply kiss her husband and tell him that she can't and will make it up for him later and he will understand if he's a good husband, that's all...

    • Your answer deserves an MHO but i already did chose them, if i was able to choose yours, i'd pick it now...

    • LOL thank you.. its just I see so many times on here "Is is rape? My husband had sex with me and I didn't want to but I didn't tell him and I also spread my legs" it's like get out of here with that, he is your husband not your doctor xD

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  • Oh, absolutely. Just because a woman is married doesn't mean her husband can have sex any time he wants. In fact, he should expect less sex after marriage.

    • Ok, seriously. Why the fuck do men even bother with women anymore? Just stay single and fuck many women as you want.

    • @billlewis at this point this ain't called marriage anymore and i would never marry a girl with such ideology! Like @sasha0426 said, better stay single and make sex to a different girl everynight, not only sex, she will be my slave too, the more i pay the more i get! It seems people these days do not know what a real marriage is anymore, the feminist virus who broke families apart! In the past if you say marital rape, people would laugh at you!

  • Do I believe it's a thing? Yes.

    • Like what? For example there was a girl here today who asked this, he touched me and had sec with me while we were sleeping, is this considered a rape? They are a boyfriend and a girlfriend, imagine a girl sleeping and someone is having sex with her, she didn't woke up, that's the 1st lie than when she woke it's like she forgot to tell him no, so is this a rape? What do you think about such shallow girls 😂😂 Do you know that if this is true, any woman can put you in jail, she can just have sex with you and when she wants a revenge she will threaten you that you had sex with her without her consent...

    • Do you imagine that no men have ever forcibly raped their wives?

  • I believe it's a load of bullshit and they still just committed a crime

    • What do you mean?

    • Rape is a crime

    • General rape, not marital rape because there is no such thing as marital rape, a husband cannot rape his wife!

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  • Yes, marital rape exists. Just because we're married my husband and I have the right to say No when we're not in the mood for sex. We don't own each other. If you don't respect my wishes and still do it anyways against my will that's rape.

    • I can understand what you're saying but that's not rape like the real rape between between 2 strangers and in a real marriage there is no such thing as marital rape because the husband won't beat his wife to have sex with him and the wife will never say no unless there a good excuse behind it and will make it for him later...

  • Sex without consent is rape, doesn't matter who the person is

    • Not between a husband and a wife

    • Uh.. personally disagree

    • That's okay, people have different beliefs, if it's okay with you to ask for a kiss, for a touch and for sex everytime you want them, than no problem

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  • Yes and, if it were me, he’s leaving the home in either cuffs or a body bag. I’m not any man’s property.

    • What makes you so sure that you won't be the one leaving in a body bag? You're thoughts makes you on the same level with a rapist

    • I said what I said and I stand by it. Take care. 😊

    • Me too the same, take care you too 😌

  • Yup, if the spouse doesn’t want to have sex with the other spouse they shouldn’t have to.


    If your spouse isn’t having sex with you then you should discuss with them and get to the source of the problem

    • Agreed

    • I think its real AND its horrific

    • If we are talking about rape in general than yes it's horrific

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  • Of course.

    • How?

  • It’s very much real. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you disrespect your spouse.

    • She can't also disrespect him and treat him like a stranger, for example a husband is the only perso who have access to his wife's body anytime he wants, only if there's harsh reason or sickness that prevents her from sex would make her say no and ofc she will explain to her husband why and at this point he will respect her and accept it, than she will make it up for him later... NOT like this, can i kiss you? Can i touch you? Can i have sex with you? NO! Or everytime she tells him " i let you have sex with me" or in the middle of an intercourse, she says stop i use my magic word now and say no... Always remember that they are not a boyfriend and girlfriend, they are a husband and a wife so it's totally different, that's what i believe in!

    • Oh, ok. What you’re saying is a husband has the right to rape his wife if he’s told no?

    • Wow. It’s scary to know that you’re that type of guy who would rape his own wife if she tells you no. Thank you for showing your true colors. I no longer want to talk to you. Also, I’m going to unfollow you.

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  • I always figured marriage was consent. You mean I have to ask every damn time?

    • That's true and that's what i meant, you don't have to ask every damn time like a baby for a permission, than why would someone get married on the 1st place?

    • Well that's a whole other question!

  • Yes of course rape is rape wife girlfriend FB whatever has right to say no. And person should respect that take is horrible thing to do to anyone.

    • Agreed but it seems that some people are very fast in judging you and do not understand what you're trying to explain but i know myself so i really don't care about what others thinks, ofc when they think bad about me 😄

    • Has to be taken seriously. But there are cases where it is all lies. I don't care what people think but that is different

    • There are middle solutions like not being totally careless or not being too much like can i do this and that for everything, also not to be like an animal make sex with your wife even if that will lead to her death... A middle solution is always the best...

  • Do you believe in marital rape?

    • Not as much as you are!

  • What cave did you crawl out of.

    Of course, it exists. ☹️

    • Crawl out from my cave, i'm happy to have my own cave and my own ideology and i don't believe on marital rape because in a real marriage there is no such thing called marital rape, that's what a caveman like me believes in 😄

  • Of course. If a man rapes his wife, it's still rape. But the other side of that coin is wives who withold sex to manipulate or punish their husbands. It happens all the time, and it's just as despicable and harmful and marital rape. Let's keep it real.

    • That's a part of what i was trying to explain... A middle solution is the best!

    • And in that case the solution is to end the no longer functional relationship.

  • It's real. You don't own your partner just because you're married to them.

    • You don't own anyone, that's not called owning, that's called love, you own them with love...

    • If you feel like you can force yourself on your wife, you consider them your property. How about trying to figure out why your wife doesn't want to have sex with you. There's clearly a problem there (if it happening a lot) one that could possibly be fixed by communicating.

    • That's what i meant, i was trying to explain this by it seems that people were jugdemental so fast 😄 anyways i know myself 😌

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