Do you get sexually frustrated at times? Putting you in a pissed off mood?

[Finchie40]

This is something that makes me angry and resentful of , if I am in a relationship with a girl that isn’t in the mood as much as I am, it frustrates me to the point I am ready to kick her to the curb, if she denies me a lot , I been with girls that would only initiate sex when they were in the mood , but deny me when I was in the mood , in the beginning there was no issues what so ever but as time goes on, the intimacy starts to fade from and I honestly start resenting her for that cuz I feel like I am in a one sided relationship , I don’t tolerate it much anymore. Trust me , I learned my lesson, to find out she was cheating on me and using me , so I don’t play those games anymore, It’s abuse , we deserve someone that wants us like you want them Sexual frustration is a real thing for me , considering I love sex , it makes me feel happy and alive , having sex with someone that makes me feel wanted like I try to make her feel , I don’t want anyone else , just her , I can’t pay for sex, I can’t just have sex with a random girl if their is no chemistry and connection sex to me has to mean something for me for me to even get in bed with her, but nowadays , if I feel my wants aren’t met by a girl , I am pretty much on my way out the door , I am this way because of my experiences with ex girlfriend to the point I am drained from how girls treat their men , it’s always great in the beginning of a new relationship but as time goes on the girl’s I been with tend to become selfish and act like sex isn’t a big deal , but to me it is a very big deal , Most girls don’t realize when they stop giving their men sex. he is feeling like she doesn’t care or respect him , he feels used and unloved and unwanted , He will start resenting her and probably be open to meeting someone else , in this type of situation I blame you girls if your man ends up cheating on you , sadly you kind of deserved it , and yes this goes for you girls as well, kick him to the curb if he keeps denying you

[Angela_S]

Not myself. I'm very lucky, as my b/f has a much higher sex-drive than me so I basically get sex-on-tap, which usually turns out to be around 5 times per week. Sexual frustration is definitely a thing though, and I try to make sure my b/f doesn't suffer from it too much because of our different drives. I agreed (with myself really) before we moved in together 3 years ago that I would usually give him additional hand-jobs if I wasn't in the mood for actual sex, and this seems to work really well so far. The only time I've really seen him frustrated was when I started a hand-job one time, then my friend phoned, and I was talking to her at the same time as giving him a hand-job with my other hand. He usually doesn't care about this, as all he cares about at that time is getting to the point of cumming. But this particular time, I was so interested in what my friend was saying that I kept forgetting about the hand job, and taking my hand away, then remembering and starting wanking him again. This apparently drove him mental! At first, he started kind of sighing/whining when I took my hand away, and this is what reminded me to put it back. But eventually, the final time I took my hand away without really realising, he actually punched the coffee-table, so hard there's still a mark on it and shouted that I should either wank him or not wank him, but not this "in between" thing. My friend heard this over the phone, and the whole thing was very embarassing. I told him to take his hard-on and f*ck-off somewhere else if that was his attitude. So he went to the bathroom and finished himself off, then was all apologetic later. So yeah, sexual frustration is a real thing, and I guess people deal with it in different ways.

[CA4444]

The thing is women see sex very differently it’s hard to explain but she may be very hurt if you expect her to fuck just for some kind of duty or reciprocity when she actually doesn’t want to. if things go wrong in the relationship it’s gonna be a turn off for the woman and so it’s a bit of a vicious circle until the issues get resolved. Women want/need an emotional bond just like men want/need sex, it’s part of women’s primal needs and if problems arise in the relationship she will be turned off. Also women get turned on differently and progressively I’m sure you know… if you feel entitled to have sex when she doesn’t want she will definitely not feel respected or loved (more likely betrayed by you when you’re the one she trusts the most, very hurtful…) also sexual issues in a couple are bound to happen men and women have different sex drives, fantasies etc sometimes it’s compatible and sometimes it’s not and you have to meet halfway

[Finchie40]

