Do you care if your love of your life had one night stand before you?

Question

Do you think about it

whiteguyinMO · Accepted Answer

i dont really care. there's more to someone than their virginity.

BarryLiverstone · Accepted Answer

Of course not

OpenClose · Answer

Have I thought about it? Sure. Does it bother me? I mean yeah if I start picturing it and whatnot. But as I see it, it's my job to process that and not her job to "make up" for it, because she did nothing wrong. It wouldn't bother me too much in most cases but I can picture a few. Hell, I had an ex who was annoyed by my sexual interest in her, but after we split, I figured out she used to have sex parties and threesomes. I was still a virgin. So her judgement of me really twisted me up.

Like, if I'm feeling insecure about it, it would be super awesome for her to understand without harsh judgment, and help me process it. Though honestly I don't think it would bug me that much at all in most circumstances. Hell, one girlfriend started talking about her ex and I was like "was he cute"?

It's probably different for women, though. Like if you're talking about a guy with a history of one-night-stands, it's probably freaky because it probably makes you feel expendable in some way, and that he can replace you on a whim. From a guy's perspective, if a girl has a history of a one-night-stand or two, it's kind of a sigh of relief because she expresses her libido and probably won't be nearly as judgy towards yours.

MTC29 · Answer

At my age, the chances of a women having had no sex life before meeting me is virtually zero. Most have been married and are divorced.

Even so, why would I care if she has had sex with a guy ahead of me?

Berethor · Answer

Yea, it would make her a slut.

Miristheiss · Answer

I'd say most don't.
I would have but my moral code is disgusted by one night stands and the fact that she would have done that would have grossed me out and I wouldn't have thought much of her as a long term partner and she could never have become the "love of my life".

oldguystillhasit · Answer

I don't expect a woman's past to be pure as the driven snow. What happened in her past is in the past. What matters is right now

HeartBreaker007 · Answer

It would hurt me and I would make him block her on everything.

awkward_author · Answer

Not at all.

KatherineJ · Answer

No, and no I don’t. He slept with women before me. The important thing is that he is mine now.

Wise4myage · Answer

No I wouldn't, because I had no control over it.

jahaims · Answer

Yeah

Yumix · Answer

Don't care

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Yes if not safe of STDs

Twalli · Answer

Not really

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Damaged good. can't be the love of my life.

MrTaboo · Answer

Yes I do.

Anonymous · Answer

No, unless something more was involved. But a lot of people have at some point in their lives. And there's nothing necessarily "wrong" with it under the right circumstances.