Do you feel sex among most people is mutually beneficial, or it is usually more often the case of one person receiving and one person sacrificing?

[MCheetah]

In my experience, as well as what others have said, it seems to me that sex is more often than not a one-way experience. Someone is benefitting and receiving the pleasure, while the other is sacrificing and giving the pleasure. And unlike many things involved with sex, this one seems to be more balanced between males and females. Either with five-minute men who "pump and dump," leaving the girl unsatisfied, or men who have to do oral or use toys, or put in all the work on top, while the girl can just lay there. Seems like both men and women are commonly selfish lovers to me.

[Lliam]

In my personal experiences, it was usually mutually enjoyable.
Of course, there are times, such as oral sex, when one person's job is to please the other. Not that the one giving doesn't also enjoy it.
And there are times when the woman will allow the guy to use her for a quicky. It's not that she doesn't enjoy it, too, but not enough time is spent to fully gratify her.

In most cases, though, we would thoroughly please each other.
I find that I enjoy sex the most was when she uses me to get herself off. In other words, she fucks back, works to gratify herself and reach ecstasy. She's not passive. That means that doing whatever I want to do to gratify myself is also what gratifies her and vice versa. Fucking each other for our own benefit. The fact that she is fervid makes my own pleasure skyrocket and vice versa.

[pink_and_inlove]

I think quickies suck they’re disappointing

[Lliam]

@pink_and_inlove. A full session of love making is the most gratifying for both parties. But let me ask you this, are you disappointed when you give a blow job? I mean, who is being pleasured when you suck you partner's dick? Do you think that sex always has to be equally mutually gratifying or is it okay for one partner to pleasure the other on occasion? So here's my thing about quickies. Why is a woman's pussy any different from her mouth? Can't she just use it sometimes to give pleasure to her partner? What's the harm? Quickies are occasional things. But I have to admit that it can be hot af to sometimes bend my woman over, lift her skirt and plug into her warm, juicy socket. I am carried away with desire and she desires me, too. The word implies that it is often done when time is limited. It doesn't mean that both parties aren't horny at the time. It can be one of those heat of the moment things where they are passionately kissing and he says "I want you" and she gasps "Take me now!" Does that make sense? What do you think?

[pink_and_inlove]

Blowjobs are okay it’s just that quickies don’t leave me satisfied at all I’m not even close to cumming so I just stayed turned on the whole day and it sucks

[VanillaSalt]

I loved doing that to my ex. Ide wake her up to some fun and leave her for work leaving her to suffer through the day super horny lmao… Then when I come home we’ll… let’s just say it was worth it if she was good and held out all day. She was busy so no time to work but she was a super horny personality so she wouldn’t cool off until the pressure was relieved.

[hellionthesagereborn]

I've not been particularly sexually active so I cannot say, though in my past relationship it kind of went both ways though I do feel that I did more work then she did, I did kind of make it a point that I would be getting mine and she was obligated to do so (because I pay for everything, I'm responsible for everything, I have to spend an hour or so with foreplay and oral, so you damn well better believe I'm going to get some pleasure from sex. She was kind of selfish.).

That said I can't say whether this holds true for all relationships or I was just not particularly lucky in mine. I would hope that it would go both ways, that he would give and she would give (and I don't think it necessarily has to be at the same time but just in general it should balance out).

[White_Widow]

I'm a woman for whom it's difficult to cum. Yeah in the past sex was often very one sided from my point of view, since my ex partner wouldn't even try to gratify me. But now... I have a partner who blows my mind every time, even with quickies. I might not always cum, but he makes sure that I get to enjoy it just as much as I make him enjoy our sexy time. So it varies per person I'd say.

[pink_and_inlove]

im not saying that this is my case because it’s not but I often hear about how other girl’s boyfriend’s last for like two minutes and I hear about that a lot so I guess a lot of times females don’t get to come. Luckily my boyfriend lasts like 20-40 minutes which I think is good I wouldn’t want it to be longer

[loves2learn]

At least now anyway, for us it is mutually beneficial. We had some years where we were not on the same page and that was rough.

[Apple1996]

The thing is that some people are seeking a emotional connection (usually women) and others are seeking a physical connection (usually men) so it's beneficial to both people if they are getting what they want out of sex. Its not necessarily always about the pleasure. For me I could care less what the sex is like as long as I feel loved after.

[Mia-Wallace]

Sacrificing is pleasurable. Sex is not just about physical pleasure.

[exitseven]

It is definitely the gift that keeps on giving.

[JosyJosy]

Mutually beneficial, if you find the right partner, both parties will enjoy it. Even when it's just oral, there are people who just love to give, sometimes even prefer giving it so both parties still enjoy it.

[pleasestopthis]

It can be both. Sometimes only one of them really gets to enjoy and some others both get pleasure from it.

[iboobs]

Usually one person is benefiting while the other person is sacrificing.

[karaspara]

Usually mutually beneficial in my experience but of course there are times when it isn't

[Dchrls78104]

These days, from what I've heard, I do.

[JesseJayNeak]

It's mutually enjoyable but usually beneficial for one person