Do you believe in sex outside of marriage?

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I do.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Given that I am not married now and have had four children out of wedlock - three with my girlfriend and one with a gal who was, essentially, a one night stand - I guess you would have to say that I am pretty positive about it. Though that sounds a bit glib.

Truth is, I have no problem with it. Sex is healthy, natural and instinctive and men and women should have it when they feel like it and mutually agree to it. However, that does mean that it has no obligations.

Truth is, I have gotten four women pregnant out of wedlock. In addition to my girlfriend - with whom I have lived for over a decade - and the mother of my eldest - there were two others. One miscarried and the one that hurts me more than words can say is the woman who aborted my little baby without telling me. I miss that little baby and only wish I could hold him or her and tell him/her how much I love him/her.

Frankly, truthfully, having unprotected sex out of wedlock is fine with me. In fact, silly as it sounds, unprotected sex is the kind I enjoy the most. It makes me feel like a man and that I am doing what nature intended me to do. However, you have to be prepared to take the consequences.

For me, I always knew I would. I lost my virginity at age 16 and even then I knew that if I got my girlfriend pregnant that I would be a stand-up dad and take care of her and the baby I made. Because THAT is also what nature made me to do.

There is nothing wrong with giving in to your natural instincts, so long as it is remembered that we are more than the sum of our natural instincts. We have obligations and when a man makes a baby it is his obligation to protect that little person and care for him/her and his/her mommy.

Truth is, as I say, my girlfriend and I have lived together for over a decade. We don't want to be married as it just seems too contrived and artificial and somehow diminishes what we have. Frankly, I don't think we would be living together had we not had sex first. It is that important to a relationship between a man and a woman.

As to the mother of my other son. Truth be told, I did not know that I got her pregnant. It was, as I say, basically a one night stand and we did not know each other well. She looked me up years later to inform me that I had a son - this after I already had three children with my girlfriend.

The tests confirmed that I am the dad to this young man, but the twist here is that she does not want me disrupting his high school and college years by revealing who I am. So I have met him, and I am enormously proud of him, but I have decided to respect her wishes and that has not been easy.

Long story short, I think premarital sex is perfectly fine and healthy. Males and females need that release and to do what nature made them to do. Breed and reproduce, not to put too fine a point on it. However, I strongly believe that you have to be prepared to take responsibility for giving in to and obeying those instincts.

Those instincts have given me four of the greatest gifts a man can be given by a woman. For a man, we have an obligation to take that seriously.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

No when you commit to somebody you commit to them and if that committed person is trying to pick up on you and they want you for different reasons you have to be able to stand back and say wait a minute dude you are committed I'm not going to do this with you I always say we're on this planet to experience everything and understand it why would you want somebody to experience the bad part of it like the person that is cheating is an experiencing the fun part of it but the person who's not cheating their spouse has to live with the pain and knowing this why would you want to reflect any pain on anybody like that that's what single life is for to experience things you want to experience think back from last year the year before with everything that you were going through everything that you feel everything that you were experiencing remember the pains remember the good times and that's what you always have to think about so if somebody that is married has asked you to become one with them something you really have to think about you're missing out on so many experiences just because you won't let things in that you should and you won't think let things out like you should I think in time though you'll figure it out I think I've always tried to help you but you were thinking about it in the whole different way

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

To an extent. I can go all day when i do it. But im not comfortable doing it every day unmarried. A lot of Guys wanna try before they buy... okay you tried now buy lmao. But yea i just wouldn't have sex with someone daily nor weekly while unmarried. Maybe a few times a month. When we’re married, i may have to be locked in a different room because i might break his dick because i will likely be on it 3+ times a day for at least 4-6 days a week. I gotta have at least one day to recover. But im not sexually satisfied until my body feels wreckt. I learned that the hard way that i’m addickted

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

Yes definitely especially important to have sex before marriage to make sure everything works together good. It'd be awkward to find that stuff out after marriage.

SamA_nold · Answer

Yes, of course

katiesmuff · Answer

I believe it happens often!

Do I believe in sex outside of marriage and tested it very thoroughly for many years. Once married however NO sex other than with husband unless the two of you are into that kind of lifestyle.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Yes It exists! I've heard about it from a friend. :) :) :)

MrCommodore · Answer

Yes it definitely happens

Vanidal · Answer

What to believe? Better or worse? It can happen. Any person has different reasoning about sex outside marriage. Though, I'd say it's better to do it after marriage. One thing about sex after having myself experienced on it is that I compare. And I think it would be nicer if I don't know. So I can't compare. I would be satisfied better with what I have. And I think it would also build better intimacy since you both would be each other's specials.

dustybiker · Answer

Absolutely. Marrying someone you don’t know pretty much guarantees problems.

kobeni · Answer

I believe it's cheating. If you wanna do it, stay in the relationship but don't get married. The more people you introduce the harder the marriage will be to sustain, it's not worth the pain of the divorce. stay in a relationship and end it when it should be ended without any extra shit on top

blarenbond · Answer

Yeah, I think you should have sex before you get married to make sure you're compatible with sex

Berethor · Answer

I am not religious but I respect girls who wait until marriage.

mandyfire98 · Answer

Definitely

Dawty · Answer

I sure didn't use to, but I have changed my mind. I do not believe in sex outside of marriage anymore.

PeteBy · Answer

I do get that some people want to save themselves for that 'special' person. I don't believe sex outside of marriage is wrong.  Sex is natural. Marriage for religious reasons is an outdated concept.

NathanDavis · Answer

I'm a sinner... so, sharpen your knives...

EmmaMary · Answer

Outside of marriage or before marriage?

slatyb · Answer

I certainly happens, and some couples are fine with it.

ALPHABLACK · Answer

Cheating is common practice the days actually no one even uses the word cheating anymore it's more like open marriages or open relationships. A research says over 60 percent wives regularly sleep with men other than husband so it's not a big deal anyways

Bricealan · Answer

I have had sex outside of a relationship, but not when I was married. In my 30's had sex with a number of married women when at Firestone Tire.
I am in favor of sex outside of marriage, for various reasons that I won't go into here.

AviatorTom · Answer

Not unless both partners in the marriage agree with it. I've known a few couples who allow each other that freedom. And I've known a couple where the wife was no longer interested in sex, and allowed her husband to seek sexual gratification with others.

In a typical marriage, partners stay faithful to each other.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Naturally

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap

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