Do you instantly break up with someone if the sex is terrible?

Do you instantly break up with someone if the sex is terrible?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I don't think from a guys perspective that there's ever any terrible sex. At least I've never found any I think it's more on the guy if the sex is bad cause if it's not working you just take over and work it out. Unless the time when I was up and ready to go until I caught a wiff of her funky snatch and my dude said fuck this shit I ain't going in there. So I tucked and rolled my way into to bathroom washed my hands said the Lord's prayer and bounced. There was no sex but it was a terrible experience. I mean how do you roll out of a situation like that and be smooth. I think I just said " uh yeah I gotta go". The scary thing is I've broken my nose a few times since then plus fell off a house onto my face and my sense of smell isn't very good now a days. I figure that smell is burned into my brain so even the slightest wiff would tell my dude to get the fuck out of there. I hope

  • It could have been great for their last partner, or there could be no last partner. I know with every woman I get with the path to the finish line is slightly different and requires more, less, or some creativity each time, definitely attention, questions, and listening.

    I'm not going to freeze someone out unless the sex starts bad, stays bad, and they have zero enthusiasm or effort to try any harder.

Most Helpful Girls

  • No, of course not! As cliche as it sounds, there's more to a relationship than just sex!

    Trust me, if that were the case, I would have broken up with BOTH my exes! No joke. Not to be mean, but the sex with them was subpar at best. But I didn't really care because I enjoyed being with them more than anything! I think people put way too much emphasize on sex rather than what the other partner can bring to the relationship and how happy s/he makes you.

    • My motto: They say everyone has the dating life that they deserve. Coach T. Anthony believes everyone deserves better, and he can definitely help you change that relationship status from Netflix, Oreos, and Sweatpants to “I am taken.” Ha Ha ha

    • ... was that an advertisement disguised as wit in that comment? I'm pretty sure it was. Hey, what you got against a night of eating oreos and watching movies in sweatpants? I'll have you know oreos never lie, cheat, or hurt me... err, except my waistline but that's another story, LOL

    • Love me some Netflix Oreos and sweat pants with the right woman!

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  • Not instantly, since the first time with someone is not always perfect... There's nervousness, it can be awkward, you don't know what the other one likes/wants...
    It's kinda like trial and error... So I'd give him time. Talk to him, discuss what we can do to make it better for both of us, try a different approach...
    If things stay just as bad or if he just doesn't care, then yeah... It would be a deal breaker

    • Good point!

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  • No. Everyone has their own style during sex, so missing a beat with partner (s) is perfectly natural. However, if said partner was not adamant or refused to learn and adapt to better ways for both of us to enjoy it, then it's plausible concern to more personal/communicative issue further down the road. So things would certainly be discussed and considered if this happened. Otherwise, we can have fun learning 😉

  • Well no not the first time. sex isn't always good first time in because of nerves or not knowing the things that'll really curl the toes or other things lol
    But it should definitely get better real quick.

    • Real quick lol

    • Not real quick sex lol that better last long lol I mean if the 2 connect, you should figure the turn ons quick lol How many Bourbons you had already coach🤔 lmao

    • LOL I meant hopefully it gets better real quick... not how quick... never mind ha ha ha

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  • I will talk to him n we'll find a way to work it out together. If someone breaks up so easy over sex then why bother begin a relationship at first point? To me a relationship isn't all about sex , there're trust- love- sharing - overcome difficulties together. But if he doesn't change or doesn't want to change then it's time to say good bye.

  • I'll give him a few more goes. Sometimes it's just nerves with a new girl that diminishes performance. It's important to establish why he's crap in the sack before making a final decision.

  • I've never had that experience but I would first try to determine if the girl was open to doing anything differently. If so, hopefully she would want to learn and we would "work" on the problem together.

    • If you quit when you encounter a problem in a relationship, you are going to quit on every relationship you ever have!

  • Yes, because it leaves me unsatisfied.

  • Think it would depend. Like how many times they've had sex in the past. If they're a virgin I wouldn't expect them to blow my mind their first time.
    Also would depend on how open I have been with things I enjoy, if I've told him beforehand what I prefer, or guide him during sex, but he refuses to listen because... God some reason. Then I'd probably get going
    But generally I'd not break up with them, if they're willing to listen, learn and experiment along with me

    • A show of willingness to communicate during sex honestly makes all the difference in the world

  • I teach them.

    • Aren't you just the sweetest ha

    • Gotta pay it forward

  • No, that's kinda a dumb reason to break up with someone ofc xd!

    • Unless they're using you, this is never a good or moral reason to break-up

  • No, but that was my fault more than it was hers. You can't expect your fist time with someone to go perfectly anyways though. After a few tries it got much better. It was mostly an issue of lack of communication and unaccounted for physical difference between us and our old partners that made our first time so bad.

  • Never been in that position but I don't believe that's a deal breaker for me

  • Practice, maybe? I wouldn't break up with them, might be nerves or whatever. I'd only see it as a problem if they didn't want to make things better with me.

  • Probably, hasn't happened thankfully

  • Yes, If she was good before but became lazy and egoistic. It means she takes you for granted

  • Absolutely not. We will have lots of sex to improve!

    • Well you being a casanova and all.. I am sure you can make it happen ha

    • LOL, don't believe everything my ex says!

  • You can learn to get better at it. There is hope. However, you can't easily learn to grow a conscience. There are other factors to consider.

  • I probably wouldn't date them if the sex was horrible. Now if they can learn, absolutely. But if they are one of those people who won't take direction then hell no.

  • No way. Practice makes perfect

  • Depends on why it's terrible. Is it because they are into things I'm not and neither of us is willing to compromise? Okay well then we are not compatible sexually and maybe this relationship can't go any further if sex is really important to one or both of us.
    Or is the sex really terrible because we've only had sex a few times and don't really know what the other one likes yet? Because that can be improved and then we might be able to have amazing sex once we know each other better

  • Nah, sex with my girlfriend used to be pretty bad, now it's amazing.

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