Do you think it must mean I am ugly if I am still a virgin by the age of 30?

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I’m not religious by the way

OpenClose · Accepted Answer

I'm also a virgin at 30. I don't think I'm half-bad looking, I'm pretty tall, make a good living, have a big (if empty) house. I'm pretty easy to talk to, am usually a mediator rather than an instigator, and am a sucker for a lot of the romantic stuff a lot of guys gag at.

I know it sounds like I'm trying to humble-brag or something, but that's not my point. My point is I don't consider my virginity to be caused by a lack of desirability. I'm well aware of why I'm a virgin. I don't get out and party much. Most of my hobbies are solitary. And I'm not a very sexually-forward guy, having had some bad experiences and knowing women who have had bad experiences with men. So I'm not exactly out flirting with a bunch of girls.

I'm sure it's similar for you. You're probably plenty desirable, but just have your own reasons why life hasn't gotten you to that point.

Like I mean I totally get it. It's hard to keep the self-esteem up if it feels like there isn't the evidence to justify it. And being sexually-frustrated is NOT fun. But I don't want you to feel like it is because you are undesirable or unworthy of love.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I have always gotten attention from girls but was a virgin until I was 26. I was painfully shy and because of that I lacked confidence. It had nothing to do with my looks. The first time I had sex, I had trouble getting hard 'cause I was so nervous. The girl thought it was because I didn't find her attractive. One of my worst experiences! At least you don't have to worry about getting it up when the time comes!

tomorrow2839 · Accepted Answer

No, you are not ugly Loosing virginity is a big deal, dont rush, take your time, when it comes, it will happen.

Jkyutipi · Accepted Answer

No not ugly. Just unconfident Maybe. Or maybe asexual

TheorionMage · Answer

Sounds like you haven't wanted the social and emotional complications~  Its YOUR decision and right!

ushagomez · Answer

No. You have just not found the right guy to ride.

SamIam96 · Answer

have you had opportunities to loose your virginity and not followed through?

DonkeyDan · Answer

No, maybe you're just very shy.

Dargil · Answer

Have you had opportunity for sex but declined it?

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

How may guys have asked you to sleep with them?

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Not necessarily. What do you think is the reason?
I was a 35yr old virgin. I had a mental block for opening up and being vulnerable. I worked with a shrink for a few weeks within a couple of months I was in a relationship.

exitseven · Answer

No, everyone has their own life circumstances and had different ideas about sex.

Sophia001 · Answer

Life is too short

genericname85 · Answer

not necessarily. maybe you just avoided guys xD

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Chances are it's something else. Plenty of ugly people get laid.

Iron_Man · Answer

No..,,

Nagatoro · Answer

Is it by choice or literally because no one wants to push the meat stick into the croissant?

joeldalton · Answer

It's more than ugly. Any woman can get laid any time she wants.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

No, I do not. Being a virgin has nothing to do with whether you're religious or not, but everything to do with the fact that you haven't found someone you think is right for you.