Do you think I was rude?

[Anonymous]

This guy who has a face I find unattractive and I am also not dating once started blowing kisses at me

I found it gross and creepy since his face is unattractive to me and I am also not dating him

Anyway I told him to stop blowing kisses at me. Afterwards he told me he was trying to be nice by blowing kisses at me and I should stop being rude

[btbc92]

Not really. He was harassing you and be it if he was attractive or not, that is not appropriate and he needs to stop. What mattered is that you didn't like it and he needed to respect your feelings. Being nice is not that. Him blowing kisses is not right. It is immature. And it is rude. It made you uncomfortable and he should understand that. But he should not tell you to stop being rude. I know what it's like to feel uncomfortable but also not picking up social cues growing up. Once I realized others don't like you for many reasons. I don't get involved. I simply don't do that. He may be doing that to try to fit in, but you politely tell him to not do it again. But once he said and told you not to be rude simply because you weren't uncomfortable, you owed him no explanation.

[Asker]

A lot of people can’t really control who they find attractive but too be honest I probably think I would have been more accepting and less creeped out if I found him handsome This guy looks wise was not attractive to me. He just didn’t suit my taste. I feel I can’t control what appeals to me

[Asker]

For example being homosexual and heterosexual is not really a choice. People can’t control who they find attractive

[btbc92]

Asker, we CAN control who wand what we find attractive. I don't care if he is Chatum Tatum. If a man disrespects you you do not tolerate it. Because it shows hypocricy on your part and if you end up with a bad guy, you cannot complain and say where is the good men are. I am not saying this guy was a good man, a good man definitely wouldn't treat a woman so poorly. But if your behavior is to a "good looking guy" is like. Sigh, you can have me anytime attitude, and he is a good guy, I will tell you by experience, they will not date women who have your behavior either. They're put off by that. For men, a woman is a woman. If you treat any guy bad, they all will assume you will treat all of them bad. Period. Homosexuality and heterosexuality are very much a choice. A lot of people haven't been taught properly about that. No matter what you feel, think, or want. A man cannot be with another man sexually, a woman cannot be with another woman sexually. While the world may not find anything wrong with it, God cannot honor it. Because only a penis can be in the vagina and a vagina is meant to accommodate a penis. That's it. It's your life, you do what you like. But treat guys like that in general a lot of men will not approach or consider you except the players and creeps and others with no good intent. Remember men have feelings TOO. The last they want is a horny girl or woman coming to him because he's handsome.

[btbc92]

A man as a woman needs to see you and will judge you by your character. How you portray yourself, your beliefs, values, etc. They are not going to concern too much about your appearance because appearance for the most part can be deceiving. You hear plenty of attractive young women not able to find such guys because of this behavior alone. You don't date creeps, no. But if your anything but ladylike, you'll only keep wishing for an Aragon while you end up with Christian Grey. Unless Christian Grey is your thing. Don't look for an Aragon. He may respectfully decline or appreciate the attention but not date you. I'm not here to attack you personally but just giving you the heads up. Listen to these men on here. Plenty has spoken out against women who have your behaviors of "Eww he's unattractive, no way I'm dating him!" to "Wow, he's handsome, he'll get my number." That is a no-no. If a man treated you like that and he didn't personally know you, nope. I've seen girls get rejected because of the type of character and standards those girls have and some of those guys look at me because of my quietness and moral values. And I am not attractive myself and they pay attention to me while your pinning for their affections or attention. The same way you say you can't help it, well then I can only hope you can respect when a man you may want because of his attractiveness doesn't feel the same way. You'll wish he loved and pay attention to you too. Treat others how you also wished to be treated. Because everybody to a certain degree is looking for love. Because once your attractiveness and body use sexually is practically gone, they'll just find another woman. You don't want that in a man, be a woman who a good man wants and needs to be attracted to. Because I learned very early, physical beauty only gets you so far as your personality does.

[btbc92]

Channing Tatum* my bad for the spelling.

[Woodsy05]

I think he was being really creepy and rude. Regardless of any previous interaction you had with him, there is no need for that type of behavior among adults.

[lpoots]

the defnition of rude is
offensively impolite or bad-mannered.

he was actually this
it is sexual harrsement

[Guffrus]

Nope, I think he is a twat.

[SherideenJo]

No you weren't

[FilmGuy93]

His behavior weird, I think you are/were justified in putting your foot down.

[Iron_Man]

Yes don’t be rude

[eyekneepain]

Nah he was rude

[dray995]

No, you didn’t respond rudely.

[Alwayshornyyyyy]

Not at all you were very polite

[CubaPirate]

Not rude just assertive. Well done for speaking out

[TimlovesKristine]

No you were not rude at all and did what you needed to do

[JesseJayNeak]

That's harassment