Do you demand STD test before having sex with someone for the first time?

[marish01]

[Levin]

That's an interesting one. Sometimes, if someone demands it, it tells me more about her than it does about me.

I can see the idea behind it. Having said that, it's almost impossible that I would have anything. I'm not promiscuous and I'm safe. If someone would demand it, it might piss me off. And I would think it would tell me more about the kind of sex life she has. If she has engaged in risky behaviour, then of course, please get tested before fucking me. But don't project that on me. Also, I'd rather wear a condom in general, anyway.

[marish01]

I'm a virgin. Should I not demand his STD test?

[Levin]

You can demand anything you want. Whether the other person is receptive to those demands is another question. Communication and compromise are usually better strategies.

[marish01]

If he's not a virgin then why shoupd I risk my health?

[Levin]

Just because someone has had sex doesn't mean they are likely to have an STD. Depending on his behaviour it can be extremely unlikely. However, of course, there can never be 0.0% risk. For example, there is a difference between a person who has only slept with a virgin, always used condoms; versus someone who has been with 20 people and has often been unprotected. For all practical purposes, the first person is extremely unlikely to have an STD. However, it is not necessarily unreasonable to request that if you want. However, judging by some of your answers here, I kind of get the impression that you probably wouldn't sleep with anyone anyway, unless they were a virgin and you got married, or something fairly similar. Your barriers to have sex with anybody seem to be extremely high. by the way, we potentially risk our health in all kinds of different ways. For example, these covid vaccines, are experimental. We don't know what their long term health may be. Would it bother you to have sex with someone who had had one of these vaccines? I think it would bother me, even if she's a 'pure' and 'healthy' virgin who therefore has no STDs.

[marish01]

"Your barriers to have sex with anybody seem to be extremely high" The odds of me having premarital sex are zero unless it's nonconsensual.

[Levin]

Well there you go, so it's pretty much an irrelevant issue, anyway. I would be interested to get your take on the covid vaccine as a potential source of harm to partners engaging in sex.

[marish01]

"so it's pretty much an irrelevant issue, anyway." It is not an issue

[marish01]

I didn't take the covid vaccine. I'm not sure if there are any side effect of it.

[Blackmoonsns]

Passion lust and sexual desire can make you do stupid things in the moment you don't think about those things all you think about is intercourse. The only time people really Dawn on those things is after the fact of a relationship ends and you find out your significant other was a slut.

[katiesmuff]

No it's something I never did and all I can say is from my very first sex to present day I never had a condom used, never caught anything serious (lice once, chlamydia a few times and all easily taken care of) and can't tell you how much sex I have had it that length of time. Guess I should mention that the last 10 years has been with my husband.

[marish01]

Still risky

[katiesmuff]

Yes it most definitely was and I would be the last person running around promoting it to women and girls today. Thing is sex happens more on impulse than a planned event which makes being careful hard to accomplish.

[marish01]

On impulse. That is why I don't take such people seriously.

[katiesmuff]

Nothing in the world wrong with thinking!

[DeeDeeDeVour]

You're not gonna "demand" that just before you're both about to get it on, are you?

Assuming you will, it's gonna spoil the mood.

If you ask ahead of time, he's gonna assume he's surely gonna sex with you which he'll be expecting.

[marish01]

I'm abstinent. Of course I will have sex with my husband. Expecting sex is ratiinal. Lol

[chrissykerdock]

i'll give a blowjob without a test... the only way i don't is if there's pimples or red blotches on his penis

[OlderAndWiser]

No, I don't "demand" because that is a good way to end a relationship. For the past 15 years, I have offered to get tested for STDs before engaging in horizontal refreshments with a new partner, and I have suggested that she do the same. In my age range, that totally eliminates the need for condoms.

[LazerBean]

I think if someone is promiscuous, then if they have any brain cells at all they would demand that.

[marish01]

I doubt they have braincells

[LazerBean]

Me too lol

[IceCreamSandwich]

No but I should.

[Berethor]

If she a ho I might demand that, if she is a virgin then I don't need to demand that.

[SnowedIn]

Demand? No. Would it be nice? Sure. Condom if not or it there's any doubt. But, I haven't had to be in that position for a long time, so...

[Emilyis]

If he sleeps around a lot. definitely!!!

[DJB72]

It's been over 20 years since it's been an issue

[Dargil]

I have. So as not to be accusing, I suggested a date where we both to to a store front Lab Corp and get tested together. Then when the results come back, we apply them.

[exitseven]

I never did when I was dating but I might consider it today.

[itsalyssaagain]

No but if they’re promiscuous then it might be a good idea.

[AdithyaR]

I would have to actually date someone and reach that point to actually start thinking about it.

[Andres77]

No new sex for me. Those days are done.

[CloudMassacre]

I would want to get tested together

[Mr1derful]

No never

[AsaKyo]

Even if I thought we were both clean, I would still like to test just to be sure there's nothing going on

Better to be safe than sorry

[KostasKouvalis]

If she was promiscuous, yes

[AmeerX]

I think no because I would have married them. If I feared AIDS or fear her not being a virgin I would ask her if she is alright. That would make me curious though

[BJP21]

Only if they have been with other partners in the past. I would, but if they are a virgin not necessary, but never hurts.

[motownplayer2000]

Should.

[Mangospacho]

Yes, every single time. I’ve heard all the excuses like how she’s only been with me and how we’ve been married for 11 years. I just prefer to be cautious.

[Twalli]

Only if she isn't a virgin.

[TallAnon]

Probably should, but I do realize I'll probably be too horny.

[marish01]

You can masturbate

[TallAnon]

Haha, if only that solved it

[Pudsmucker]

That's what condoms are used for.

[Quigly]

There use to be a blood test before you could get a marriage license. Gay people wanted to get married and too many couldn't pass the test, So they deemed it discriminatory and got rid of the requirement.

[marish01]

Wow. I didn't know it.

[TotallyAlmost]

No. By the time I have sex, I already know them well enough to trust them.

[Adogdog]

I might.

[EaterPeter]

There are such things on some dating apps now. Last tested for hiv. Positive or negative. On prep? Vaxxed or not? For what? For example covid vaxxed x 3 monkey pox vaxxed

[krin_m]

When I was dating, yes. Now with committed relationships, no!

[eagle1951]

nope

[jjj101010]

Nope

[Anonymous]

I would think before getting intimate both partners should do it voulunterily. Just as a bit of a thing to show respect and also to remove that worry from the equation.

[Anonymous]

"If she's a ho, I might demand it." LMAO

If you could harness the stupidity on this site, you could light up a city.

I recently learned that there are home testing kits for this. So I would require that.