Guys, Do you guys share his same thought?

Guys, Do you guys share his same thought?
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  • Psychologists understand this well.

    Humans bond - kind of like velcro - when they have emotions for each other, but every time such a bond is broken, damage is sustained, and the next bond will not be as strong. Too many breaks and the ability to bond is lost completely - like worn out velcro that just falls apart.

    But there's an important difference between men and women: men have the ability to have sex without being emotionally attached, i. e., without creating a bond, while women don't. When a woman has sex, she bonds with the guy even if she doesn't want to (at least, when her bonding mechanisms still work).

    Here's where that's a problem. Imagine a guy and a girl each have 20 sex partners - but the guy only had feelings for 3 of the women. At the end, each has slept with 20 people, but the guy has 3 broken bonds and the girl has 20 broken bonds. That may not be "fair", but it's how biology works. And now, the girl with 20 broken bonds has lost the ability to bond anymore.

    What this means is that her feelings for the guy are never strong, and she's unwilling to tolerate ANY level of disagreement, boredom, or hassle - as soon as she feels any of those things, she's looking around for another guy - for "new validation", even though she knows full well that it will only be a temporary fix, and soon she'll need yet another one, and then another. That's what it means to have worn out your ability to bond.

    It's also why men have always cared much more about a woman's body count than women care about men's - women instinctually understand that men can have sex without an emotional involvement, so they're a lot less worried about the man's body count, because that doesn't have nearly as strong a correlation to his ability to bond as it does for women.

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  • I don't think it's about men or women, but more promiscuous PEOPLE. I don't think they "Die on the inside" necessarily, but some of them do end up accustomed to random hookups and casual sex arrangements.
    They may find a monogamous relationship very challenging to adapt to later on. They may possibly not value their partner as much or see them as special. They're used to jumping from person to person the with no commitment or responsibilities.
    Maintaining a long relationship requires two people to really cherish one another and fear losing each other to a degree.
    If promiscuous people see everyone as just another lay, or number to add to the bodycount, then there's isn't much chance they're gonna see any individual as incredibly important or irreplaceable.

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  • That’s a load of BS. Women can be just as physical as men, and enjoy sex or even promiscuity if they want. The idea that women die inside or lose something by having sex with more partners is so old and wrong. You can see that this person never had a woman open up to him. I wonder why.

  • No I don't I mean everybody is different and everybody has different ways to go about things different attitudes different personalities you touch girls different you don't touch then the same way you kiss different everybody's an individual so you take it on like that

  • nope, I do not agree with BS like that... that's just something someone immature would think or say

    • Who’s the immature?

    • he is, when he says stuff like that... and that he "feels sorry for women" no le da nada de pena decirlo... lo dice para manipular la situación, that's what players say just to try and get their way

    • He made me lose my cool and I told him an ugly word

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  • I would generally agree with him, from my experience as a male, that men tend to be quite "physical creatures", easily physically and visually aroused, and that conversely females are harder to sexually please in terms of climaxing and often need to psych themselves up with foreplay in order to enjoy the sex. I can't say for certain if it's mostly rooted in biology but I'm more inclined to believe it's more so a product of social conditioning on the subject of gendered sexual interactions. So men are stereotyped and expected to behave a certain way
    With respects to biology, I'm inclined to believe that it's the structures of the sex organs that facilitate this difference

  • Not sure what your question is? Can you add on and explain further?

  • Anybody that has casual sex (women or men) is a worse partner for their future SO than if they had not had casual sex. That is my opinion. Each additional partner damages their chance of a strong pair bond with a long term partner.

    What they feel with a future long term partner will be less special (if it is special at all) and they will be more and more damaged by past experiences.

  • Not all men think alike at least is how I feel about things.

  • I think it is sad that this conversation actually took place.

  • No, that doesn't sound right to me.

    • What doesn’t sound right to you?

    • Women supposedly dying a little every time they give it up, and women not being "physical" creatures like men. The first thing sounds like BS and makes no sense to me. The second thing I've heard plenty of times, but I'm not entirely convinced. We as men and women generally grow up different and are taught different as part of our culture. if our ideas of gender roles and culture was the reverse, it wouldn't surprise me to see women being regarded as the more "physical" creatures. I honestly don't think the differences between our genders are as big as most people make them out to be.

  • I agree with both of you.

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