Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health A few years ago, my friends underaged son had sex with a much older woman who used him and took advantage of him.
My friends husband tried to protect the pedo woman by not calling police, but my friend called the police anyway and got her to prison for 4 years.
I thought her husband was a disgusting man and blinded by his hormones. He would go mad if his daughter was involved with some older man.
Do you think men like these are hypocrites or prejudiced?
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7 52How old was the son? I ask because there is a big difference between, say, 6 and 16, and if the boy was (or is) the latter, then they may have not thought it was such a big deal.
l don't know, I wasn't there, I don't have all the details to make any kind of judgement here.
But they would have thought it was a big deal if it was a 16 year old girl? If you can't answer the question, then what is the point of your comment honestly?
Well I think that is my point, the point being that there is simply not enough information to go on here. You're asking a question that cannot be honestly addressed, because important details are lacking.
Most people could answer this question perfectly, so I guess it's only a problem for few individuals
I wonder why that is
You don't think it's hypocritical or prejudiced to think its not a big deal for a 16 year old boy to do it but a big deal for a 16 year old girl to do it?
Right I was right. I love this facade where men state they need more details when in fact they are hypocrites and prejudiced just like the husband. Ignorance is bliss
Hypocrites.
I think it’s prejudice but it is also based on the different nature between men and women. Therefore it’s not hypocrisy because a girl being taken sexually advantage of is on a different plain.
I understand the fathers hesitation to call the police. That is why you need a good mother to balance the prejudice decisions made by the husband and vice versa.
You are literally prejudiced because you think taking advantage of a boy is different to taking advantage of a girl. You are just prejudiced and a hypocrite like the husband
As I said a man taking sexually advantage of a girl is different than a woman taking advantage of a boy. Hypocrisy is when the situation is the same. You could argue that me seeing the two case as different is prejudice but I see it as a result of boys/males having a different nature than women
But to me it is the same, so to me you are a hypocrite and a disgusting person for wanting to protect the woman and not call police on her like you said in your post
I didn’t say I wouldn’t call the police I said I understand why he didn’t call the police.
If you think the mom needs a good argument to justify why it's wrong for a grown ass woman to use a boy and take advantage of him then you need help. Te husband was sick and hypocritical.
You refuse to see the situation from a mans perspective. I can also say the mother was overreacting etc. but I realize that from her perspective her response was the immediate and only response to have.
Why should I see it from the man's perspective? You guys are pedophile supporting hypocrites. How did she overreact by calling police on a sexual predator?
Remember that I don’t agree with the fathers decision. But I can make an argument for the both of them. In order to understand why I can see the mother’s response as an overreaction you have to see the situation through a mans perspective.
I love older men I would love to see my daughter being fucked by some hot older guy. I will defend him when the husband would try to call police on him. Do you see my perspective?
You are funny. That is not what I meant when I said see it from a mans perspective. I am taking myself out of this discussion. Since this is going down an endless pit.
Why can't you see it from my perspective?
Try see it from my perspective and you'll see
if your daughter or son 16 or 17 there's no reason to they old enough make decision of who to sleep with if my son or daghter was like 13 14 i would thoiugh.
If the boy was not of legal age it was correct that the older woman was sent to prison regardless of what her husband thought. Even if the boy was of legal age it is easy to be taken advantage of at that age and the older women should have known better.
Yeah, he was mad. For no reason. Awful husband in my opinion
Sadly there is no shortage of men like that.
I know it's horrible
I don't know all the details so I can't really give a well thought out opinion.
Generally speaking, the law is there to protect people from harm. But I know having once been a teen male, I would never have been harmed by sex with an older woman. That is ME.
But the law is the law...
What do you mean by all the details? What if there is no harm but what about the adult?
Also you didn't answer the question... If the husband would feel completely opposite with his daughter wouldn't that make him a hypocrite and prejudiced?
Yes it would be hypocrisy to feel that its ok for the son but not the daughter.
Right
What if he didn't feel like it's OK but thought there was no need for police. He is still prejudiced or hypocrite?
Yes they are hypocrites it's sad that the older woman took advantage of that younger guy just makes no sense
Agree
I don't know hypocrite is the right word mam, but he was definitely wrong in protecting the woman.
What's wrong is wrong and should not be allowed.
yea thats messed up
I saw from the replies that the woman was 40 but how old was the boy?
16...
Answer the question?
Well ignoring whether or not it was legal in the eyes of the law... I do think that the guy was a prejudice hypocrite
Alright
It need to clarify that why he is protecting that lady? The reason should be known.
And yes that man was wrong when he stop her wife from calling police. Whatever be the reason guilty should be punished.
I wouldn't call him a hypocrite. It seems to me that he wanted her to make the choice, instead of taking that choice away from her.
But isn't it hypocritical to do exactly what she would do if her daughter was in the situation?
*his
From what you're telling me his daughter was in that situation and she's the one that called. So no I don't think he's a hypocrite. all he did was just put the ball back in her court and let her decide what to do with her life and her future.
Lol I never said it was his daughter. It was his son in the situation. If it was his daughter he would beat up the man. That's why I said he was a hypocrite and prejudiced
So what do you think now?
Does he have a daughter? If so has his daughter been in that same situation before?
Yes, he has a daughter and he said he would react completely differently
Do you understand the question now?
How people think they will react and how they actually do react can sometimes be two different things. unless his daughter was in the exact same situation and he reacted differently I would not call him hypocrite. the way I see it this guy simply just doesn't know how he'll react to a certain situation until it actually happens.
