Do you think lesbians have better long term emotional relationships?

[Anonymous]

I’m 20 and I’m bi, but I can’t help but feeling that men are a disappointment when it comes to have an emotional bound. I tried to date all kind of men, from ugly to handsome, short, tall, broke, well off, and at the end they all turned out to be selfish horny dogs that cheat whenever the occasion show up, and I hate them even more when I see older men hitting on me while ignoring women their age.
I don’t care how much blue downvotes I’ll get but that’s my experience, and the same happened for many girls. There are still good men out here, but they probably Just are 10% of the male population and most of them usually are asexual, and I don’t wanna count on luck to get one. I am extremely sexual but I want a relationship where I can get an emotional connection, and be lovey dovey and romantic without the fear of being taken advantage of, and it’s seems that women are the only ones capable to offer me that, plus the fact that I won’t fear to age and to be seen as less attractive in my female partner’s eyes is a huge plus for me, so I would like to hear the opinion of girls that dated girls.

[caring__1]

Dysfunctional relationships are just as common in the LGBTQ community as they are in the straight community. Making assumptions that all guys are bad and all girls are good isn't dealing with reality. It's not about all guys or all girls; it's about the types of people you choose and the types of energy you feed into those relationships. Would you prefer being stuck in a mold for being a girl, or would you prefer to be a unique individual? I've seen too many people legitimize dysfunction because they are male or female. You're still very young. Even though you think you've experienced many different partners, you've only seen the tip of the iceberg. Discover what qualities you value in a partner and then learn where those types of people associate. By joining that group or activity, someone will rise to the top, and you may be surprised to find it is just as likely to be a male as a female.

[Berethor]

You only 20 years old girl and you already give up on men? WoW. You lucky, as we can't downvote questions, and I don't think that you bi, you sounds like a lesbian preacher, anyway I don't care if you are lesbian or become a lesbian, it fits you. You have some points, and my main counter point is going to be that I don't consider a lesbian sex as true sex. :)

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[Anonymous]

My mom felt this way for awhile; but after dating some women and marrying one she found out that the people she was picking were wrong for her and it wasn't a man versus woman thing. How many women have you dated; and how many of them were also trashy horn dogs? Part of the problem is that society encourages this kind of behavior in men and women. So there aren't many nice guys or good girls out there; you just have to learn how to spot the selfish ones and ditch them ASAP. But on the bright side being that you are bu means you aren't limited to just the nice guys or just the good girls like the rest of us are. Good luck on finding your one.

[katiesmuff]

You need to keep your dating circle with the other TROLLS to have a better chance!

[SolifeNolife]

Sadly I've noticed with a lot of my friends that guys can be pretty shallow when it comes to relationships (or in general for that matter). I definitely think that for the long term dating a woman would be better than waiting on that 10%. I'm sorry for the crappy experiences you've had but I hope that you find the love and comfort that you're looking for.

[Asker]

Aww thank you. You’re so sweet

[Mia-Wallace]

No idea.

[triff]

There is only one answer The stereo type of a woman Soft Cuddly and Caring Is this the case Let's look at relationships without bias or being judgmental Males and Females are both individuals who can be loving and in relationships Both can be Cheaters Players Or are Genuine Trustworhy dedicated So the simple answer to your question is Not necessarily

[sammy1537]

You should try befriending an older lesbian couple. They will tell you that being a lesbian is difficult. It's not just a societal pressures but also personal self-examination that keeps messing with one's mind. This is why only strong women are capable of staying in a long and healthy lesbian relationship.
I suspect that there are some who are bi- who are in fact are lesbians struggling with pressures from within as well as without.

[boggboss]

Thats the logic that fools use im sorry your expirances where shit with guys but your experience dont even encapsulate 1 percent of the male population thats not how things work just because u was treated shit by guys dont make all or even most guys shit the same argument is said by guys that get cheated on and think women are made to cheat

[Celtero]

That's cute you'd think that, because lesbo relationships are statistically the least happy and most likely to experience domestic violence. Meanwhile, the gays are pretty damn satisfied with each other.

The problem is when men do open up emotionally it tends to turn women off, so we can't. And it's hard initially too when we already live in a world that doesn't really care about men's issues, making us all the more reluctant to open up.

If you have such an extensive dating history at your age I suggest you slow down and go for quality over quantity. Because when you say you've been with "ugly, handsome, short, tall, broke, and well-off" it sounds like you're complaining about guys that took all of 30 seconds to find.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Whatever works for you.

[Nephilim000]

People are people. Some are good some are bad. I think in thia say and age finding a good one involves luck and or patience. I was recently cheated on by a girl twice. I forgave her once and she went out and did it again. She has said how nice I was many times. And she still wants to be friends. But I am not going to give up on the idea that there is a good person out there for me

[I-have-a-biscuit]

Girls know what girls like. Guys know what guys like. Girls don't know what guys like. Guys don't know what girls like.

I've also seen a lot of weird posts in here. Most about men are about cheating. I'm confused why that's even a thing? Seems cowardly to lie and deceive. Anyhow, my main point is that if the genders were reversed, it would still make sense. The only reasons why you might want a guy over a girl are abundance and biological children.

[Ripper_E]

Nope. Has nothing to do with it.

[SweetDisaster]

I wouldn't sense I never dated a girl but IF one day I get the chance to, I'll let you know (/^▽^)/

[cth96190]

Hell no!
If you look the published statistics you will see that homosexual (male and female) relationships are a train wreck.
The figures for lesbians are worse than those for men.
Fun fact: lesbian relationships top the scale for domestic violence.

[SamtheDnDgirl]

I do have a sleight preferance for women for that reason.

[dutch69lover]

Your young still so don't give up hope! My wife who is 10 years younger than me is also bi-sexual. We met when she was 24, dated 3 months when she told me about her and her girlfriend. Been married 11 years, and we have a strong loving emotional connection... all of us girlfriend included. Soul mates are out there! Took me til I was 34 to find mine and it is so totally worth the wait!!

[es20490446e]

Yeap, many men are like that. When I dated girls, and saw other men trying to flirt with them, I was surprised what kind of a loser they were.

But I have news for you, women are not better. Many are either overly entitled and treat people badly, or are completely nuts.

So it's not a matter of gender, it's rather a matter of finding a sane person.

[tofamous]

Women are more emotional than men already You know we all at 1 time or another have felt lonely and/or awkwud but this gay stuff doesn't really work coming why do women use artificial dicks may get the real thing and why do guys when stick your Dick in some man's ass as gross peanut butter and stick 3 that's a sexual perversion Why would I want a man's ass when I can get a pretty little woman yeah see I mean there's not like the real thing baby I'm just saying I can't type on a cat spell sorry lol

[Feelicks]

That's a lot of hate. You attract in others that which you hold in your own heart.

[Iron_Man]

no lo,

[Jamie05rhs]

Well, lesbians are just going to confirm your opinion. So you won't really receive any additional information.

[DreamCatchcer]

Sounds like you have daddy issues or are just a misandrist.