Do you think it means I am unattractive if I am still a virgin by the age of 30?

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  • Sometimes it does, but not in the way you probably think.

    Even girls who are below-average in looks don't have trouble getting laid, and few girls are physically bad-looking enough that they'd have trouble getting sex (a relationship perhaps, but not casual sex). But attractiveness for most people, even most men, is more than just looks.

    If a guy thinks a girl is prudish, or so religious that it would be a distraction during sex or kill all her enthusiasm, or that she would be super-clingy and/or needy and/or planning a wedding after having sex, he's going to find THAT unattractive, and might avoid sex with her for those reasons, even if she was beautiful. Yes, some guys would bang her and just ghost her in an effort to avoid those issues, but more guys than you think would just decline.

    Girls who are virgins at 30 usually have some development issues - they are afraid of sex or can't grow up (Peter Pan syndrome) or had some kind of abuse in their past, and those things are also often unattractive, and a lot of guys would be looking for that kind of red flag, and would run away if they discovered one.

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  • Possibly, but not necessarily physically. Other things can be unattractive. It could be something about your attitude, demeanor or behavior that you aren't conscious of. You could be repelling guys without knowing it just by the vibes you're putting out. I don't know. I don't know you so I'm not saying that's what's happening.

    By the way. The age on your profile says 18-24. That's a long way from 30.
    Maybe you just haven't met the right guy yet. Are you putting yourself out there?

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  • Maybe you had circumstances in life that kept you busy and deterred you from finding a boyfriend... Trust me the bar is very low. You could be ugly, unemployed, dumb and still have a lover... It's all about location and circumstances.

    However your self esteem should not be depended on whether you find a lover or not..

    If you spend all your time trying to make yourself happy you'll forget that you don't have a mate... and it doesn't matter because you are having way too much fun...

    It only matters whether you have a mate or not when you are lonely and perhaps sad.

    And people who suppress their desires and dont have enough fun in life often find themselves lonely...

    Lighten up on yourself a little... do things you always wanted to do... being happy makes you more attractive

  • No it doesn't mean anything, I dated a lot of guys, been in 2 long relationships, some guys thinks I'm attractive, but I'm still a virgin because I still don't feel ready it. Could be mental, or something else. Yes some guys did stop dating me when they found out I didn't want to have sex, some even tried waiting and after a couple of months they ended it. Which I was okay with, didn't really bother me because I understood, I'm even friends with some of them lol.

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  • Nope. Deciding whether or not to have sex has nothing to do with whether or not you are attractive by societal standards. That's just a personal choice no matter how old you get.

  • No, you could simply just be dressing poorly. Nobody is into a girl in t-shirts… do you own leather pants, nice sweaters, ankle boots…

    • For women with smaller chest, t shirt no bra = 👌

  • No nothing wrong with it and has nothing to do with attractiveness... but why waste away your 20’s sexless... it’s prime time for sex

    • 20s prime years for sex? that will always be debateable, but i sometimes feel that way as well

  • There can be many reasons including personal choice and not finding a suitable partner.

  • No. it means you have high standards and you dodged some permanently bad health bullets. Hold out until you find someone worthwhile. In the interim, educate yourself about the nature and transmissability of STIs and STDs.

  • It's easy for women to find sex, even unattractive ones, you likely virgin by choice.

  • Not at all. If anything I would admire that

  • Nope

  • No it only means you are on the right track

    • LOL Yeah, you only get on your knees for Jesus. "Enter me Jesus." 🤣

    • @Lliam if you are religious I am atheist and I feel people should stay away from marriage and bringing more kids onto this world

    • Oh, I see what you meant. I'm an agnostic, myself. And I never wanted kids. My wife and are are glad we don't have any. But I do believe in marriage. After over 25 years together, we couldn't be happier.

  • Not necessarily unattractive. We would need to know more about if and how you are trying to lose it before a more complete answer can be given. Many men will take what’s offered, so I doubt it’s that you are trying and failing.

  • An ugly woman could easily still have sex before she reaches 30 years old

    If you wanted to have sex before 30 then it's not that you're ugly it's that you're doing something wrong

  • Could easily mean shy or selective. Do you get invited out?

  • The act of being a virgin doesn't make you unattractive but some may see that as not having anyone who wants you sexually.

  • I doubt it that you are unattractive, my sister didn't lose her virginity until age 32, when my niece was conceived

  • Not necessarily. But I think it does mean that you aren't even trying to have sex. Girls could be butt ugly and find a guy willing to have sex with them by the end of the day online if they tried.

  • Nope, it could mean lots of things...
    Virginity doesn't mean as much as people seem to think either... vastly overrated in my opinion.
    It's just sex... I don't know, maybe you'll have some someday and agree or not... either way, good luck, have fun :-)

  • Safe yourself after marriage 🙏🏻💞

  • Why would that make you unattractive?
    You may be a virgin for many reasons, including choice. A guy/girl could find you attractive or unattractive for many reasons, including your character, appearance, life experiences and more.
    How do you feel yourself about being a virgin?

  • Not at all. Are you saving yourself for marriage

  • No of course not

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