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Do you require some sort of connection before you find a person sexually attractive?
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47 113I don't have any connection with Kristen Bell but, if she had a thing for older guys, I would be all over that! On the other hand, I have met some women (my most recent ex is a notable example) who are not particularly attractive but I became attracted as I got to know them. So. . . I guess it works both ways.
No, I'm not very capable of feeling romantic attraction.. at least right now. I need no romantic or emotional feelings to find people sexually attractive at all.
The first sentence made you seem like a psychopath, but then you redeemed yourself.
For guys, physical attraction is the major part of attraction...
However if I meet a super attractive girl but don't feel any connection with her; I will forget about her in a couple days unless we hooked up that night... If a meet an attractive girl and I have a connection with her, I'll still be thinking about her several weeks later.
There are some guys that I am instantly sexually attracted to but if I talk to them and find out that they're a douchebag that attraction disappears. When I have a connection with a guy it makes me more attracted to them and the sex is normally a lot better/ more passionate. More likely to want a relationship with also.
Not really. I have to find them sexually attractive first and then have a connection with them. If there isn't a connection at all, then the sexual attraction disappears.
No. But in some cases I only find a woman sexually attractive after I get to know her in person. Also, if I feel a woman I barely know is an asshole towards me I'm not interested in her sexually anymore.
No. I require a connection before becoming sexually active with the person. But you can be sexually attractive and still be an asshat, man or woman.
Then you don't experience sexual attraction instinctively when you see attractive person?
That's not what I said at all. Did you read what I wrote?
Yes I read but I didn't get it. Can you explain please?
You can be sexually attracted to someone and still not want to sleep with them simply because you don't have a deeper connection. I need a deeper connection to sleep with someone. But just because I don't have a connection with you doesn't mean I don't find you sexually attractive.
Read the question again then read your comment.
I answered it perfectly fine. Maybe you need to go practice reading comprehension elsewhere before responding to me.
The question was about attraction not act. Didn't you read that?
I can be sexually attracted to woman without connection, but I need to have some mental connection with her before having sex with her.
I had an empty numb feeling inside having no emotional attachment with a woman when I was intimate with her years ago.. won't do that again.
Yes. Most def.
you don't experience sexual attraction instinctively when you see attractive person? before some sort of connection you are asexual?
@QuerulousXytenar I can have a visual attraction sure, but to feel like inviting someone into bed with me I'll need more than his looks.
The question was about attraction not act. Didn't you read that?
@QuerulousXytenar I read all of it. Do you understand the difference between visual attraction and sexual attraction? Someone may be appealing to look at but I don't even THINK about sex with someone based on their looks. I. e., I'm not thinking about sex with anyone who is just appealing to look at. I require a connection before I will be sexually attracted.
Oh!! that means when do you see guys you can visually recognize that they are hot or not but instinctively feel no attraction physically and sexually until some sort of connection? You do see guys in the same ways gay guys see women? Just find that they are visually attractive? Visual attraction what does it feel like? Is it tingle, sensation or something else?
@QuerulousXytenar it's just an appreciation of what I'm looking at. On some rare occasions a guys look can take my breathe away.
it's just an appreciation of what you're looking at? Same as you appreciate attractive women? No difference? When do you see attractive men and women you can just visually recognize them that they are attractive but feel nothing.. it's neutral? Same as gay guy appreciate attractive women? You see men and women in same ways?
@QuerulousXytenar not exactly the same way but similar. I may look to find a connection with an attractive female to be one platonic friends while I may look to find a connection with an attractive guy for more sexual pursuits.
But before connection both men and women are platonic to you? You don't experience any attraction physically and sexually before some sort of connection? Right? Random hot guys do nothing for you and you are totally indifferent about them because you have no connection with them. Is it demisexuality?
@QuerulousXytenar lol no. I'm a very sexual woman. I'll establish a physical attraction to a guy, but not a woman but I won't establish a sexual attraction to that guy unless there's a connection. How many times do I need to say it for you to understand? I think @Browneye57 said it pretty succinctly. Guys and girls are just different.
Guys and girls are just different. Yes!!! It's the thing I want to know. Guys and girls are different. But what is the difference? When do guys see hot girls they find it sexually arousing, it turns them on. Guys feel tingle, sensation, sexual flutter (it is attraction for them). If they didn't feel it towards girls they wouldn't feel any interest to date girls, or to approach girls. They feel it, they feel attraction that's why they show interest and this attraction encourage them... Girls are totally opposite according to you. When do girls see hot girls and hot guys they neutrally find it attractive same as Lesbian women find guys attractive? It doesn't turn them on. Girls don't feel tingle, sensation, sexual flutter (it is not attraction for them). If they didn't feel it towards guys what encourage them to date a guy but not to date a girl? What encourage them if they don't feel anything when they see hot guys? Asexuals also feel nothing when they see hot person. I get confused.
