Do you think rubbing another girl's feet is considered cheating?

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0112358 Master
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If the guy in question has a foot fetish, yes.

You can’t play it both ways with a foot fetish. You see them as a sex object, fine. But you need to behave as you would around a sexual body part then. You don’t get free reign to ask women to show their feet or offer innocent foot massages. That’s exploiting you pretending you’re not into them and your partner would have every right to be annoyed.
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- Asker
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  Yes I have a food fetish and this girl's feet were absolutely gorgeous super sexy
- 0112358
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  Yeah. That’s cheating. It’s the same as if some other guy gave s girl a breast massage with her top off
- Asker
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  Yeah my girlfriend said me doing that was the same as her playing with a guy's dick
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- 0112358
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  It’s probably the same as her playing with a gay mans dick and being turned on by it. Literally. Like the woman whose feet you touched might not have found it sexual but -you did- I know it. You know it. Your girlfriend knows it. For you it was a sexual act.
- Asker
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  So do you think she should be able to do it then
- 0112358
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  Does she actually want to or just hurt you? If she actually wants to maybe you should either split up or partially open the relationship since it seems like you want to fool around with others. What’s supposed to happen afterwards?
- Asker
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  I think she actually wants to
dantetheexplorer Editor
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I won't say it's cheating. I would say it's inappropriate behavior and shows a lack of good judgment on your part, given the context that you're in a relationship.

Unless you're a licensed masseuse. I guess that would be okay.
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Anonymous
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its not cheating but this would make me VERY MAD. IM ALREADY MAD WITH YOU
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- Asker
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  I know what I did was wrong but my girlfriend thinks. It is cheating and now thinks that she should be able to cheat to
- Opinion Owner
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  I really dont want to be the crazy girlfriend but i dont i want my man touchimg other girls and i believe it is normal. I think she is overreacting a little bit, Talk with her tell her that she is right and you understand how she felt but she shouldn't cheat on you for no reason even if you have cheated on her
- Asker
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  Well I know what I did was wrong and I apologize
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- Asker
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  She thinks what I did was just as bad as as if I would have been playing with her boobs
SoSoSoConfused Xper 6
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I guess I would want to know why you did it first, then I could answer.
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- Asker
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  Well because she asked and then I couldn't help myself cuz her feet were so sexy looking
- SoSoSoConfused
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  Then yes, its cheating. Maybe not actually physically cheating, but cheating none the less.
- Asker
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  Do you think it's fair that now she thinks she should be able to cheat
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- SoSoSoConfused
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  I would break up with you. If she needs to cheat, you shouldn't be together.
- Asker
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  she thinks it would make things Fair
- SoSoSoConfused
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  That's BS, you two need to just end it.
- Asker
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  Yeah but neither of us want to do that
- SoSoSoConfused
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  Then deal with cheating.
- Asker
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  Do you think it would be a bad idea
- SoSoSoConfused
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  What? For her to cheat or for you to stay together? I think both are bad ideas.
- Asker
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  Yeah but I think it might be the only way
- SoSoSoConfused
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  So she has sex with someone and you are okay with that? All you did is touch someone's feet.
- Asker
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  Not yet she hasn't. Yes but touching her feet was sexual to me
- SoSoSoConfused
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  Might as well just have an open relationship, because obviously the 2 of you do not love and respect each other.
- Asker
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  I don't think I would ever want to have sex with anyone else

