Do you consider fantasizing about different kinky sexual things when you are in a relationship wrong?

Especially Fantasizing about taboo sexual things which you can't do irl if you are in a relationship.
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I am talking about things which you can't share with your partner. Because doing those things when you are in a relationship is cheating
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Not at all. There's nothing wrong with fantasizing. It's normal and healthy. It indicates a good imagination, and a good imaginations indicate intelligence.

    People fantasize about all kinds of things that they wouldn't do in real life. For example, it's not uncommon for women to have fantasies about rape, incest or sex with monsters. It's kinda like getting thrills from watching things in movies that we would find abhorrent or terrifying in real life.

    We are the directors in our fantasies. We create the script and cast. And we are always safe in our own movie.

    We have no obligation to share our fantasies with others or to feel guilty.

    I WILL say that it would be hot if a partner shared some of her fantasies with me. We could even try roll playing some of them if she wanted. But not with other people involved.

  • Oh you mean like threesomes and that sort? Or cuckolding? Yeah, I might see that as wrong.

    • As a fantasy?

    • @spartan55 Yes, even as a fantasy. @disha10 Thanks for MHO.

Most Helpful Girls

  • No. I don't think secret fantasies are wrong. It's always better if you can share them with your partner but if you can't that's ok.

  • Fantasies are never wrong, they are only fantasies.

    Do you consider fantasizing about different kinky sexual things when you are in a relationship wrong?

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  • Not at all. We're all human and we all have fantasies.

  • No it’s not wrong, it’s fantasy.

    some you can actually share with a partner, with kinks it’s often a reason why you are both together.

    Exploring each other’s kinks can be fun and an experience.

    This includes the more taboo ones.

    • Ref update, greatly depends on relationship and partner. Couples have 3 somes and a shit load of kinky things they share

  • Nope not at all. Fantasies are healthy!
    let’s be honest, we all have them. My girlfriend and I are open about sex, we talk about our fantasies, I’m convinced it makes our sex lives better, there’s nothing embarassing about it to me

  • Fantasizing is fantasizing, not doing. Most people have some fantasies, and thinking about them and knowing you are not going to do them is fine and is not cheating.

  • As long those fantasies are about the person, you're in a relationship with.

  • fantasizing about this, is not bad. and you should do, to expand your mind in that way ;).

  • Fantasising isn't wrong in or out of a relationship.

  • No, thoughts are free. But fantasies should be shared with one's partner. Maybe they will become real. My wife has fulfilled some of mine.

  • Fantasizing isn't cheating

  • There's nothing wrong with fantasizing. Carrying out a taboo fantasy would be wrong.

  • Thoughts and actions are two separate things

    We all have thoughts that are bad some thoughts are very very bad and we all get them we all get them at some point and we get them repeatedly everyone's wanted to kick their annoying coworker off a cliff and that's fine however if you actually kick your coworker off a cliff well then that's a whole other story


    Fantasies about sex are no different from thinking about kicking your coworker off a cliff they sound bad and if you say them out loud they make you look bad but the fact is everyone's had a thought like that and everyone's had that kind of thought repeatedly because it's just normal

  • Fantasies are just willful dreaming. I think not. There are things I couldn't even buy unless I had Elon's money.

  • No. It's definitely not wrong. It's just sexual desires that you have. If anything, if a partner was not willing to even try out the kinks I have, then I probably wouldn't date them in the first place.

  • I do not consider fantasizing about things you can't share with your partner cheating. They are just thoughts.

  • Depends on the fantasy, but slippery slope is a thing and it’s real easy to go down the rabbit hole, so I don’t think it’s very healthy- both for the person or the relationship.

  • I don't see anything wrong with it at all :)

  • Yeah, i have fantasized about a threesome and also having a sexual intercourse with a hotwife. But this would totally destroy the relationship unless my girlfriend is into such things too

  • Fantasizing and acting things out are two sperate things. What your talking about is why Porn exist.

  • No not really

  • Not really, it's a fantasy, not reality

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