I personally don’t want to use any toys as I feel it takes away from my abilities to pleasure her so she’s resorting to other things (that she can use herself) - which makes me think I’m just not good enough and she’d rather get herself off masturbating.
Yeah it’s probably anxiety and due to masculinity stereotypes, but that doesn’t mean my feelings aren’t valid.
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TwinTonyzXper 5
+1 y
Frankly, sex toys are there to replace men. It's proof that you can;t be enough and how could you? If your competition is a hunk of plastic designed to do more than anything organic could ever do, you've been replaced. She can marry that toy and live the life she wants to life.
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Subarugirl
+1 y
How have no idea how a woman’s sexuality and a woman’s sexual pleasure works do you? Sex toys aren’t a replacement they are an aid.
TwinTonyz
+1 y
@Subarugirl If you can get everything you need, sexually, from a device, why even bother with men?
Subarugirl
+1 y
If you think that sexual intercourse with a loving partner is just about physical stimulation, then you aren’t having sex with that person you are using their body to masturbate. That’s like asking why have sex when you can just masturbate? Why use a car when you could just walk? Because it’s more efficient.
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TwinTonyz
+1 y
@Subarugirl isn't it? Hookup culture is the only way available to modern people. No one wants a relationship till their mid to late 30's, and in that there is no meaningful connection. Trading off the inter-personal connection for a device, as getting your rocks off with a person is more expensive and imposes so many more risks, is idealized overall. There's no shortness of decisiveness and threats in the dating world. 100% of those accepted as fact demonize men. It's unfathomable to think that women aren't looking for every reason possible to replace us with anything else.
Subarugirl
+1 y
Dude. I’m 24 years old my husband is 27. We have a 4 year old son and just bought out home last year. My husband bought our sex toys because he enjoys them just as much as I do. I think that what you fail to realize is that good men don’t have this problem and isn’t threatened by a vibrator. Because he knows that no piece of plastic can replace the real thing. No wonder you’re so threatened, if I couldn’t compete with a piece of plastic, I’d be threatened too.
LevinMaster
+1 y
Well, as long as it's not a strap-on it's alright...
I think some of them aren't a good idea because they desensitive lady's part, making it harder to orgasm manually.
I'm more in favour of certain toys such as straps to tie her up...
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DonkeyDanGuru
+1 y
Yeah I think some are. Personally I like them, have a couple of my own. It's fun to play together with sex toys.
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VanillaSaltYoda
+1 y
My collections bigger than yours lmao.
Wanna make a girl smile? Introduce her to a Sybian.
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coachTanthony
+1 y
LOL the Howard Stern machine
VanillaSalt
+1 y
Attach tie right knob for the job, a blindfold, a few feathers and perhaps a leather cat o’ nine tails… you got a party no woman will forget ;)
NinaniYoda
+1 y
In my experience, no. Especially not the toys I bring into our play.
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ddogsandfrogsXper 1
+1 y
only if they’ve failed to realize how helpful they are to the cause
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Almost10inch4funlolXper 6
+1 y
yes because women are so surprised how much i love using them on her. i have a pretty long dick so i’m not intimidated by any toys plus i enjoy fore play and playing with the women body the same as lesbians. what men don’t understand is sex to women is not just penetration, they count the entire experience so if men learn to deliver fore play the same as lesbians then they will always be ahead because they have something no lesbians can deliver and that’s real flesh dick at the end. grow up and enjoy your woman’s body. you’ll be astonished by the passion she returns to you.
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RawIronhideExplorer
+1 y
I'm not at all, that's something I never understood. I think that's an immaturity thing though. Most guys grow out of it I think.
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pjf1958Xper 5
+1 y
Its quite possible! Modern day dildos have so many functions, and attachments that there is no way that an actual penis can compete with it. The only thing that an actual penis can do better than a dildo is to go limp after climax
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sage2021
+1 y
It sounds like modern day dildos are like the old floor style Kirby vacuum cleaners from the 1960's with all the attachments they came with. 🤷
HeyHeyLAXper 2
+1 y
Well... whose using them on who? Lol
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Jersey2
+1 y
Exactly
coachTanthony
+1 y
@Jersey2 Well I would assume mostly men using them on women but it could be both.
Jersey2
+1 y
Yeah coach, I’m a one way street, no toys on me but for her I’m good with it.
