Guys, do you think blowjobs are a submissive sex act?

[Anonymous]

[Lliam]

Yeah, kind of. When a woman kneels before a man like a supplicant and services him, it feels that way. It's one of the things about blowjobs that turns guys on.

Sucking dick may seem a submissive act, but it's not demeaning. A blowjob is like a loving gift from a woman. But what about eating pussy? It that a submissive act? It's one sided, even if the person doing it really enjoys it. I mean, women love cock and men love pussy, plus it's a joy to get your partner off. Therefore, it may seem one sided (submissive). But is it if both parties enjoy it? And it's amazing when your partner really enjoys and even craves performing oral.

Along the same line, I would also say that it's submissive for a woman to get fucked. She has to open herself up. The sex act, itself, is rather aggressive on the man's part. Her is larger, stronger and in charge. The woman can fully participate with enthusiasm, but she is still the receiver. In a way, it seems like he is using her, but most women love being used. The idea gets them off. And the more she gets off, the more he gets off. So it's really a mutual thing. It's the nature of sex for the woman to be the one getting fucked.

So, I think some women make a mistake by worrying about appearing submissive because it's the nature of the two sexes, of sexual dimorphism.

[razelove]

No, getting tied up, spanked, or choked while begging for more is a submissive act. I've found going down on each other to be more an act of combined pleasure and curiosity. How else do you find out what your partner tastes like, and in a setting with fine manipulation what they enjoy?

If anything the person receiving oral is in the submissive position. They're laying back spread-eagle with their genitals in hands and mouth. Add rope and a vibrator, you can turn pleasure into torture. Not so if you're the one controlling the pace, if/when someone gets off, what they feel or don't.

Why, do you believe that to be an act of submission or something?

[MrOracle]

While it often is, it can certainly be done without it being submissive, sure. Context and attitude are the determining factor.

[DrunkAss]

I associate it that way. I can't control the situation unless we're talking face-fucking.

[DrunkAss]

Submission to me is like she's in control of my pleasure. I don't like it. Dominance to me is like I'm in control of hers. I like it.

[NamerOfStars]

It can be, sure. But it needn't. There's both the "you're the motive force providing all the stimulation" angle and the "you have his penis in between your teeth" angle.

[HugoThe2nd]

They can be either way.
The way *I* enjoy them, is when the woman is in the submissive role, just like any other time during sex.

[ChrisMaster69]

Hmm, as they are no, then can actually be almost dominant.

It depends a lot on the context.

being told to kneel, hands behind back and just to lean forward using mouth to pleasure the cock, then yes that’s submissive,

pushing a guy back on the bed, holding him down and going at his cock, that’s almost Dominant.

then other times it’s just vanilla

[Red_Arrow]

Yes. But that does not mean that the gal is seen as inferior. For that act she is pleasuring the guy. And hopefully he will return the favor often. All relationships contain dominant and submissive elements.
If he considers you inferior somehow, then it is a bad relationship. Change the relationship or change the guy you are with.

[summiter]

Good? but I do not think so. I hope that when I got blowjobs or handjobs for that matter that the girl wanted to give me a great orgasm and did not mind what she was doing. If I give a girl oral (which I love to do) does it mean I'm submissive? Your thoughts?

[Leavesbound]

They are often perceived as such but don't have to be. It's hard for me to view a woman giving me oral sex as her being submissive if she is sitting on my face while doing it.

[The_Maphio]

Hardly submissive, considering that from lips to teeth there's hardly a centimeter.
Dude's better behave while his cock's in your mouth.

[slatyb]

It's a giving act, not any more submissive than giving a back rub.