Of course they're a privilege. Like MrOracle said, the other, worse situation is for either of you to get lazy or take each other for granted. I had a shrink tell me in college that one's commitment to a relationship is proportional to one's investment in it and NOT one's profit from it. I found that profound and extremely useful in assessing what's going on in a relationship from time to time. He also said that in happy, successful relationships, the emotional investment of the two parties is roughly equal over time. While I'm adamantly opposed to using sex as a weapon in a relationship, I do think it's okay to use it as an incentive from time to time. You might gives some thought to working on getting really good at giving head and then negotiating for what you want. Really good head to me means deep throat and the need for me to be somewhat forceful sometimes but that's just me.
Of course it's a privilege. I love a BJ, but I wouldn't want it if my girl didn't want to do it, and I understand that a girl might not be up for it every time. That's no problem at all.
BUT... be careful that you don't start getting lazy either. That's an easy slope to start down (for him too!), and once you start doing that and stop appreciating your partner (and showing your appreciation!), your relationship can grow stale quickly. I'm not suggesting that a BJ is always the answer by any means; it's just that BOTH of you should be making an effort to make each other happy, and that occasionally means doing a bit of work you don't really want to do, because the other partner would really appreciate it. For him, that may mean oral, or buying you flowers, or taking you out on a "date", or whatever.
Neither. Its something you do because its pleasurable for you and your partner
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Based on that, everything in that is a privilege. But if you're not extending enough privileges to your partner (and I mean that overall, not as in privileges = X blowjobs per week, everything sex, non sex, all of it), you can anticipate the privilege of being single.
this.
relationships are a privilege. so bj's are as well. now just because relationships are a privilege doesn't mean that person can't have a fair expectations for some things within it
Privilege.
Being in a relationship is a privilege. At no point do you ever own the person to begin with.
If I say it's a "right" then I condone sexual slavery and abuse.
If I say it's a "privilege" then I endorse the idea of standard sexual inequality based on selfish individual wants.
I lose either way.
Any attention from another person is a privilege. You're privileged I'm answering this question.
I think it's very reasonable to make it known that sometimes it won't happen.
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