Do you think having a sexket list a silly idea? Also would you be happy to partake in things you may have/ not done before?

[19magic]

There's so many things I've always wanted to do, but now I'm growing older and don't feel ready for a relationship just yet, I keep wondering if all these things I want to do will be just that a curiosity or a wonder. When your older is there as much experimentation as younger relationships?

[MannMitAntworten]

There is far more experimentation in a monogamous ‘relationship’ than in casual fucking. Significantly more... Unless fucking in a bar’s women’s restroom, a bar’s parking lots or some deserted road is on that ‘list’ or maybe a threesome or whatever from some randoms you met at a bar... the experimental aspect will seldom go beyond those things mentioned from random casual fucking.

[19magic]

I'm just worried that when I feel ready for dating and then actually manage to find a guy it's all going to be this is what I like and I don't want to partake in anything else that I know I won't like anyway

[MannMitAntworten]

Sleeping around will never alleviate that issue. Just involve yourself with someone compatible for you and you for him.

[19magic]

I've already learned that, went through a rough patch and gained a daughter, I've only done the deed about 16/17 times and that's through ons and a couple of flings, there's always been so much curiosity I have and just worried as you grow older the less of that there will be, haven't done anything in 2 years now and a good about of time I feel ashamed of my past and still working through it and getting my life sorted so wanted to have some hope

[MannMitAntworten]

Well, I personally could careless about the number of men the women I sleep with have been with. I do know however that is not the norm for most men as most, especially these days seem to prefer virgins so I’d caution you in being promiscuous at all. Not to mention your being a single mother only further causes most men to take huge steps back. Whereas I get where you are coming from, men in general can be funny about things like this. But it is as I said, I could care less as it makes zero difference to me. So, I can only assume I am not the only man who feels as I do. Se are simply the tiny minority.

[19magic]

Yeah I already knew that when I decided to keep most of my friends told me to just get an abortion and I can have my dream of children when I get married otherwise no man would want me. I'm not naive enough to believe all of that, but do recognise the implications of being a single mother. I have found in the past relationships OK but ons are more of a no go in what's acceptable in today's typical mindsets, but I'm not looking for anything right now and will meet someone down the line

[MannMitAntworten]

Down the line? When is “down the line” for you?

[19magic]

Probably in a year or two, but a friends ma found someone a couple of years back her only daughter is the same age as me so there's hope, I don't want to have to wait till I'm forty to experience a relationship though but I'm not rushing anything

[MannMitAntworten]

Definitely don’t wait till your 30’s either. I dated a lot in my 30’s into my now 40’s. Only one was worth getting involved with and even that ended up being short lived. Relationships are easiest to find in our 20’s.

[integrale77]

Sounds like a good idea making a list even if it's just a mental list.
Your plenty young yet so plenty of time to mark things off the list.

Also you don't have to commit to social norms these days so don't feel you have to be in a relationship to experience sex that also opens your lost to things beyond being a couple!

[swettannie]

a lot of 40+ womens realise that they loose a lot of opportunity and all and are sad about that, so... try to do what you want to do

[Jjpayne]

Girls ask guys is kind of that mental list for me. It makes me mindful of the fun things to try with a future partner and it's a fun and useful brainstorm to do

[VanillaSalt]

Don’t wait.. your value is high right now but I’m 10 years you won’t be new and hot to most guys... find a good man now and tie him down or they will all blow away and be taken... there’s literally movements to get men to completely leave women if you wait until your not a 20 year old hottie anymore your gonna have a hard time in ways we cannot predict...


Also men don’t want a woman with many partners... they want a woman who can bond with them and as few others as possible.

[wankiam]

two points...
you dont need to be in a relationship to explore your sexuality etc. infact not being in a relationship means less complications.
there's no rush either and i can assure you at 53 its all still just as exciting ;)

[Dargil]

I think we become more experimental and less conventional as we get older. I have fiddled with things I never would have 10 years ago.

[chriscdi]

whats a sexket?

[19magic]

It's a play on bucket list

[chriscdi]

oh i see

[19magic]

So do yiu think it's silly

[chriscdi]

nah not at all

[RevScott]

As you mature you will find yourself thinking "WTF was I thinking?" over many things some done, some
not done. Its the result of emotional Maturity. Dont sweat it

[Valnac]

When you get more mature you know what you like and go for it.

[Walldo06]

Whats on your sexket list?

[19magic]

there's many many things I wanna do, just worried that I probably won't date for a couple of years and by then everyone will have their likes and that's that

[abc--123]

I have one. Unfortunately haven't gotten to tick anything off in a long time

[gandolph3]

Most older people are still curious