Do you feel sexually aroused and masturbate but feel repulsed by actual sex?
Is this normal and common and you feel this way as well?
This question is probably more deep and complex to ask in a poll, haha.
I don't think you are very weird or abnormal, honestly. For me, there is a very clear line between "sex" as in horny, sexual libido and "sex" in the context of love and desire.
When I'm alone and become horny, that's an easy thing. I watch some porn of people I have never known and don't give a fuck about. I watch sexual activities that I myself probably would never do, and it has nothing to do with my own sexual life other than a strong visual stimulus that I can relieve my hornyness to.
When it comes to actual sex, that is far more difficult. I'm attracted to very very few women. In real life, I want love. Relationships are difficult. Love makes you vulnerable and it is difficult to open up. But the desire I feel for that specific woman I love is beyond any horny libido.
I partly agree with you. Horniness and romantic sex belong to two different worlds for me. One is easy and means little, the other is complicated, intense and distant.
For some these might be very similar, especially for guys who are with "hot" girls frequently. But for someone more shy, passive and romantic the horny libido is less connected to actual romantic sex.
Have you had a more romantic-type desire for someone?
Nope. Never had any romantic feelings for anyone either. How about you?
Well, maybe you will someday, or maybe you won't. Honestly, you might save yourself from a lot of pain. I've been in love with 3 women in my life. Two of them were already in relationships. The last one was my closest to an actual relationship, the issue was just she was twice my age and had kids older than me. Way too far between us on every level except the romantic. When I was around them, I would get an overwhelming urge to touch them, hear them moan and put bluntly - fuck them. I would actually get physical pain in my hands from the longing. It would probably feel amazing - if it ever happened. But it never did. When I randomly get aroused I just see it as my animalistic sexuality doing its thing. The porn I watch has nothing to do with love. But as I orgasm I sometimes imagine cumming in/on that woman. Still now, after I haven't see her for almost a year. I'm very romantic. I love the passion I feel perhaps even more than those women. Do you want to have romantic feelings for someone, someday? Can you outline something that resembles what you want? I know for me that I want a passionate, romantic relationship where sex isn't that important but present. If there is no romance, a partner would be meaningless to me.
When you masturbate aren't you thinking about women and having sex? If so, you'll do it and enjoy it at some point.
I am thinking of women but not imaging myself having sex with a woman
You are still attracted to them then. You will be fine. Try it anyway and you'll enjoy it.
Uhhhh... No... This is not a common way to feel... And I don't feel the same. 😵
You do feel horny and/or watch pornography and even are comfortable with having real sex with someone in reality?
It is honestly not common. Maybe you are afraid of physical intimacy?
Even girls don't feel this way about sex and marriage?
I am sure some do, but I have not met any boy or girl who feels this way 😐 I do not think it is a mental illness LOLL but maybe you have not found the one you deserve yet.
How about you? You do feel horny and/or watch pornography and even are comfortable with having real sex with someone in reality?
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