Do you think he was the guy that taken advantage of me. Is this sexual assault?

[Anonymous]

so I was pretty much blackout drunk at a party which is weird because I didn’t drink that much and my friend who drank more remembers her entire night I remember talking to these guys,

after that I remember nothing other than him dragging me by the arm to go outside and being down an ally way him dragging my head down to give him oral I have no idea what I was doing and barely remember. On my texts at 1:55 I was texting fine then by 2:15 everything is a gibberish mess and I wasn’t with my friend or bought anymore drinks but all I remember is that and him trying to penetrate me till he realised I was on my period….

it seemed like he disappeared and his friend now tried to come over but I told him to go away, some other guy comes over down this ally way and he’s shoving his boner into me asking if I want to have sex I told him no I do not, not here not with you I’m not ready, and at one point he forcefully kissed me and grabs my butt.

I don’t know if this was all the same guy or not because another guy helps me get home walks around in the rain with me for two hours till I get a taxi and even refuses to kiss me for the rest of the night telling me that would be taking advantage (but I’m pretty sure he’s the one that said do you want to have sex, I remember the accent) and I remember saying “why not you kissed me 5 min ago” he said the difference is you are drunk. But all of this happened within the space of about 35 min

[Caliguy88]

You need to be more careful and hopefully have friends that have your back if you are that drunk. I think I do a really good job of not hooking up with drunk girls even if I like them and they are all about it…. But you need to be able to fend the guys that would off. Sounds like that might be your fault but that doesn’t make it ok that he took a bj from a real drunk girl

[Asker]

I mean i know whoever the guy who taken me outside from my friend and coxed me into giving him oral is pretty much scum but this other guy I’m just super confused as to why he kissed me and grabbed my butt very very quickly as if he wanted to do it just to do it then never even touched me for the rest of the night and refused to kiss me again or even hug me (I asked for a hug cause I was cold and he’s like no) but he literally kissed me and grabbed me for those 10 secs the mind boggles I’d like to hope he didn’t think oh drunk girl i probably won’t get this opportunity for a while let me kiss her just once to get it over with and then do the right thing I don't know bc he was super nice and got me home and texted my mum

[Caliguy88]

Well he tad some new information at that point…..

[Asker]

Yeah after we kissed he went on my phone and seen drunken senseless gibberish texts to my mum then he started refusing anything with me

[Caliguy88]

Doesn’t take much sometimes. And if there is drinking etc it’s not always logical

[TakingitEasy15243]

Definitely not assault especially since you remember asking him for a kiss. Don't get to far into your head but I strongly recommend never drinking as much again.

[Asker]

But isn’t it fucked up he taken me out of the party in that state for his own pleasure like what the fuck disgusting I think maybe it wasn’t the same guy or maybe he realised how drunk I was and decided it was wrong and wanted to help me go home I’m not sure. But I guess I should just forget it’s over

[TakingitEasy15243]

This is all I can comment, were built different. I've had sex with a ton of girls and sometimes in the most unlikely scenarios. Sounds like the good took his shot with you, then saw you were communication with his mom so backed off. How quickly you were out of it is interesting though, almost as if you were drugged but I really doubt it. Someone would've noticed

[Anonymous]

Can you please suck my dick?