Do you think people who are submissive in real life tend to fantasize about being sexually dominant and vice versa?

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I’ve never bought it but want to hear what you people have to tell on that matter.

[ChrisMaster69]

Potentially, however this would really point to them being a switch.

also it may depend what sex they with to be Dominant with and if submissive to another.

big generalisation coming up.

a girl may be submissive to a guy but then dominant to another girl (obviously the other way round works as well).

a guy may be submissive to a Domme but himself be a Dom over a female sub

I have tried being a sub with an ex and I suck, emotionally, mentally it does absolutely nothing, I have a relatively high pain threshold and receiving just did nothing.

I've roll played ages ago as a sub, similar thing emotionally I cannot get it.

for a switch it is usually straightforward to achieve both rolls.

fyi, not on about sex here, this is on about simply being that person in everyday life (non work face).

[Asker]

I do agree. As a domina, this is just my personality. I’m not playing a role.

[ChrisMaster69]

Phew you know what I mean then, so yes same. I am just naturally me (people do confuse the polite side of things with me not being) To many get wrapped up in this as a bedroom thing, which is a personal annoyance but meh, that’s what happens when they make movies. And I realise I have just ‘mansplained’ (or rather Domsplained) to a Domme / Domina, there is a level of irony there lmao. Also respect to where it is due.

[Asker]

I’ve once met a dominant guy who was pretty masochistic. I think it’s rare but it happens.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes we are not all the same, we are individuals with various levels of needs and kinks from the mild to the dark, Life is about exploring and learning together.

[Asker]

I won’t complain. It was a lot of fun.

[ChrisMaster69]

And that is one of the things life is for, fun. No matter our kinks, our sexuality, it’s about a relationship of whatever type having fun, respect, trust etc for and with each other.

[jerdanro]

Probably. I am sexually dominant, but equal in relationship. I am a manager at work, but I don't dominate my employees. I encourage them, but I am the boss.

[Asker]

Matches what I think.

[jerdanro]

Is that you or your compliment.

[jerdanro]

That was meant as a question.

[wingattebaby16]

i have been dom in my dreams a few times.

but being the submissive with men, even my dreams are usually them doing stuff to me.

[Asker]

« Doing stuff » isn’t dominant by nature.

[MasterOfReality]

That’s normally how it is, or so I’ve read.