Do you prefer to be the dominant or the submissive during rough sex?

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  • Voted "Dominant." However, that is a bit overstated. Most of the time I am dominant, but there are times and circumstances where that is not the case.

    In general, my girlfriend and I have a very primal kind of sex. We are like two animals breeding in a field. I am the dominant alpha male and she is the submissive female.

    Invariably I am on top, usually doggie-style, although my body is close to her's. Pressing against her body and not with back straight. Even when it is missionary I will be on top and laying over her, thrusting deeply. I expect her to be obedient to me and give her body to me for my use.

    It all sounds quite raw and even impersonal, but that is the odd part. My girlfriend is a very independent woman. We have lived together for 12 years and have three children and she is an incredible mother, partner, and career woman who knows her own mind and can speak it forcefully.

    Yet the funny part is, when we have sex we are at our most exposed and vulnerable. I need and want her and we are sharing our bodies and we are all that we are - nothing but just us. It is the most deeply intimate and connected and loving - even as it is raw and animal.

    Truthfully, my girlfriend even believes - and she admits that this is very old fashioned, that she should have sex with me - and I agree - even if she is not in the mood. She is to be there to meet my needs and submits to me. Here again, the funny part, is that this works because I love her and therefore I try to be sensitive to her moods and feelings. I can have sex with her whenever I want, but I won't because I love her.

    Also, even in our sex there are times when it becomes less about my male dominance and more romantic and loving. When I suck her breasts I get mellow and I just want to be held and loved. I just lay in her lap, nursing at her breasts and I just need that sense of closeness.

    When she sucks me and I cum in her mouth and she swallows or shares it with me in a long loving romantic kiss. Again, I am in the dominant role but in those moments it feels like total giving and total acceptance and I am no longer the dominant male, but my love and what we share is what matters.

    So in theory it is a sharp divide, but in truth it blurs. I need to be the alpha male and my girlfriend needs to be submissive. For her it is a strange sense of being used and possessed and dominated and protected and cared for and loved all at once. For me, I need to be inside her and feel her warm skin against mine and to know that she is there to breed with me and that my penis is the source of the most raw pleasure. We need that sense of nature and of a male and female animal in nature.

    She is there to be used by me and to have my babies. (We have three, as I mentioned.) Yet it all becomes more complicated and loving and romantic. The animals become deeply loving partners who cannot live without one another. So put me down for dominant - but with a twist.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • I am generally dominant so when it comes to sex I take the lead. Once in bed I take over and she is at the receiving end. It was my first girlfriend who introduced me to rough sex. She was very delicately made. Was soft and beautiful and absolutely submissive. Once she was confident enough to ask what she wanted she told me, "I want to feel that male strength in you will over my body".
    I said, "You are so delicate and fragile".
    "Don't worry, I will not break".
    That day I went harder and harder as I was checking her endurance. I was surprised when she didn't stop saying, harder, harder when I was pounding with all my might. We had some marvelous sex that day. When we finished she said, "That was better". I got to know what she wanted. The next time I unleashed the male force in me from the word go. I almost treated her like a rag girl in the bed. Putting her in the position I wanted, and did what I wanted with brutal force. All she did was moan louder and louder. I was exhausted at the end of the session and she had a big smile on her face. "You should have fucked me like this on day one, this was mind blowing".
    I told her, "You are so sweet and soft and so delicately made. I didn't want to hurt you".
    She said, "Did I break? Did I complaint? I enjoyed. Dodo we are made to receive your male strength".
    I learned my lesson. Most women want their men to take the dominant role and like rough passionate sex. Most want to be pounded hard including my current girlfriend who goes cowgirl when she is approaching orgasm but goes submissive again as she says I don't do it as well as I don't have the strength, rhythm and the power to keep going for so long..

Most Helpful Girls

  • Submissive. I love being pinned down in a rough sex with my boyfriend, receiving hard thrusts and being led by him to change positions, and being held so tight when we both reach climax.

  • I'm a major switch, but I like being submissive. I like marks, bruises, being held down and dominated (theoretically, I've never had sex)

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  • I'm usually dominant, but I love when I have the chance to be submissive. I had a girlfriend who surprised me once with a ball gag, 2 pair of handcuffs, and some leg shackles. I spent a really great day chained to her bed!

  • During rough sex, I definitely like being the submissive. Though in practicality I usually wind up being the dom if my partner has a small dick. But when I'm getting fucked by a real man, I like behaving as if I'm the guy's sex slave. I'm not always that good at it. It works better if the guy knows how to take command. I'm not into kinky shit, but when my partner lets me take off his clothes and we get down to business, my inner cockslut comes out. Without going into unnecessarily explicit detail, I'll say that I love doing just what he orders me to do. I summon up all my femininity in order to better satisfy him. My orifices are ready and expectantly awaiting him to grace me with his manly presence. Sometimes I whimper in eagerness to feel him inside me, begging him to put it in me and put it in me hard. I like feeling abused. And I always love it when it reaches the climax and I can feel him finish inside me. It's an extremely passionate experience that makes me bond with him on so many levels.

    • What about you and small dicks?

  • Dominant but don’t really go for rough sex, prefer having good sex than just some pseudo porn stuff

  • Submissive always.

    • Subs are the best

  • Both and sometimes neither?

  • not exactly submissive but passive. i prefer me lower and cowgirl style.

  • I would like the girl to be the dominant on occasion.

  • Dominant of course

  • With cuck dominant with bull submissive

    • You make your cucky watch, listen, or send him away until your bull finishes

    • Most time he watch and help

  • Neither

    • Neither doesn't happen in rough sex

    • I'm asexual I don't have sex

    • Then the question doesn't apply to you

  • Submissive

  • dominant

  • I rather give the pleasure than receive it, so I chose submissive for the poll, but I consider myself giver.

    • That's a quite different ideology for Dom/Sub I'd say if you're pulling her hair and doing doggy from behind then you're definitely not thr Submissive here

  • I love being submissive

  • Definitely submissive

  • I'm a man; therefore, I prefer to be dominant as all real men prefer to be.

  • Switch.

    • If you had to choose though, for the poll