Do you have to be emotionally attached to someone to jack off to the thought/picture of them?

[Anonymous]

I'm the type of person that might think guys are hot, but I would only do that to the thought of them or their picture if I really care about them. If that makes sense? But I know that before I came along my boyfriend would jack off to cheerleaders, models, female athletes, actresses, etc. you get the gist... /: Does that mean that he really liked them or was it just the appearance and it didn't make any difference to him what kind of people they were? I mean... Guys, do you do that sort of thing purely based on "hotness" and then just move on? Or is it more common to need to feel an emotional attatchment to them to do that?

[MrOracle]

Males don't work that way - we can separate sex/lust from love/emotional connection very easily, whereas many (most?) women cannot. Neither is right or wrong, good or bad - just DIFFERENT. In both cases, our behavior evolved because it provides the best chances for our offspring (keep in mind that birth control largely didn't exist until the 1960s, short of condoms which weren't widely used).

[Asker]

Okay, that's good to know. Thank you:) And you don't think he compares me to all of those girls? We've been dating for a year and a half, I know he loves me and is loyal to me, but he was a bit girl crazy before me and sometimes it kinda bothers me. I am a professional model, so I'm not really worried about my looks. I am tall and skinny which I know he likes, but my boobs and butt are a bit small compared to a lot of girls that he used to like /:

[MrOracle]

Well, he didn't go blind when he started dating you - he can still see when another girl has bigger boobs or bigger butt, so in that way, he is comparing you - his brain can do the simple math. But he's not comparing you in the way that should matter to you - he has zero emotional attachment to those women, and often, to him, they are just pleasantly shaped/sized body parts. Whereas for YOU, his GIRLFRIEND, the girl he PICKED to be with and CHOOSES to stay with, there is (presumably - I don't know the guy) an emotional connection that transcends the size of your body parts. Guys will always want to look at (and lust after) hot bodies. That's part of being a man. But most men don't take any further action. They might fantasize, but they don't try to meet those girls and get to know them. If that's all that's going on, then you're all good.

[Asker]

Okay. That makes me feel much better, thanks. ^_^

[Anonymous]

We can just jerk off to a hot girl and then move on with our life. so no need to worry about him being in love with them or anything.

[Asker]

Okay, that's good to know. Thank you:) And you don't think he compares me to all of those girls? We've been dating for a year and a half, I know he loves me and is loyal to me, but he was a bit girl crazy before me and sometimes it kinda bothers me. I am a professional model, so I'm not really worried about my looks. I am tall and skinny which I know he likes, but my boobs and butt are a bit small compared to a lot of girls /:

[Opinion Owner]

He won't compare you to them. at least I don't. I might think, "Huh, that girls pretty hot. well, moving on with my life." Buy when I look at my girlfriend I think "WOW. She's just SO damn perfect. I'll love her forever." So being in love with someone will make you, maybe not the hottest person in the world, but the most beautiful person in the world. if that makes sense.

[kittykatg]

You could be demisexual which is somewhere in between sexual and asexual. Usually they need an emotional attachment/attraction to the person in order to feel sexually attracted to them.

[drewtacular]

nope I can jack off to anyone I find attractive

[Paddy2764]

It can be either for guys but mostly hotness

[annoyymouse]

If it's just to get off, then no emotional attachment is needed

[ZellRocx666]

Nope, it's not necessary..

[Storm121]

its both for me, i can get hard a stroke my self to a girl i find attractive, but its even more of a turn on if i know them personally.

[Nick_D]

Girl needs to be sexy and hot in order to get a great orgasm :P

[Anonymous]

I feel like doing that to someone I care about is disrespectful to them. I can do it to faceless bodies but not to someone I'd want to be with

[Anonymous]

I don't jerk off but I'd say it's all about if they are hot.

[Anonymous]

I've never heard of a male who'd only masturbate to someone he was attached to.

If that was the case, guys would go through long stretches of not ejaculating.

Not how it works.