Even though women see sex differently it still shouldn’t be one sided , I am not saying she should spread her legs the second he snaps his fingers but like you said they should meet in the middle and in most cases girls don’t do that , leaving their men angry and frustrated, feeling unloved , unwanted, disrespected, when he tries to communicate with her and ask her what is wrong , and asks how come you don’t want to touch me anymore , how come you don’t want to kiss anymore etc.. she will say things like oh I am stressed out, this and this and this needs done like it’s the end of the world , or she will say hurtful things and criticize him like he isn’t good enough cuz he doesn’t do this and this etc.. She holds sex over him like he has to earn it from her , leaving him feeling like she just likes the convenience of him and using him , or he thinks she is up to no good , Girl’s are very selfish people , that only really care about themselves , I am not saying guys can’t be selfish either but Girls definitely hold the record of being selfish , No matter what a girl has with her partner she eventually wants opposite m, like she is entitled , she overlooks all the good her man brings to the table and finds flaws in him like he isn’t good enough , I have experienced this plenty of times with girls and I have witnessed this with girls doing this to their men , Why most men today don’t want to get married , cuz girls are never satisfied with what they have , they constantly compare their lives to their friends , A single girl will say she wants a man that loves her , provides for her , takes care of her, protects her , the second she receives all of that she gets bored of it and decides oh he is a piece of shit , all he thinks about is his dick , he doesn’t love me , Everyone has bad days but when you constantly take it out on your partner that loves you , making him a constant punching bag , Girls act like guys don’t have feelings , that he should just be able to

[Finchie40]

Handle her craziness and bitching and nagging , , the second he tells her to calm down or take a chill pill she will start attacking him , making him feel like he doesn’t matter to her , If he can’t handle her toxic behavior he is a coward to her , he becomes weak to her , She will start resenting him and constantly pushing him away , She will say things like you are insecure or jealous , criticizing him and putting him down making him feel like he isn’t good enough , basically gas lighting him to the point a guy says Fuck you get out of my face , the second he walks away from her is when she realizes how much of a bitch she really is but she won’t apologize for it she will still think she is right and he is wrong she never looks at herself in the mirror and tells herself she is wrong , it’s always the man’s fault

[CA4444]

You seem like a very nice man with a very good heart I think they are using you… you probably provide security and affection and all sort of things that women want, they just grab it even if they’re not maybe fully in love and then resent you for not being the man they love or some perfect version they have in their head maybe I don’t know. Women can be very manipulative and use sex to get what they want which is the attention or affection and (emotional/material) security. This is bad of course even for themselves and yeah quite common I guess I mean there’s a wide spectrum of behavior. when I’m in love I want to be completely and exclusively dedicated to my man, to his wishes and needs, and that definitely includes sex. And I want sex with him, definitely. I think that’s what it should look like yes.

[Finchie40]

I hate talking highly of myself but through my experiences with girls has made me the way I am today , I don’t know if it’s a good thing or a bad thing , all I know is I am a human being , I have feelings as well , I try to live my life as positive as I can , I know I am not perfect but when I am constantly told from numerous people that Dude you have a huge heart and you are a nice guy it’s hard for me to think that about myself , I just treat people the way I want to be treated especially girls , I don’t commit to be single I am committing because I want her and I to grow together , love each other , support each other , value each other , make it clear to each other that it’s her and I Vs the world , Things won’t always be perfect but I got her back like she should have mine and we will get through whatever obstacles come in our way , I don’t want to be the only one constantly giving without receiving , to me that is abuse , you can’t expect me to do things for you but you can’t do those things for me , I am not your Ken doll , I will remove my selfishness for her as long as she can do the same for me and in most cases girl’s can’t do that , they are so fixated on what they see on social media , constantly comparing their lives to others , Most girls have the grass is greener on the other side syndrome. They don’t look at themselves and admit to themselves that they can be wrong , as well, if I communicate my feelings to her about what I am feeling with her she takes it like I am starting a fight when that isn’t the case at all , I am trying to fix what is broken to keep her and I closer , but instead I am a piece of shit for doing that , She can tell me to stop doing things that she doesn’t like me doing but she won’t stop those things for me , it’s always ok for her to do , if I confront her on it Oh you are just insecure and jealous you don’t trust me , when really that isn’t the case at all , it comes down to respect , I feel disrespected

[Finchie40]

My ex limited my friends , she hated if I went out with friends , so instead of me being selfish I put myself in her shoes and thought how I would feel if she was going out with friends all the time without me , so I distanced myself from my friends to show her I valued her and loved her , things were great again until she made a new friend and now all of a sudden it’s ok for her to go out every weekend excluding me , her actions were speaking louder than words , when I tried to talk to her about what she is doing is wrong considering she stopped me from hanging out with my friends I am all of a sudden an asshole and insecure , So instead of fighting with her I said fine go out with your friends cuz I will go out with mine , the second she saw me going out with my friends again she stopped going out with hers , Girls do not wear their men’s shoes like she expects him to wear hers and that’s where double standards come into play , and resentments set in , she ended up cheating on me because she couldn’t accept the fact that she was wrong , Girls wonder why their men cheat on them and wonder why he is open to meeting someone new is because she only cares about herself , She doesn’t prioritize him like he does her , most girls hold onto their exes like they were these amazing people , constantly comparing her new man to her ex , A guy won’t compare his ex to a new girlfriend the only time he will is to defend himself to make her realize what she is doing is wring , When a girl compares me to her ex I tell her oh if he is so great, why is he your ex? One thing I can say about myself almost every one of my ex girlfriends has tried getting me back , I just laugh

