I have been comparing myself back then when I had active sex life and now that I have been abstaining from it.
What I noticed is that, at that time I felt very secure, extremely confident, optimistic, content, I was never anxious about anything. I felt like I owned the world.
I don’t know if it has any connection but seems like I tend to get anxious a bit more easily now than back then.
Does it have any connection?
It sounds like an active sex life with someone you’re in love with is an important part of your own self-expression and fulfillment.
By not having someone to express that part of you with, it’s almost as if you are holding back from fully spreading your wings.
You probably feel on top of the world when you are free to fully express yourself in all ways.
It’s just that right now, you haven’t found anyone suitable enough to do that with, because you’re looking to find someone single that’s attractive who you can connect with deeply.
But you haven’t found them yet.
Isn’t everybody same? I am indeed the most fulfilled when I have active sex life. Just like others, I think. Because It gives me a safe way to express my inner side, which otherwise is suppressed. Everybody’s got a part of personality you don’t show everyone and sex can be a safe way to express it. Without expressing it, it gets accumulated in you and doesn’t really affect you in a good way. Because the balance is no longer there. So you feel unbalanced. And you’ve got to suppress of big part of your personality. I don’t know for others but I am a very sexual being, I can’t hide it for too long 🤣 But I am also very romantic and love to enjoy myself with a man.
This guy nailed it. Well said.
*with a man I love - forgot to write in the end
I remember some experiments with pheromones where, if I can recall correctly, if you give a shirt that a man already wore to a woman, I believe it helped regulate her menstrual cycle. I'm sure you can find tons on Google. Just type in "Male sweat boosts female hormone levels". and there is article in ScienceDaily. Hormones are incredibly powerful too that have radical implications on mood. I'm sure there's tons of other anecdotal info but unfortunately endocrinology is not my forte. May I ask why you are abstaining at present?
I am single and I don’r want to have sex out of relationship.
from a healthcare stand point, it actually can, when you have sex or masturbate and climax, it releases dopamine, your body can get used to that high and release. but also it decreases cortisol, which your body’s stress hormone. there is absolute correlation between no masturbation/sex and the mind/mental state.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!So are you saying that you don't feel that way anymore it was more intense back in the day that's because you probably just let it happen no expectations you just went for it
Depends on your reason for abstaining.
My reason is I don’t want to have sex unless I feel deep romantic connection and a trust to a man.
So you’re demisexual? Nothing wrong with that.
I am not really demisexual. I just have these standards that are really deeply rooted in my brain and makes it impossible for me to allow myself to have sex without romantic feelings. It doesn’t mean I don’t feel sexual attraction to others, I do feel. But I don’t and can’t act on it because of my firm belief that my body should only be shared with someone who’ll love and accept my “soul” first. I have always refused to have sex without love and I have only had one partner, my ex fiancé. I wouldn’t like to change the way I am thinking. It has proven to be beneficial for me. But, it’s indeed frustrating at times 😅
I don't know , sometimes abstaining can be a great feeling , not quite sure how to describe , that " on the edge " feeling..
Really , I dont think its a bad thing for mental health , I think it can be a positive.
It would for me
I think having a sex life that is very different from the one you want can be stressful, and probably have a variety of mental health side effects.
Absolutely. The hormones released/exchanged are very powerful
Probably, what do you honestly think
Can do. But is it just the physical act your abstaining from or the emotional connections you'll make with people? Would you date someone without having sex on the table, so you have the emotional bond just not the physical?
It certainly seems to, yes. If you are doing it by choice, it's probably better than feeling helpless.
I am doing it by choice. Yes, I can imagine.
Absolutely. That’s why a healthy sex life is so important. I do think abstinence can be a good lifestyle for shorter periods of time, but I think it takes more than just not having sex.
Having sex releases so many chemicals in your body - you are wired by evolution to enjoy sex and you'll be able to relax more easily if you can have an orgasm every now and again.
I wouldn't make a hard and fast rule about it.
Do you still masturbate?
Still a virgin, so 🤷🏻
Of course. Getting laid makes almost everyone happy.
Yes, I haven't had sex for a long time and I'm definitely more depressed/anxious
I am asexual. So no. Other things affect my mental and emotional health. Not that.
I would drive me crazy... but then again I'm a very horny teen guy. Does your question include masturbation?
I fail to understand how abstaining from sex would include abstaining from masturbation? Sex means sex, masturbation means masturbation and the latter cannot replace the former.
I just wanted to clarify... that's all.
For me, yes, but positively. When I was younger I would hit almost any willing adult female. Over the past seven years I have limited myself to ONLY while in a relationship. I respect myself far more now than I did then.
Yes, this is all correct.
Absolutely
No. Being sexual restrained keeps the mind healthy. Better controlled and discipline. Sex is a wonderful thing. But don't want to become carried away. Also don't want to make regrets either ☺️
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