Then why would he defend a pedo woman? He was obviously stuck in his fantastic, it's pathetic
*fantasies
Again, how people think they will react versus how they actually react are two different things. He probably thought that he would react differently than he actually did and didn't know until the time came. It's not unheard of.
Nah I believe he would react totally differently. God I hate these men
If that's how you see it, it's your opinion
So what was he trying to protect other than a sexual predator? I am curious to know
Honestly I don't think he was trying to protect anything. It just sounds like he was giving his kid the choice rather than making the choice himself.
He shouldn't give choice to a young child who can't even consent or make a rational decision That's again common sense which he lacks
I can see we are coming from. all I'm saying is as a parent even though your child may not have the best judgment they still have emotions.
I guess the husband was trying to protect what he had.
But she shouldn't of used the underage guy to begin with.
Protect what? A pedophile?
So what did he want to protect?
The pedo
And what do you think of that?
I'm not sure why you would protect her. If the woman was his wife, it might be hard to accept. We've seen husband/wife's defend the other if they're murderers. Regardless, I'm not sure why you'd protect someone like that.
I know this is a thing with you, but age isn't everything. There are so many things that go on , you cannot control.
I wonder if this young lad was happy the woman ended up in prison.
This could well have distroyed that family. Near where I lived this happened and when the woman was released they ended up , setting up home together.
The adult should control themselves, they are responsible to stop being a sex predator
Where I live 18 is you are classed as not being underage. So do you have the same feeling if they have sex a Day before his or her 18 th birthday.
18 is adult in most places
But they had sex when he was 17 that makes him underage, does your morality still count..
At 17 I think it's innapropriate but not like when he is younger
So 18 is no magic age when everyone does things right.
Not at all
It was wrong of female to abuse the young boy
So you agree?
You need to answer the question darling
I guess I take that as a yes, thanks.
Its yes was wrong
But do you think such men are prejudiced or hypocrites?
I think they deserve jail time to so the worst
OK thanks
Awelcome 👍
Yes double standards, your friend was right to call the cops,,,
4 years is too much if the boy had consented for sex , I agree it is wrong from adult side but still.
Hmm not sure
Answer the question though
who knows what was the situation but it is general men generally forgive women, yes they are hypocrites.
She just used the boy while he didn't know what he was doing in my opinion. Mentally 14 year olds are not ready to make such decisions
nowadays I really doubt, i know 8 year old indulging in sex with same age group.
The fuck
Yeah dear sad reality
It's a grey area for me...
They should've had a serious talk with the son and see how he felt about it. If there's hints of trauma or he felt like he got taken advantage of then the older woman should face the consequences. If not then your friend just semi ruined a persons life, 4 years of prison might not necessarily stop her from doing that again with another underaged boy.
She went off her emotions and most of the time logic > emotions.
Everyone is different, some boys would've loved it other boys while others would feel traumatized and conflicted. I think things should be talked about before actions be taken.
No the woman preyed on him and used him, she was a sexual predator. Doesn't matter how he feels You seem like a hypocrite like the husband. Good luck advocating for female pedophiles. You are strange.
You're going based on your emotions and what the law says in your area. Laws aside or if it were in a country where age of consent is much lower and you grew up there you'd have a totally different mindset.
So you would say the same thing if it was a girl with some older man?
Well actually let me ask this first, how young is the son? I was assuming he's 16-17. Yeah I'd stand by my statement. I had female class mates that had sex with college guys when they're in high school. They didn't feel traumatized.
Well I don't know I feel the adult is taking advantage and is being a pervert
Realistically what is the difference between being 17-18 maturity wise? Close to none, it's just cause some countries say that's the age of consent and we grew up there that we think its completely wrong and disgusting. If someone was 1 day away from turning 18 and she/he had sex with an adult then omg that person is a pedo and a predator. that 1 day isn't going to make any difference to a person. (Yes, i know the adult has no lack of self-control)
Thst has nothing to do with the question though. Here the kid is under 18 and adult over 30.
Well under 18 can mean he's 10 or 17? That's a whole world of difference. Some kids aren't that dumb and know what they're doing. I'll still stand by what I said unless the kid was a lot younger than 18 like 15 and under.
Do you think a 16 year old boy or a girl can consent without being taken advantage of?
In a legal standpoint obviously no. I think they should be able to, depends on how they got there to begin with.
Most men would go crazy anyway... They wouldn't even ask the girls how she felt
Wait, what do you mean by go crazy? I'm lost on that one. You're probably right, and I'll agree with you on that those are the ones who take advantage for their own sick minds without any care for the girl.
Like they would beat up the man who fucked their daughter
Well that doesn't say much as I'm sure a lot of fathers want to beat up their daughters bfs even if the boyfriend was her age.
And you think that's right?
Which part?
Acting like animals and being violent instead of talking
I hate such men so I am glad the wife called police and destroyed the pedo woman life. It must have pissed her hypocrite husband a lot
Ohh, yeah I don't think it's right. Being civil and keeping composure is the best.
I will ask the question with genders reversed
These debates usually end up in one person getting really illogical and it didn't. I appreciate it.
The answers will be really different and I can see why you say guys are hypocrites.
What do you mean
About the illogical bit I mean
I am curious what people will say mow
Like usually these topics are really sensitive and in the past when I've had these types of debates the person gets really worked up, start being illogical and try to personally attack me like it'd bother me and somehow that personal attack would change my point of view lol. You kept it civil which I appreciate.
I am used to these debates
I agree with you, he’s disgusting.
Surely, he is disgusting. All pedos should be imprisoned regardless of their gender
Agree