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truthbeknown Master
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It is if you are using your penis.
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OlderAndWiser Editor
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The salient question is not whether it is "cheating" but whether it violates your girlfriend's trust. Is it something that you did openly with y our girlfriend's knowledge or did you attempt to hide the fact that you did it?
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- Asker
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  I guess I was just doing it and she seen and got mad
- OlderAndWiser
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  And what was your motivation for doing it to the other girl?
- Asker
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  Well she asked and she has really nice feet
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- OlderAndWiser
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  Did you think about what your girlfriend would feel if she saw you doing it?
- Asker
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  No not at the time
- OlderAndWiser
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  Do you have a foot fetish?
- Asker
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  Yes I do
- OlderAndWiser
  +1 y
  So how did you expect your girlfriend to react? Were you trying to keep it from her?
- Asker
  +1 y
  I guess I wasn't really thinking about it at the time
- OlderAndWiser
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  Hopefully, that's the worst that your girlfriend concluded about you.
Pummel Xper 4
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No but highly inappropriate
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JMghow Xper 5
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Maybe... Are you rubbing them with your dick?
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- Asker
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  No but my dick was definitely hard while I was doing
- JMghow
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  Hmmm... then maybe in spirit, since you may have wanted to cheat and been working up to cheating, or you may have been doing it as a sexual act due to foot fetishism.
- Asker
  +1 y
  Yesterday it was sexual but I wouldn't have went any further than that
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- Asker
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  I mean yes it was
- JMghow
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  Then it is cheating. Sexual interactions with someone other than one's partner while in a committed relationship is always cheating. Period.
- Asker
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  Yeah I guess I realize that now
- Asker
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  No she think she should be able to do the same
- JMghow
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  Good for the goose is good for the gander, so you did set a standard... but two wrongs don't make a right. Y'all both need to work some things out.
- Asker
  +1 y
  Yeah she said if I'm really sorry I didn't want to work through this. I need to start by giving her permission
- JMghow
  +1 y
  Nope. Wrong is wrong.
Dargil Master
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A back story would get better answers.
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Prof_Don Master
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It’s a low-level offense, but this would be considered cheating
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Chaz269 Yoda
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If you wouldn't want your woman rubbing another guy's feet, and she didn't give you permission to rub other women's feet, then yes.
But you knew that.
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- Asker
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  I know what I did was probably wrong but not really cheating I don't think
- Chaz269
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  Then you know that splitting those hairs is a cop-out too, right? What are you preserving by making that distinction? That you're not REALLY a cheater? Doesn't hold water if you ask me. But you didn't, so I digress.
Vindi Xper 5
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Why would you rub her feet in the first place
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- Asker
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  She's a friend of mine her feet were sore and she has super sexy feet
- Vindi
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  That's not a good reason. If you tell your girlfriend/wife that reason, you're standing on the curb.
- Asker
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  Well I think she already knows and that's why she's so mad about it
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- Vindi
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  No shit.
- Asker
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  I know what I did was wrong but is it really the same as cheating
- Vindi
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  Not cheating, but I can understand how she thinks.
- Asker
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  But she thinks it's cheating and now that I cheated she thinks she should get to cheat too
- Vindi
  +1 y
  You shouldn't shove the blame about your relationship issues on her. You fucked up yes, do you understand her frustration? It's not cheating, she would be overreacting, but don't tell her that. Just say you thought it was harmless and you let yourself go, apologize and promise her you will never do something like that again. Give her time to cool down.
- Asker
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  Yeah I have apologized and tried telling her that
- Vindi
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  Give her time
- Asker
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  She's pretty stuck on the idea that she gets the cheat to now though
- Vindi
  +1 y
  Your relationship sounds fucked up. Maybe time to move on. You have the feeling you want something else, she does now.
- 0112358
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  He has a foot fetish. That’s sort of relevant to whether it’s cheating
- Vindi
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  No, you can still control yourself.
- 0112358
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  He can control himself, I just mean in terms of whether it’s cheating or not. Someone without a foot fetish might think they rubbed someone’s feet and it was giving a sore friend a massage... maybe. But for him this was a sexual act and his girlfriend knows it.
- Vindi
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  Yes, that's what I meant, he thinks she has sexy feet, which indicates he went for a sexual act
ChocolateCheesecake Guru
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I'd be mad
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- Asker
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  But would you consider it cheating
- Asker
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  My girlfriend thinks it is
- ChocolateCheesecake
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  Unless my boyfriend is a masseuse it's definitely cheating
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- Asker
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  No but the girl was a really good friend of mine and I used to do it to her before so I guess that's the time I wasn't thinking it was that big of a deal
- ChocolateCheesecake
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  Think of it this way, would you be upset if she started rubbing the different guys back
- Asker
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  I mean maybe a little but I wouldn't think of it as cheating.
- Asker
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  And she compared me rubbing her feet to her rubbing some other guy's penis
- ChocolateCheesecake
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  Lmao that's a bit too much
- Asker
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  I mean I know what I did was probably wrong but I don't think of it as cheating but now she thinks that I cheated and being that I cheated. Now she gets to cheat too
- 0112358
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  He has a foot fetish. So for him it is cheating.
- ChocolateCheesecake
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  @0112358 if you know that for a fact then I agree that is cheating
- 0112358
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  He’s said it answering others
- Asker
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  Yes I do have a foot fetish
- ChocolateCheesecake
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  That changes everything you should have put that in your question
- Asker
  +1 y
  Does that make it a lot worse then
- Asker
  +1 y
  I guess the more I think about it the more I realize how wrong I was
- ChocolateCheesecake
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  Glad you realize your mistake
- Asker
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  I guess at the time I was just thinking it's just feet no big deal
- Asker
  +1 y
  So do you think it's fair that now she should be able to cheat to then?
- ChocolateCheesecake
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  That's between the two of you
- Asker
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  I mean I do want to make things right with her
- Asker
  +1 y
  I know what I did was probably cheating but I don't think it's quite the same as her wanting to have sex with someone
outside_Toronto Master
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Does your wife know your doing it? Is she ok with it?
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- Asker
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  She caught me and no she was not okay with it
- outside_Toronto
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  So there's your answer. It only matters what she perceives.
- Asker
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  But now she thinks she should be able to cheat too
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- outside_Toronto
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  Sounds like you 2 need to talk this out
- Asker
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  We have she said I got to do something I wanted no she should get to do the same
Philyouup Guru
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If a woman massages my feet, she might as well go right to jerking me off. That is how much it turns me on.
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- Asker
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  Yeah I'm very turned on by feet
CT_CD Master
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Not cheating
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- Asker
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  But my girlfriend seems to think it was
- CT_CD
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  Break up with her
- Asker
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  Well I don't want to do that
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- Asker
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  But now she thinks she should get to cheat to
- CT_CD
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  Let her cheat
- Asker
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  I'm thinking I probably will. things would be even cuz I do have a foot fetish and I sexually enjoyed touching that girl's feet
- Asker
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  I mean I really like feet but my girlfriend doesn't have pretty sexy feet
- Asker
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  And being I have to play with some sexy feet. She said she likes big dick but I don't have one so she should get to play with one
- CT_CD
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  I agree
- Asker
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  Yeah maybe then we can have some kind of an arrangement