Do you think its normal and right to feel this way? ?

I had discussions with some people on here who told me I shouldn't feel this way.

I was talking about a older woman using an underaged boy for sex, and I felt like she was using him for her own pleasure and called her a filthy pervert even though the boy would enjoy it and that's why I would call police on her.

Do you think its right or normal how I feel or not?
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  • You're on point. Of course she's using that child for her own pleasure. And of course a teen would be thrilled to have sex with a grown woman.
    That's not the point. The point is it's unethical for an adult to engage in sex with a child. OK he's a BIG child. But still a child. She is in a position of authority and power and she can use that to her advantage. This is wrong on so many levels.
    She's not a "pervert." But she is in a dangerous position. If it were my son, I would have her charged with statutory rape. The nexxus of this is that I bet my son was not the first.
    It's like drunk drivers. They say most have driven drunk 90 times before they've been caught. How many sons has this woman done this to? Surely that boy is not the first.

    • How does vaginal intercourse feels like for you?

    • Agree

  • Even though the boy might enjoy it, it's still wrong.

    • Do you agree with what I said?

    • Yes I do. That woman was definitely a pervert!

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  • There are some grey areas of legalities when it comes to teens having sex. One is, teens with other teens if they're minors. If the age difference is within a couple of years. What the relationship is to the person, and if it's consensual.

    An adult can be charged if the teen is under the age of consent and the adult is:
    1. More than five years older
    2. Is in a position of authority, influence, trust, or guardianship
    3. Exploiting the younger person

    This is regardless of gender.

    So where this boy lives (to determine age of consent), how old he is (whether or not he is at the age of consent), who the person is to him that he's having sex with (if they are in a position of authority to him, etc.), and if there is exploitation involved (ie. using him to make pornography) are all factors on whether charges can be determined.

    If for example the boy is 16 - which is the legal age of consent just about everywhere. -then throw everything else out the window. He's legal, and that's that.

    However it doesn't change the court of popular opinion. Most people will not agree with it, whether it's legal or not, and your opinion to find it unethical is yours to have and likely many would agree with you.

    If anyone can clarify this, or has other information, I'll be interested in knowing what that is, but to my knowledge, a minor is a minor with grey areas, but any teen 16 or over in most countries is able to go ahead and have consensual sex without ramifications.

    • You are right, regards to the legalitity. What I find strange is that some enlightened men think most girls are mentally messed up by having sex with an older man

    • LOL! Well then, how do these enlightened men explain mentally messed up girls who haven't had sex with older men, or have had sex yet at all? How do they explain normal, mentally-healthy guys who have not yet had sex in their 20s? One of two things is going to happen with people/teens who are having sex: they will end up fine, or they won't. If the experience was illegal and damaging, that's not exactly the same thing as illegal and not damaging. I had lots of friends who lost their virginity as minors, but they turned out fine. I also knew others who were having sex as minors and it developed negative feelings about it that stayed with them throughout their lives. Both were males and females. If these enlightened men are still thinking that it's always better for boys and it's never better for girls, then they are living in their own little perverse fairytale.

    • Exactly!!! Look at the NickCharm. He thinks he knows it all

  • I agree generally but are you saying he's a minor or under the age of consent?

  • If you know a woman is having sex with an underage boy, then why haven't you already called the police?
    And how is this even a question?
    Having sex with minors is not only immoral, it is illegal, and if you know illegal activity is going on and you don't report it, you're just as guilty as the person committing the crime...
    Why would you wait to call the police or think you need approval from people on a website? It doesn't matter whether anyone agrees with you or not, you don't/ shouldn't need that to report CRIMINAL ACTIVITY, and stop a child from being abused by a sexual predator

    • It's not about me. It happened longer ago but it bothers me

    • I want people to know if I am right or normal because I have been judged for feeling this way

    • When did you find out tho? When it happened? Or just now? It should of been reported minute you found out about it

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  • I personally think as long as the boy is normal enough, I mean hasn't got learning disabilities, you shouldn't called the police, how you feel no one can say, except you,
    I. E. a woman can't rape a boy but a man can rape a girl

    • It's still taking advantage of a child, the woman is a pedophile, the boy can't consent so it's rape legally. Not calling police makes you complicit to a crime. Your moral compass is messed up

    • OK as not all was written down, a boy aged 17 years and 11 months and 28 days is a child, another month on he an adult, if you are going to condemn someone you should have the facts down

    • I am talking about young teens eg 14, not near adults

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  • Normal and right to feel that way. The gender bias of others doesn't make it right. It's typically looked over or even judged in a court less severely because of gender bias. But you are right to call it out and perfectly normal to feel that way.

