Do you believe people are obligated to sexually satisfy their SOs?

Even if it means having sex when they don’t want to or trying things they aren’t necessarily comfortable with or enthusiastic about?
Personally I don’t think so. Of course it’s nice to experiment and thoughtful to have sex with your partner even if it’s not your preferred activity at the moment, but I don’t think sex should ever be an obligation.
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  • These are 2 separate questions.
    My wife and I will "take one for the team" on occasion. Sometimes it's just a no. And that's okay. Intercourse is never obligated. Usually it's me in the mood and she's not so I get a handjob or some sort of consession like that. I sometimes Jack off and just cum on her boobs. Easy.

    Sexual experimentation is a 2 way street. This is where communication and trust come in. If both dont agree to it, then it's a no. There can be levels of no. Example my wife is 99% straight so if the opportunity comes up she might engage in same sex relations but that's up to her to decide. I ask, she says Y or N. Easy.

  • You are NEVER OBLIGATED to satisfy anyone but yourself!! So many expect that, and get it wrong, assuming some 'entitlement' but NO!!
    Any relationship, when she is expected to satisfy some 'entitled' d-bag, is going to end in divorce, or a restraining order!
    A woman is free to choose, and free to say NO!!

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  • Obligated? No, for me i just enjoy him getting pleasure and makes me happy to see him happy. But if i wasn't in the right mindset i wouldn't see it as a duty to have sex and i hope he would understand

  • In a healthy, normal relationship, sex should be a pleasure. If it's an obligation, it's a chore and you don't enjoy it. And there's something not right about your attitude toward sex.

    • What’s “not right” about it?

    • If you feel sex is an obligation and you don't enjoy it, there's something wrong about your attitude toward sex. It's a natural, normal bodily pleasure.

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  • oh hell no! I agree with you 100% on this one. Sex should NEVER be an 'obligation'. That's just some really unhealthy shit. Whether you're talking about sex "at some particular time" or one partner not being entirely comfortable with the other partner's kinks/preferences... there just should never be anything 'obligatory' about sex. Period.

  • Not at all, no one ever has an obligation to have sex except for prostitutes that have accepted money for agreed upon services.

  • Nobody is ever obligated to have sex with anyone under any circumstances.

  • Obligated? No. However, I don't think it's unreasonable that the general expectation is that if one partner's sexual needs are not fulfilled, they have every right to--and likely will--terminate the relationship at any time.

  • Absolutely not

  • Absolutely. I can’t enjoy myself if I know she’s not enjoying it. And I always see to her needs first. That’s the thing that turns me on the most!

  • If sex ever becomes an "obligation", then the whole relationship just goes wrong.
    If a person really needs their needs have satisfied, then there's self pleasuring.

  • Hell no

  • Every relationship is a contract. A healthy relationship will work this out.

  • I don't think there is a single correct answer for this, but I think people should probably focus on relationships who hold the same view on this as they do. Probably it's not ever an 'obligation' in the instant, but there's a big spectrum in view on how much people want to make the effort to meet the majority of their partner's sexual needs.

  • Of course not. I would never want my partner to feel like they HAD to do anything sexual with me that they didn't want to do

  • Sex should never be an obligation. If you don't want to have sex then don't have sex. It should never be forced on you or you should never be made to feel guilty about it. There are some pretty easy ways of doing your part if your in a relationship though (and only if your in a relationship. Dont let any clown guilt you into anything you don't want to do). You can tell him to whip it out and do his thing himself but something as easy as sitting next to him and/or encourage him to do so will defuse the situation real fast. You can just continue what ever you were doing prior to him bothering you like it's nothing and you are not forced into anything you don't want to do and he is happy as shit doing that next to you. I find being in a relationship is taxing. It's all about compromising. If it's at all uncomfortable never do it. Never feel like you have to. I just suggested that because he is happy and you can do what ever you were doing.

  • I think having a healthy sexual relationship is a good thing and i do think it causes some relationships to fail. But i dont think you should do things your not comfortable with or ever feel like your being forced into something

  • It's not an obligation, but I want to. I cannot be in a relationship and not do everything I can, that I am comfortable doing, to sexually satisfy them.

  • Nothing dries up a pussy faster than "obligation". In a more "meta" sense, I do think there's a mutual responsibility to pleasure one another sexually. But moment-to-moment, nobody is obligated to do anything they really don't want to.

  • No one is obligated it's just a chance you are willing to take

    And some people will leave your ass if you don't satisfy them enough

    You just gotta roll the dice

  • It depends on sexual drive of individual. If my sex drive high and my wife's not then sometimes she should have understand my needs and sometimes I should.

  • I know personally I have bc he was always on CL trying to hook up so giving him what he wanted all the time seemed like the right answer and it wasn't you're Young enuff, don't fall into that pattern

  • Yes everyone is obliged to sexually satisfy their So unless they are medically both physically and mentally in condition that they cannot do it

  • I guess it depends on how you define "satisfy." I think people are obligated to make their partner feel loved, wanted, desired, to the best of their mutual understanding and ability. Good sex and relationships are about communicating and finding compromises.

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