[Finchie40]

And yes I agree we all have selfishness in us , but if you can’t remove selfishness for your partner like they do for you , you will never experience true love you are Only going to experience fixation when it’s convenient for you , there is no love just convenience, I want to be wanted like I want her to feel , someone that accepts my flaws like I accept hers , someone that makes me her number 1 priority like I do her , without that their is no relationship , it’s pointless

[Juxtapose]

I agree with you, frigidity should not be acceptable. Yeah yeah, they have the right to refuse you sex but you have the right to leave them for someone who won't refuse you nearly as often.

[maximumpower]

Not so much pissed off but certainly a bit testy and edgy - especially if we've done something to get me worked up and she stops.

[Emerald55346]

I was just thinking about asking a question somewhat relevant to this because I feel the same. My boyfriend only wants to have sex at most 2 times a week and he is only 29 is this normal? I honestly wish I could have sex almost everyday and I’ve been with this person for over 2 years now, it makes me really sad and il just cry sometimes because it makes me feel undesirable and disconnected I don’t even bother to wear sexy lingerie anymore, he only wants sex when he wants it and there is nothing I can do or say to get him in the mood with me, when they make it only about getting off and put limitations on it it’s actually so hurtful.

[Finchie40]

Then you are with the wrong partner , if he only makes it about himself and only has sex with you when he is in the mood then he is only thinking of himself making him a selfish person , and the fact that he doesn’t care if you are getting off or not is your answer to kick him to the curb and realize you deserve better than that. When someone values you they remove selfishness for you , when someone is using you , they do what your boyfriend is doing to you , with out capability you are just hurting yourself

[NathanDavis]

no... I'm a grown-up, not an incel

[Finchie40]

It’s nothing about being a grown up it’s about valuing yourself and realizing you deserve to be treated the same way you treat someone , instead of being used and treated like a convenience, by someone , so many relationships experience this type of shit to the point people tolerate it because they have low self esteem about themselves and feel like they don’t deserve anything better, or they think no one else would want them , just because you care and love someone it doesn’t mean you have to tolerate their abuse towards you , we are all imperfect people but when you let people walk over you and disrespect you , you are only hurting yourself , You are making excuses for someone that doesn’t prioritize you like you do them and sadly they will take advantage of you , Relationships and love only grows when 2 people remove selfishness for each other and make each other their number 1 priority , it won’t always be perfect, but when someone values you they will fix it with you , instead of thinking they are right and you are wrong all the time., Sacrificing for each other , When you feel like you are the only one sacrificing you are best to walk away from that person and let them face reality of what they ruined and lost because they only cared about themselves, Most people only really care about themselves because they are selfish. The sad thing is most people don’t realize they are being abused for a long time , they make constant excuses for their partners behavior , when you are constantly making excuses for why your partner is treating you the way they are treating you , you are only hurting yourself and allowing yourself to be walked on , When someone actually loves you they won’t hesitate to make you feel wanted a valued , accepting your flaws like you accept theirs. We can only give what we want to receive , when you are constantly giving without receiving it’s time to pack your bags

[NathanDavis]

in the first lines you say that one deserves to be treated the same way you treat someone... so if I do use paragraphs... will you use them as well?

[Finchie40]

LOL yes

[Agape93]

Yeap, not as often though anymore

[Studmuffin765]

Why not?

[Agape93]

None of your concern

[Nikki1989]

Very rarely.

[britishbby]

I'm the same I dunno what to do tho

[Finchie40]

You got to kick her to the curb and realize you deserve better, yes cheating is wrong but if it comes down to it then so be it , just don’t go back to her if you do end up cheating , end it right then and there , cuz the way I look at it is she is already cheating on you by with holding sex from you , if it’s a constant thing with no real explanation as to why she is denying you , if you constantly hear I have a headache, I am to tired , I don’t feel good etc constantly denying your attempts that’s your answer to leave her ass , excuse after excuse means she is up to no good in my book and just using you as a convenience, if she valued you she wouldn’t constantly being pushing you away

[AimeeKyle]

Sometimes.

[AngryCarl]

I've been through all sorts.

[Anonymous]

Man.. use your hand or flash light 💡

[Opinion Owner]

Flesh** lol

[Finchie40]

It’s not the same , the power of the hoof is magical lol