  • I think that the way you feel is both right, and normal, I am glad you did that, and I as an "underage" male wouldn't want to be used by an older woman, especially not for sex.

  • children and adults should not be intimate with each other. It’s illegal, so it would be right to call the police and do your best to protect the child from being taken advantage of.

  • You're not alone in how you feel. I still think it's a slight minority opinion. But I really don't think it's right. You're attacking someone for doing what they're biologically programmed to do. Their attraction is backed by science... And just regular logic.

    Is it possible she's taking advantage of him? Sure, maybe. But that happens with people at the same age all the time too, are you gonna arrest every guy or woman you see manipulating someone into dating them?

    Unless it's incredibly obvious that's whats going on, just leave them alone.

    • I am wrong for attacking a pedophile for exploiting a child who is illegal and cannot consent? I try to be as tolerate as possible but these types of ridiculous comments make me think you are an alien.

    • But how do you know she's taking advantage of him? These things don't exactly go hand in hand. Illegal? Who cares if it's illegal. The people who wrote laws like that atlre the same people who didn't want women to vote.

    • Because of the age difference and mental development, maturity and more. You are saying here pedophilia is normal and pedophiles should be left alone. That's so creepy and strange. And definitely socially unacceptable. I don't know what to say.

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  • Perfectly normal

    I dont see why they are so concerned with the child having fun.

    I bet an 14 year old girl would have fun to but I bet they think of that as flat out wrong, most like hypogrites.

  • Your morals are Definatley correct Depending ( how old is this boy ) on his age and maturity Is he able to enjoy it or is he ashamed of it Is it best to talk to him and make a judgement on his fed back Everyguy goes through a fantasy of a older women He is probably the envy of his friend

    • No, I wouldn't let her get away with it, I just explained how I feel

    • What happened

    • I explained myself

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  • I think with underaged kids, it's unacceptable to allow them to make adult choices until they are 18. I understand there are a number of users on here that are teenager with active sexual desires but I'd say, until they are 18, they should consider staying with their peers or waiting until 18 because I think they number exists for a reason and it's the time when the brain can make mature and safe choices.

    I know some on here would not agree with me and point to other countries that have safer age ranges but I think 18 is a decent baseline and I'd prefer my daughter or son be 18 before s/he commitments to someone older than him/her. She can date maybe someone in their 20s but no sex with them unless she/he is 18

  • It’s not right to listen to people on the internet 🤷‍♀️ About anything. They’re not even saying what they actually believe they’re saying what they think is cool to believe in.

    • I disagree I think people on Internet are more honest

    • How does vaginal intercourse feels like for you?

    • So you agree?

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  • It seems very wrong and I think you're absolutely normal calling her out over this !

  • If he is underage that is pervy no doubt.

    • How does vaginal intercourse feels like for you?

  • I think you are entirely right for condemning adults having sex with minors. IT DOES NOT MATTER if the perpetrator is a woman and the victim is a boy. It does not matter if the boy wanted it. He's not able to make a responsible decision about that when he's still a minor.

  • I could have a huge philosophical soap box moment but to cut to the chase it's better for our society if we regard adults having relations with minors as wrong.

  • As far as normal and right go, I don't acknowledge anything that's normal, as being right, appropriate, healthy, or non-offensive in nature. Herd mentalities are turd mentalities, from my perspective.
    The only child I lose sleep worrying about, is my stepdaughter, and the loaded magazine I have with her future ex boyfriend's name on it, if he is really capable of being stupid enough too incur her stepfather's wrath.

  • I would categorize how you feel as common, in any other sense that person
    would be deemed a sexual predator and sex offender/criminal. Just as R. Kelly
    has probably had plenty of his underage victims enjoy the acts performed on
    for money, that doesn’t lessen the deviance of his crimes.

  • That's child molestation leave the children alone They're innocent Fuckinh person would lost after a child There's a difference between saying well that 10 year old girls very attractive no I'm not Lusting her I'm not sydnor saying nor am I thinking while it be nice to jump her bones now he's a child she's a child leave the children alone if I ever seen or heard of something like that I would flip in not in a very positive way The I think that would be one that actually do some of never done in don't believe in I would a punch That child molesting piece of ship That that's wrong That person deserves a long painful agonizing death and I'm talking about for years in massive pain dying It's wrong this dead tucking wrong

  • Your outlook is justified.

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