@QuerulousXytenar - it's not that confusing. Girls connect emotionally. Guys connect physically. A girl can get all giddy and fall in love with a guy without ever having sex with him. A guy can but it's much less likely, however if he has sex with her then he's definitely going to connect. It's a difference in the sexes. That's how they're different. And this one... Men love idealistically. Women love opportunistically. Women do a thing called 'provisioning'. They want to know the guy can support her in her lifestyle and with the 84 children she wants to have with him. A rich guy is always more attractive than a poor guy with a similar looks or physique. Women are visually stimulated, but not the say way as men. Having 15-25 times as much testosterone, the sex-drive hormone, makes the guys a different animal from the girls. They simply can't turn it off. A guy with a low sex-drive is likely deficient is some manner.
*... same way as men...
@Browneye57 Aren't your statements too funny and incorrect? Provide peer reviewed journals reference? Women have more estrogen and testosterone has nothing to do with sex drive. Read some recent research. Girls connect emotionally. So, every time when they see rich guy they feel emotion and love? Emotion and love isn't gender specific traits. Girls can emotionally connected to other women because love and emotion is not gender specific traits. Girls are totally opposite according to you. When do girls see hot girls and hot guys they neutrally find it attractive same as Lesbian women find guys attractive? It doesn't turn them on. Girls don't feel tingle, sensation, sexual flutter (it is not attraction for them). If they didn't feel it towards guys what encourage them to date a guy but not to date a girl? What encourage them if they don't feel anything when they see hot guys? Asexuals also feel nothing when they see hot person same as girls also feel indifferent when they see guys?
@QuerulousXytenar - really hard to follow. Likely you're all fouled up on it all. Nevermind. You don't want to hear it, just argue. You'll see how that works out for you in your relationships.
@Browneye57 Read my question again if you have eyes. I am not talking about actually having sex. I am just talking about feeling attraction. You just copy paste some bullshit from internet without providing reference. According to you asexuals and girls have no difference because both don't feel any attraction sexually and physically when they see random hot guys. Because they can't identify that which one is rich. Glad to know that girls are asexual before an emotional connection. And they are totally indifferent to heir opposite sex because they have weaker to no sex drive because of lack of Testosterone. Stop spreading bullshit. May be you didn't understand my question or you are bullshit. Dear older uncle
@Browneye57 You just get older but didn't get brain. 100 times I have mentioned that I am not talking about actual relationship or anything. I am talking about initial attraction.
Haha nope 😛
Why you are lying?
@QuerulousXytenar So I can't find a good looking guy sexually attractive without knowing him? I do have eyes you know 👀
Women said that they don't experience sexual attraction instinctively when they see attractive person before some sort of connection they are as like asexual? they see the guys same gay guys see girls. no attraction, indifferent.
@QuerulousXytenar so you are telling me how I should be feeling?
No. I thought you are lying or trolling because I never heard that women experience sexual attraction instinctively when they see attractive person before some sort of connection. often heard they see the guys same as gay guys see girls. no attraction, indifferent. but do you feel attraction when you see random guys (without talking with them, without any interaction, without knowing about them)
@QuerulousXytenar I sure did when I first met my husband.
Only to your husband in your entire life? I am talking about random hot guys whom never meet before, without any interaction, without knowing them - just from seeing. Visually?
No, but I won't crush on them yet either.
are you asexual?
@QuerulousXytenar not at all, why?
I didn't get you first comment>
their either sexually attractive or not. there's no need for a connection. for attraction. a connection is needed befor. having a sexual relationship with them
I can be sexually attracted to someone without knowing them, but I wouldn't even kiss someone if I didn't have emotional feelings for them.
Yeah. I never even been attracted to a celebrity
Me either
Yes, for me it is a must. I met too many planks, i couldn't feel any mental stimulation to remain together if there is nothing in the head as well as the outside
i think I'd be open to casual sex with close friends, but close friends would be the bar, and even then I don't think it'd be often.
if it was a Romantic connection I'd probably want to have sex as often as possible
Not at all. I can find guys sexually attractive but not to feel connection to them.
No as long as they are willing to serve under my ass and they're not an ass I'm good. Lmao.
Yes. This is why I could never get away with casual sex
you don't experience sexual attraction instinctively when you see attractive person? before some sort of connection you are asexual?
@QuerulousXytenar To me, finding someone attractive is different that finding them sexually attractive so in a sense, yes.
Then what is the difference do you feel when you see hot women and hot men? You can date any gender and can have sex with any gender because you don't experience any attraction instantly.
I can only be sexually attracted to men, I can tell objectively and subjectively if a man or woman is attractive.
You can tell objectively and subjectively if a man or woman is attractive. That's mean you can't recognize opposite attraction when you see them? For example when do we guys see attractive men we can tell objectively and subjectively tell that he is attractive. It's just a neutral acknowledgement. But if we see attractive women then the story is different. Attraction is here. You want to say, how we straight guys see an attractive guy and get no feelings, you also see an attractive guy and get no feelings? Same as asexuals can just acknowledge the person but feel nothing?
@QuerulousXytenar I guess you could put it that way. I've never looked at someone and instantly thought about having sex with them.
Sp, how gay guys feel when they look at girls, you do feel the same when you look at guys? Indifferent?
Not exactly. I can find people sexually attractive without even talking to them. However, I wouldn't actually want to take part in anything without a connection.