Do you think it's incredibly hard for men to get sex?

I keep hearing this and it always blows my mind. What are the reasons for you feeling as you do about this situation?
Yes. It's extremely hard for a man to get sex.
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No. If he knows what he's doing, he should be able to get it.
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Meh. :)
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  • Not incredibly hard, but it does take a good deal of effort, especially if the guy isn't outgoing. The difficult part is that guys pretty much have to take the initiative. They're not likely to be approached in day-to-day life, so they have to go out and be among people in certain social environments, and usually do the approaching. Not a problem for outgoing types, but not easy for others.

    I think that's the disconnect. Average, moderately extroverted/outgoing guys can usually fashion some sort of connections to establish sexual relationships. Looks don't matter that much, since there's a whole range of women with different expectations and preferences out there. It's the awkward or shy types who have a difficult time making the right social connections, and so sometimes get the idea that the pursuit of sex and relationships is incredibly difficult or nearly impossible. Of course, it's difficult for shy/introverted women too. The only difference is that they're more likely to be approached.

    Personally, I've had zero prospects for sex for quite a while now, but that's because I don't make an effort. I'm not going to go to a bar or club or something, and while I would consider approaching a woman in day-to-day life, I'm not going to actually do so unless I've been around them enough first to get a sense of their personality.

  • "Yes. It's extremely hard for a man to get sex." cuz
    #1. Dick has no value in this world. So with that being said "they (we) usually have to work for it (sex)", right?

    #2. They can't tell when a girl is "throwing the pussy at" them (clueless).

    #3 They're average looking,

    #4. Average lookings guys aren't coveted enough as to where girls "approach them" looking for hookups on average (they usually want the hotter dudes).

    #5 They're fucking ugly.

    #6 They're fucking WEIRD around girls. Ya know to the point where "they take pussy right off their dick" without even knowing it. When if they would have played it cool + got ___ in a room alone they could have got they dick sucked HAHAHA.

    #6 Girls don't "give it" away" to guys, guys do and will to girls tho.

    #7 Some guys "shoot to high" on the rating scale. And it's not a secret that the "cuter" ___ is, that the more options she has, right? So yeah you're going to be competing with the "hot guys" in a fight that you probably aren't going to win? Cuz she'll be looking right through ya anyways. So why not go "flirt with the girl" who's sitting in the corner alone? Since your chances of getting some will go up by 500%

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    • got their D sucked*

    • Lol!!!

    • LMAO I'm just keeping it real "I've seen ____ throw ____ some pussy" but his dumbass was too much of a pussy to "come at her" or was "trying to play it safe" via not wanting to offend her by saying something "wrong" LOL.

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  • It's not. These guys just have no game lol
    I know guys who are poor and ugly, yet they can get sex without too much effort. And no, they're not rich.

    I will concede that men have a harder time than women.
    But these guys exaggerate as if women make them fight a dragon or something.
    I know this sounds harsh, but a "tip" is to go for a girl with low self esteem. Whether she is ugly, fat, etc. They say those girls are more willing.
    But nope. These guys just want to bone 10s and then complain about not succeeding.

    You either need lots of confidence, charisma, or money. Not all 3.

    • LOL. I feel the same way. Some do make it seem like they're going against odds that are stacked high against them... bahaha. Fighting a dragon...

    • i lost my arm fighting a dragon to rescue a princess thank you. and she didn't even fuck me.

    • @OmaiBakaDayo You sound like Link. How many times has he saved Princess Zelda to not get anything afterwards? Even Mario got Princess Peach's heart.

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  • Do you think it's incredibly hard for men to get sex?
    B. No. If he knows what he's doing, he should be able to get it.

    I imagine it's incredibly hard for guys to get sex with the gals they want. No different than to me it's incredibly hard for gals to get enjoyable sex with any guy considering the orgasm gap, seeming male selfishness in casual hookups going by studies, and the oral sex gap.

    Though to me it all brushes off as guys can easily get sex in general ala prostitution. And in that case they can search for the gal who fits their criteria.

    • I never thought about it like that... If it's very hard to get it with someone they want...

  • Well I think they're kind of at a disadvantage because they can come off as a pervert or creep. But its not like we don't have any :T We can come off as whores. But I always thought it was because men were WAYYYYY more horny than women o_o and so women are like "nah no sex" and guys pull it our for anyone. Ok, i'm sorry men, but every guy i've ever met is like this and they say they'd go for any girl as long as she has a "pussy". Not that I necessarily agree. I know that most guys aren't actually like that.
    Ok I sound so sexist now.. bye.. 😂

  • Well because if a women wanted to engage in casual sex, it's not really seen as problem, the "worst" that would happen is she'd be call some odd names, if a man wanted to engage in casual sex he would be either a perv or a jerk. When men are associated with sex, theyre also associated with those bad scenarios like fucking and dumping.. so people are more reluctant. IN my opinion

    • Interesting thought. Men do have a lot stereotypes against them that could hinder them...

    • " the "worst" that would happen is she'd be call some odd names, if a man wanted to engage in casual sex he would be either a perv or a jerk" So basically the 'worst' that could happen to guys is that he'd be call some odd names. I'm unsure why you quote the 'worst' for gals when it is the same treatment that guys are given. That is quite a seeming bias you have. "When men are associated with sex, theyre also associated with those bad scenarios like fucking and dumping" Gals are also negatively associated with sex such as not having respect for herself, being 'easy', etc.