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coachTanthony
+1 y
@Jersey2 LOL fair enough my friend
Jersey2
+1 y
I would use them in her not the other way around but if others do it I don’t see it as wrong.
slatybMaster
+1 y
No, I think most men are happy to date a woman that enjoys sex. Anyway, av woman shouldn't worry that some men might be intimidated by sex toys. She doesn't want to date those men.
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foxrider77Yoda
+1 y
Not at all. How else will you stimulate the prostate
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Finchie40Master
+1 y
Me personally doesn’t care for them and feel it’s an insult , if someone needs a toy to get them off every time they have sex , then I must not be good enough for them is the way I look at it and they are definitely into some freaky shit , if it was just once in awhile to experiment that is fine but needing them all the time I would really reconsider that relationship
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TiptoetammYoda
+1 y
Yes and some dumb reason people think it's weird what's weird about it. I bought my ex automatic blowjob machine he loved it lol when I was unavailable which wasn't very often lol
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SoremainYoda
+1 y
If she's gonna whip out a huge ass dildo from her drawer, yeah I'm gonna feel like mine is not enough and I'm probably gonna head out lol. But if it's just some vibrator then I don't mind that much. It's not like my dick is supposed to vibrate anyway. But even then it's not ideal. It does cast a doubt in my mind her enjoyment is credited to the toy.
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Petermorgan34Xper 5
+1 y
Depends on how/when it is used. Like do you use them after you just had sex? Then yes it might make him feel bad. If you use it together or on your own when your not with him most likely no
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DocT1977Xper 6
+1 y
Coming from a guy, I don't feel threatened. Why should I feel threatened by using them in conjunction with the things I do in the bedroom to make it that much better?
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t-8900Yoda
+1 y
I'd just rather use what God gave me. I brain disconnects between the actual flesh of my partner and rubber/plastic objects thrown in the mix.
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Subarugirl
+1 y
I think it would be more for her benefit than yours.
t-8900
+1 y
@Subarugirl ya i guess so. There are toys that have more of a natural color. Those would be better for me. The hot pink, solid black, red, etc are turn offs to me. I don't know why
GwenhwyfarMaster
+1 y
If you mean masturbation aids I almost never use mine during sex so I really don’t know
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coachTanthony
+1 y
yes orgasm aids.
Gwenhwyfar
+1 y
I very rarely use those when having sex with a partner. I do sometimes rub my clit with my finger when he’s inside me.
coachTanthony
+1 y
Whatever works!
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Gwenhwyfar
+1 y
Thanks 😊 In your experience as a dating coach do girls really use toys to get themselves off in bed with a partner? I’d be too embarrassed. At least a finger is discreet.
Red_Arrow
+1 y
Although that is perfectly fine, there is nothing wrong with using aids (like a vibrator) to heighten the sexual pleasure.
Gwenhwyfar
+1 y
@Red_Arrow I do use them sometimes by myself. But the only time I use them with a partner is when I’m putting on a masturbation show for him. Not when we’re having sex.
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31 107I personally don’t want to use any toys as I feel it takes away from my abilities to pleasure her so she’s resorting to other things (that she can use herself) - which makes me think I’m just not good enough and she’d rather get herself off masturbating.
Yeah it’s probably anxiety and due to masculinity stereotypes, but that doesn’t mean my feelings aren’t valid.
Frankly, sex toys are there to replace men. It's proof that you can;t be enough and how could you? If your competition is a hunk of plastic designed to do more than anything organic could ever do, you've been replaced. She can marry that toy and live the life she wants to life.
How have no idea how a woman’s sexuality and a woman’s sexual pleasure works do you? Sex toys aren’t a replacement they are an aid.
@Subarugirl If you can get everything you need, sexually, from a device, why even bother with men?
If you think that sexual intercourse with a loving partner is just about physical stimulation, then you aren’t having sex with that person you are using their body to masturbate. That’s like asking why have sex when you can just masturbate? Why use a car when you could just walk? Because it’s more efficient.
@Subarugirl isn't it? Hookup culture is the only way available to modern people. No one wants a relationship till their mid to late 30's, and in that there is no meaningful connection. Trading off the inter-personal connection for a device, as getting your rocks off with a person is more expensive and imposes so many more risks, is idealized overall. There's no shortness of decisiveness and threats in the dating world. 100% of those accepted as fact demonize men. It's unfathomable to think that women aren't looking for every reason possible to replace us with anything else.
