Guys, do you ever ask a new partner for oral? Or just like hope they initiate it?

Thinking back I think it was always me who started it and the guys I know who I've asked say they don't ask early in a relationship.
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  • I have never asked for a blowjob and never will unless we have had it multiple times before. The guys that have told you that guys don't ask it early in a relationship are correct.

    But I don't care about blowjobs because it's unprotected activity and I have a limited stamina which I'd rather spend on penetrative sex instead so, I may be in exception. All of my friends tell me that it's better than penetration but I don't get the appeal.

    Apart from that, I take charge and do everything I want to do. Girls who are into blowjobs will automatically initiate it so, I don't bother asking.

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  • I have to jump into the way back machine to answer this question since I’ve been married for quite some time. I’ve only dated someone who I was interested in forming a long-term relationship with. I was very selective. It was only kissing and touchy-feely for at least the first three or four dates. I didn’t expect sex for at least a month. Oral usually came at the same time as part of foreplay before actual PIV sex. I always let things progress “naturally” and never forced or expected anything.


    I guess my approach worked, because I only had four serious relationships before meeting the woman who would become my wife and mother of my children. I got married in 1988 and we are still very much in love!

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  • I'm usually the one initiating oral. I typically work my way down her body. I enjoy giving her oral on her clitoris and labia. It's always part of the foreplay she receives from me.

  • I never ask, and don't generally mind if it doesn't happen. I don't enjoy blowjobs, anyway.

    If she asks/wants to, for whatever reason, then I'll typically let her do it, but it's more because she wanted to, than for myself. I'd much rather spend that time going down on her, instead.

  • I generally initiate first and hope they reciprocate.

  • Sigh, I guess I'm one of those guys. I feel that I might be being too pushy. But I also know that a lot of women really like it when I guy takes charge and they're sick of guys who expect for the women to do / suggest everything first.

    So for us cautious guys, this approach works well with some women and definitely not with others!

    Lol, I wish there were stats somewhere on what women want. If I knew that most women want a guy who likes to take charge, I'd really have to re-think things!

  • I am not shy about asking for it. I’m also not upset if the answer is no. Early in a relationship, I don’t want to let her go down on me unless I am absolutely sure that I am clean and fresh. Also, I don’t want to mess that first blow job I could’ve gotten because she wasn’t sure about initiating. So, if the circumstances are right, I’ll ask for it. Hopefully, that opens the line of communication so that we can talk about our sexual needs.

    • Also, if I want head as foreplay, I make sure to tell her. After my dick is wet, I’m not going to ask her to suck it unless she volunteers; even if we’ve been together for a while. So, I asked for it upfront.

  • I almost never ask for anything -- sex is important to me, but it doesn't matter exactly what we are doing.

  • No the more you like to live a life of lust, the worse it will get and if you ever try to control yourself it would be a lot harder to do so, not just that, you can have so much sexual encounters that it will eventually become numb and won't find the same enjoyment from it, I prefer to maintain sex as a special intimacy for my wife.

  • I love giving oral pleasure to a woman and usually if I give them good oral pleasure they tend to reciprocate.

  • I have never asked or suggested, I prefer a partner with initiative. If they want to do it, they will do it. If they don't, there must be a reason for it, and it's up for them to talk about it.

  • I don't ask.

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