    • I see your point, but the point I was trying to make is that when "Gals are also negatively associated with sex such as not having respect for herself, being 'easy', etc." chances of men and other cases women sleeping with them is still a high chance, other than a man. @udolipixie

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  • No, it isn't that hard. Harder for the average man than the average woman up until a certain age (late 30s maybe?)---yes. Then you've got to look at the individual. If he's shy, if he's held back by fears of rejection, if he lacks physical and social qualities women like, things like that, it can make it harder.

  • It's not incredibly but yes compare to women, they have it a lot harder. To me if the guy puts effort and remain decent he can easily get laid. I have a lot of guy friends who are unattractive and they able to get some. They have been rejected but so far never heard any of them complain about the gender role stuffs. If you think you can get sex by just standing and waiting for a woman to fall from the sky, nothing is going to happen.

  • It is easy for some men. Very hard for the others...

    • I wonder what the "Very hard" men are doing, where they're at, and if they have any "crutches"...

    • They are just not as handsome as the others and got their heart crushed as well as their confidence. Who knows...

  • It depends on the guy; his appearance, how he comes across, his personality!

    I don't actively pursue women, I don't have sex and I have been propositioned a handful of times for sex! I'm not super attractive, I don't have game, I don't have charisma, charm and I am not someone who earns a lot of money.

    My guess is the men that struggle have unrealistic expectations, they want a super attractive woman without being super attractive themselves and throw in a sense of self entitlement and the recipe is one lonely, angry, bitter and frustrated man.

    • That is definitely one reason, I agree.

  • It is super easy to get laid.

    If you're handsome, that is. If not then it's the polar opposite.

    • LMAO what he said LOL

  • Extremely hard no, it's harder than for women since it's the man doing all the work in the approach, but if he knows what he's doing, it's not tough at all.

  • Doesn't a guy have to be hard? ;)

    Seriously though. Is it "incredibly " hard? Nah.
    Does it require effort? Yes, and this is what many guys overlook. Sometimes they mistakenly blame all or most women for being picky. Or they blame feminism. What they have a difficult time doing is realizing that IT'S POSSIBLE, EVEN DESIRABLE, TO IMPROVE YOURSELF. Many mistakenly think it can't be done. Many mistakenly think a woman should just accept them for who they are. I believe it almost always can be done, and since self improvement is a good thing in so many areas, not just dating, it SHOULD be done.

  • I agree with what @buchitabuys said, I also think it's kinda similar with women or maybe it's just a people thing in general. If you try to go after someone who gets a lot of attention from the opposite sex (meaning that they're very attractive) then you would probably not have a good chance with them unless you were on that level.

    • Women get more attention than men, even if the guy is attractive.

  • The difficulty stems from finding a girl who both likes you and finds you attractive and is interested in a sexual or romantic/sexual relationship without making you wait an arbitrary amount of time (read: until marriage)

  • If you simply want sex, you can simply hire a prostitute. If you want sex with a relationship, it can be really hard. Many girls are really picky. The funny thing is that the guys women choose tend to be bigger losers than the ones they reject.

  • it is hard to get sex unless theyre in a relationship. its hard for guys because we dont decide when we have sex. so it just depends on what the girl wants. if theyre in a relationship though its not hard. most girls will put out, i think. unless theyre really religious or something. and the whole courting thing before you can get a girlfriend you have to impress them or make them like you cause they dont just instnatly like you they have to figure out if they like you or not so you have to be on your best behavior and make her laugh and stuff.

  • Not really...

  • See this is why most countries should make prostitution legal

    • I know. I wish America would legalize it. It would feed back into our economy.

    • and stds would be really reduced and a lot less prostitutes would get killed. pretty much the same as drugs.

  • Extremely and incredibly hard? No. Is it harder for them than for women? Yes

  • I'm a virgin but I could have had sex like 5 times now if I had gone through with some of the girls. Am I attractive? No. Am I good with women? No. Was I always around women that liked me? Yes.

    If a guy honestly can't find a single girl to have sex with him, he either is doing something very, VERY wrong, or needs to surround himself with women that will bang him. It's not that hard to do either, find friends you connect with or join clubs/events you like. I can guarantee that there will always be at least one girl there that will have sex with you.

    • Thank you, I don't like how some of the guys here put their problems on women. It doesn't have much to do with having to put a lot of work in it since women approach guys as well, and it's not always an apperance/personality thing since not all women look for the same type of guy and some women just don't have standards in general and will sleep with anyone. People are also forgetting that women get rejected for sex too.

  • It's difficult for guys who overthink everything when they interact with women. Same for guys who have no self confidence or self worth. I know from experience.

  • It's hard because there are so many players who want only another notch on their Colt , just to boast about it to other players and then move on to the next girl.
    They make girls suspect that any guy who approaches them is just another player.
    Look at all girls' questions on that subject here.

  • It's not "incredibly hard" but it's harder than it would be for a woman to get sex.

    • I can see that. Some of these guys are literally saying (being dramatic here) that it's impossible. There's no way that that's true. For some guys, sure. But the majority?

    • I'm sure many over exaggerate on how difficult it really is

    • I've no idea if it's like that for the majority of guys. I'd say it's easier for men when they have a career, a house, active lifestyle and are not socially awkward. Since more people are like this, I'd say it's not hard for the majority.

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  • Nah, it's not hard. You just have to be able to deal with being rejected a few times.

  • It isn't "incredibly" hard for all men, no, not at all.

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