Dude. I’m 24 years old my husband is 27. We have a 4 year old son and just bought out home last year. My husband bought our sex toys because he enjoys them just as much as I do. I think that what you fail to realize is that good men don’t have this problem and isn’t threatened by a vibrator. Because he knows that no piece of plastic can replace the real thing. No wonder you’re so threatened, if I couldn’t compete with a piece of plastic, I’d be threatened too.
Well, as long as it's not a strap-on it's alright...
I think some of them aren't a good idea because they desensitive lady's part, making it harder to orgasm manually.
I'm more in favour of certain toys such as straps to tie her up...
Yeah I think some are. Personally I like them, have a couple of my own. It's fun to play together with sex toys.
My collections bigger than yours lmao.
Wanna make a girl smile? Introduce her to a Sybian.
LOL the Howard Stern machine
Attach tie right knob for the job, a blindfold, a few feathers and perhaps a leather cat o’ nine tails… you got a party no woman will forget ;)
In my experience, no. Especially not the toys I bring into our play.
only if they’ve failed to realize how helpful they are to the cause
yes because women are so surprised how much i love using them on her. i have a pretty long dick so i’m not intimidated by any toys plus i enjoy fore play and playing with the women body the same as lesbians. what men don’t understand is sex to women is not just penetration, they count the entire experience so if men learn to deliver fore play the same as lesbians then they will always be ahead because they have something no lesbians can deliver and that’s real flesh dick at the end. grow up and enjoy your woman’s body. you’ll be astonished by the passion she returns to you.
I'm not at all, that's something I never understood. I think that's an immaturity thing though. Most guys grow out of it I think.
Its quite possible! Modern day dildos have so many functions, and attachments that there is no way that an actual penis can compete with it. The only thing that an actual penis can do better than a dildo is to go limp after climax
It sounds like modern day dildos are like the old floor style Kirby vacuum cleaners from the 1960's with all the attachments they came with. 🤷
Well... whose using them on who? Lol
Exactly
@Jersey2 Well I would assume mostly men using them on women but it could be both.
Yeah coach, I’m a one way street, no toys on me but for her I’m good with it.
@Jersey2 LOL fair enough my friend
I would use them in her not the other way around but if others do it I don’t see it as wrong.
No, I think most men are happy to date a woman that enjoys sex. Anyway, av woman shouldn't worry that some men might be intimidated by sex toys. She doesn't want to date those men.
Not at all. How else will you stimulate the prostate
Me personally doesn’t care for them and feel it’s an insult , if someone needs a toy to get them off every time they have sex , then I must not be good enough for them is the way I look at it and they are definitely into some freaky shit , if it was just once in awhile to experiment that is fine but needing them all the time I would really reconsider that relationship
Yes and some dumb reason people think it's weird what's weird about it. I bought my ex automatic blowjob machine he loved it lol when I was unavailable which wasn't very often lol
If she's gonna whip out a huge ass dildo from her drawer, yeah I'm gonna feel like mine is not enough and I'm probably gonna head out lol. But if it's just some vibrator then I don't mind that much. It's not like my dick is supposed to vibrate anyway. But even then it's not ideal. It does cast a doubt in my mind her enjoyment is credited to the toy.
Depends on how/when it is used. Like do you use them after you just had sex? Then yes it might make him feel bad. If you use it together or on your own when your not with him most likely no
Coming from a guy, I don't feel threatened. Why should I feel threatened by using them in conjunction with the things I do in the bedroom to make it that much better?
I'd just rather use what God gave me. I brain disconnects between the actual flesh of my partner and rubber/plastic objects thrown in the mix.
I think it would be more for her benefit than yours.
@Subarugirl ya i guess so. There are toys that have more of a natural color. Those would be better for me. The hot pink, solid black, red, etc are turn offs to me. I don't know why
If you mean masturbation aids I almost never use mine during sex so I really don’t know
yes orgasm aids.
I very rarely use those when having sex with a partner. I do sometimes rub my clit with my finger when he’s inside me.
Whatever works!
Thanks 😊 In your experience as a dating coach do girls really use toys to get themselves off in bed with a partner? I’d be too embarrassed. At least a finger is discreet.
Although that is perfectly fine, there is nothing wrong with using aids (like a vibrator) to heighten the sexual pleasure.
@Red_Arrow I do use them sometimes by myself. But the only time I use them with a partner is when I’m putting on a masturbation show for him. Not when we’re having sex.