Do you ever change your type or preferences?

[Anonymous]

I'm a bit OCD so I tend to compartmentalize my preferences. I narrow it down to a specific type of woman and I focus on that type. Lately I've been overwhelmed by all the subreddits of women sharing nudes and my preferences have been pulled in different directions. There's an entire Asian Network on Reddit for every type of Asian woman so that's confusing. One day I like slim ones, the next I like Chubby ones, or voluptuous etc.
Then I'm into Native American women, Brown Hotties, but yet I watch porn of horny White Milfs doing who knows what. I don't even know what I want sometimes. The selection of women to view on the internet is extreme, do you ever change your preferences?

[TonyV]

I cast a wide net. And yeah I change my preferences, it's called realizing a certain trait or characteristics is a toxic redflag then avoiding it, it's hard to explain one type I use to like but anyways as hot and attracting as girls with that personality are I know now they are trouble so even if I could I wouldn't date them.

As for looks sense that seems to be what you're focused on, I don't care about looks much anymore. Thin, fit, muscular, thick, curvy, chubby or even fat, that's not the deciding factor to me, just like skin tone or hair color want make or break the girl. It's about her personality and weither or not we get along.

Now obviously (actresses as examples) looks wise id rather date Karen Gillan much more than Melissa McCarthy, but hypothetical if Karen treated me bad or we just didn't get along her looks wouldn't matter, I'd be put off by her ugly personality. And if me And Melissa just clicked, got along well and had fun together her extra pounds wouldn't stop me.

Looks are a low priority to me now, if she's hot that's great but we have to click, a sexy slim curvy chick would just be a bonus not a prerequisite.

Hopefully you get over looks sometime cause judging books by covers is a bad way to find good books.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

My preference is very malleable.
I’ve been very physically attracted to all types of people. But, when it comes to dating preferences and appearances, I always liked caucasian guys lol.


Beyond that, it can change. I’ve dated (or been attracted to) people of all different races and ethnicities. But with my long term relationships, they were all white guys. Two were tall (6’2+) brunettes. One was tall buff/lean, the other was tall and super slim. My current boyfriend is below average height apparently (5’8), buff/stocky, and blonde.


I learned over the years that I didn’t really go after the appearances, it was more the personality and if we were compatible in that sense. The physical appearance just made me even more attracted to them.

[Asker]

I think I spend too much time looking at naked women and calculating my sexual triggers. The ones I go for do suspiciously all look like my ex-wife though. I may need to reset my brain to forget about her somehow.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Ah, our brains usually like to do that. It’s not uncommon for people to have a preference for people who look identical to their first love, the person they lost their virginity to, or who they first were attracted to. It’s hard to forget people like that. Sometimes you subconsciously search for them in other people.

[Asker]

Exactly. I lost my virginity to her, I was with her for 15 years and was still in love with her when she cheated and the marriage ended. My brain is addicted to her. I masturbate to Asian, Native and Mixed women who have her skin tones, and I watch any show starring Constance Wu because her facial features remind me of her. I dated one White woman since my marriage ended and I loved her personality, but my brain is broken and still obsessed with my crazy ex.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I understand and I apologize. It’s difficult for us to just “break” that preference.

[Asker]

Yeah and it's confusing. I don't understand if I'm naturally obsessed with Asian women or if it's because of my addiction to my ex-wife. Or if it's both? Like what are the odds that my first real girlfriend was exactly my physical type from head to toe and I found her first try? I guess it's possible because I used to get erections just from sitting beside her or holding her hand while driving. However I would get hard when my white girlfriend would text "I love you." Maybe I'm just too weird to be understood.

[Anonymous]

Why do you think you have to have a type? Like it would be necessary to have a type to know what you want… It’s not. I do have kind of a type, not a soecific hair/eyecolor or something but I’m drawn to other specific physical traits and personality types. But that’s just what I’m drawn to naturally, not something I’ve decided on because I want a type… You don’t need a type. And if you don’t have one it should increase your chances of meeting someone because their are more options.

[Asker]

That's true and I used to feel that way, but I discovered that I'm mostly attracted to light brown women (Asian, Native or Mixed) with dark hair, brown eyes and darker nipples and vagina. Occasionally I get my fill of that and I catch myself checking out White women again like I used to as a teenager. I get confused.