Do you think he likes her more than me sexually?

Question

So my boyfriend wanted a threesome, I said yes because I thought it would be fun. He chose his ex girlfriend to partner us, wasn't thrilled about it but he said he has no feelings for her just a bit of fun. I went with it. During the threesome I noticed her boobs were much bigger than mine, mine are small. So I guess I wasn't surprised when he seemed to enjoy sucking on her boobs more than mine. He would moan in sheer ecstasy but when he sucked mine I could tell he wasn't as turned on, I was a little jealous to be honest. He spent more time enjoying her than me and I wasn't impressed. He also chose to finish off with her as well, once again not impressed. At one point when he was inside me he actually turned his head and they were both full on tongue kissing, both moaning like I haven't heard him do with me and while doing that he had one hand fondling her nipples, I just wonder if he finds her more sexy and whether she gets him off better, is it possible he still wants to be with her rather than me. I'm a little disillusioned now.

maz82 · Accepted Answer

Wow, that's a pretty unusual situation! I'm surprised you said yes to involving one of his ex's. If it was a complete stranger to both of you, that might well have been easier emotionally for you.
Still, back to your question! Do I think your boyfriend is more turned on by his ex than you? I'm not sure, but on the face of your story, then I'd say it's possible. He might have been extremely excited about the fact that he hadn't been in that (threesum with two females ) before - and fair enough, as a lot of guys don't get that chance! I have had a threesum with two females before that worked really well, as I was friends with benefits with one of the girls, and both were into the other girl, but none of us were a couple. ..
If I was having a mmf threesum with my girlfriend, there's no way I would want to have an ex of her's involved, and would be equally as miffed if I could see she was enjoying things more with him than me - and I think you're right to feel unhappy about the unequal time and attention spent on you vs the ex... and that he finished off with her too (he should have been able to cum for both of you! Lol)
I'm not sure if that's any help for you, but hope it's something :-)

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

he was so much more into her than you in bed... says he's very self-centered in your relationship and self-centered people cheat so 99% chance he has had sex with her a LOT without inviting you.

Personally, if I am really into a woman I would never want to risk what we have over a threesome. If we were married for many years & trusted each other 1000% maybe.

Randomawkwardness · Accepted Answer

He was a complete jerk to suggest doing it with his ex. Paying more attention to his last partner was rude and I wouldn't be suprised if that the first time that they had messed around before the three some while you were together.

browneyedgirl88 · Accepted Answer

that sounds like a disaster, i would hate that. I would never have a threesome because of that and I don't think I would be able to stay with someone after

iamdesperate · Accepted Answer

Your feelings are not unfounded. The other girl being sexy knows well how to please a guy in threesome. Better to improve your sexual capability.

janne13r · Accepted Answer

Sounds like he was just trying to make an excuse to have sex with her.

bored_unicorn · Answer

Sex isn't the whole relationship fam. He may be more attracted to her physically, but he's with and for you romantically. If he wasn't, then he would have left.

Just remember that she might be good for sex, but that means nothing when there's so much more to a partnership than that.

Robsinsf53 · Answer

I have stated repeatedly on here to people considering a threesome not to do it because nothing good will come of it. I've also stated once you do it, you'll chase that old relationship you used to have but..., you realize it is gone. I guess i didn't respond to yours. If you think its coming back, its not. Another thing i freely preach on here is counseling. That doesn't work on here because a third party is involved. Sorry, the sooner the better!

madgoat · Answer

Well he wanted to relive old times and you let him. And with an ex. But I guess you get that now.
Bigger problem is he wants to do it again.
He may physically like her better but they broke up for a reason. You may still be the better package.
He needs to sort his head out. If he chooses you, he never sees the ex again.

jbf101 · Answer

He might be more physically attracted but it doesn't mean he would be happier with her. probably shouldn't have got her in a threesome but I'd recommend reminding him why they broke up. And think about if your comfortable inviting her into the bedroom again (though if it's just physical attraction, dont necessarily rule it out).

Intraluminal · Answer

Not to put too fine a point on it, but threesomes are for kids who *need* to experiment and possibly break up.

VirginiaBeachBum · Answer

Threesome rule #1: No exes ever! Now you know why.

Kipsies56 · Answer

I'm sorry but you Should have never don't it with the ex

Texasmade1 · Answer

I dont think threesome is bad at all, but not with exes. Because it brings doubts

03FreeBird14 · Answer

If I were you I would have dumped him and told him to go back with his ex since from what you said in your message that is he honestly doesn't care for you and is just using you for a sex toy or a third wheel, this is just my opinion but I think you can do a whole lot better than some guy that treats you like your nothing when the two of are together and as far as the threesome idea, I myself wouldn't have done it I would only use the idea as fantasy tool when we are getting it on coz as what happened to you and girl that was very wrong for him to do that and for you to allow him to do it but now you know so kick him to the curb an move on coz there is plenty of fish in the see of love who won't treat you like shit!

anoddtod · Answer

no ex sex

bekkesmash · Answer

Threesomes almost always ruin relationships. And yeah I do think he is more sexually attracted to her than you.

Humbledman74006 · Answer

ex is always a bad choice

Ryno13 · Answer

he's trying to pull the wool over your eyes

Anonymous · Answer

if she was truly an ex he wouldn't want anything to do with her. so now old feelings has come up. the threesome wasn't the issue but him choosing his "ex" girlfriend was. it would of been better to choose a stranger or a friend you two share. anyways at this point you either become a cuckqueen and let him continue, start an open relationship with him or leave him.