Do you think that he still loves me or is he losing interest in me or something?

[xJayleenx]

I’ll list the cons first. 1. He’s often on his phone, he used to use it right after sex while cooling off until I told him that that made me feel bad and when he’s on his phone he says that he’s checking his sports team. 2. He’s always tired meanwhile I’m always excited this makes me feel bad sometimes especially since I’m the only one that works and I can’t understand him being tired all the time. 4. He doesn’t always ask me if I cum after sex he rarely asks me. 5. He takes more than an hour to text back meanwhile in the beginning we would stay up late texting each other every minute or so and he’s always on that phone. 6. When I had a possible uti he never asked me if I was okay or how I was feeling not before sex or anything maybe he just forgot because it’s finals week? Here are the pros: 1. He goes out of his way to take me and pick me up from work 5 days a week. 2. He tells me that he loves me all the time. 3. He has always been so affectionate and sweet 4. He tells me how pretty I am every time he sees me. 5. He does talk about our future and saving money he doesn’t work though and only does deliveries sometimes. 6. He’s supportive and tells me how proud he is of me (he’s the only person that tells me that). Also this isn’t really a pro or con but he sometimes cancels sex and then ends up doing
it lol. Could he be tired of me? Or not interested? Because he’s always tired when he’s around me :(

[HighlyVolatile]

Relationships are a two-way thing as I see it. I talk very lovingly about my wife on here but sometimes she'll turn into a seemingly cold person just reading her books all day if I don't find a way to spruce things up. And sometimes I'll do the same if she doesn't.

I always started with the goal of entertaining each other. I don't think it's a bad one, and I sometimes measure the health of my relationship with energy, smiles, and laughs. If you're in it for the long haul and not married to a bubbly Olympian, you'll find some low energy here and there.

That's a challenge as I see it to spruce things up. Of course, you never want to get to the point of taking the entirety of that burden, but I've found a healthy relationship usually requires us to take turns being inventive in ways to have fun and laughter.

From the pros you listed, it seems to me like he's committed, and that you have more going there than most after being together so long. So maybe it's your turn to spruce things up and then maybe he can find his turn.

[HighlyVolatile]

Sometimes when I find dry spells with my wife, I see it as a challenge to find something she'd absolutely love to do even if I don't think I'd like it so much. So I try that and she starts smiling and laughing and talking to me much more and I actually enjoy that time with her doing something I didn't think I'd like doing so much, and then she reciprocates. And it starts to remind me that what she enjoys starts to become what I enjoy, and maybe vice versa for her when she reciprocates.

[NathanDavis]

if he doesn't work.. who is paying for his expenses and living costs?

[xJayleenx]

He lives with his parents and so do I. Another thing I forgot to mention is that im the only one making plans as to different ways to hang out he never makes any

[NathanDavis]

how long the two of you have been together? it seems to me like he is just very comfortable with things as they are, so yes... it is possible that he has lost interest and excitement over the dynamics of the relationship, not necessarily over you perhaps, it could be a generalized situation... you mentioned finals too, is he studying college? are you?

[xJayleenx]

We both are college students and we’ve been together for over two years

[xJayleenx]

I work full time though and don’t understand why he’s always tired

[NathanDavis]

do you remember how he was two years ago... was he more energetic and excited to be with you, try things and stuff... back then? was he more excited about completing college, pursuing a career, finding a job? did he dedicate to certain hobbies? and if yes, he was or had that, has he changed this overtime? has he dropped plans, quit them... or just seemed to lose interest or excitement over these things? what I am trying to figure out is if... his energy levels and enthusiasm about things in his life, including his relationship with you... have they changed over time, have they decreased... or was he always more like this, low energy and low levels of interest and excitement?

[xJayleenx]

Well since the beginning he has always said that he was a bit tired everytime I asked him, since the beginning I had to be the one to ask to hang out, I feel like the only things that changed is now he’s taking longer to text back at night and he seems a bit more tired than he was before. We can’t even watch a show together anymore because he’s always tired or we’re doing something like once a week lol. He’s still just as sweet as he always was just less paragraphs and stuff lol. In the beginning I had to pay for food sometimes too

[NathanDavis]

so, he has never really had that much energy or enthusiasm for anything... work, studies, a career, hobbies? no exercise, no sports? and now he's not that attentive with you? do you think it is possible that he has an addiction to the screen on his phone? maybe a game in there, an app... or some online community/activity?

[PrettyPriya]

I see you have that “mode” turned on still. Good boy. 🙂

[xJayleenx]

He is an honors student and knows what he wants to do with his career he studies more than I do but I never actually study just work which is bad. He knows what he’s doing with his life more than me. He just wasn’t the type to initiate hang outs in the beginning I guess I don’t know why but now we have a schedule to hang out and stuff. He loves sports he doesn’t play them but he’s always on his phone checking his teams and he also uses discord a lot and he games but I don’t know how often

[NathanDavis]

@PrettyPriya lol... am I not, always...

[xJayleenx]

Today I sent him an audio saying that I lived him but he didn’t respond to it until I called him rude he said that he was just studying and talking to his dad. He is always sweet in person though and super cuddly

[xJayleenx]

Always saying that he loves me and that im do pretty and that he’s so lucky. But then when I asked a question about him being tired all the time someone told me that he’s no lomger interested in me so that made me worry

[NathanDavis]

have you asked him about why he is "so tired" all the time, does he mean that physically, mentally... both? have you asked him what he is tired about yet? if he is actually tired, then you should find out why is that happening every day if he is not actually tired, it could he just an excuse he comes up with.. . in order to keep doing other things, with his phone... probably

[xJayleenx]

He says it while driving his car usually that he’s a little tired and if we’re in bed together sometimes he’ll fall asleep lol

[xJayleenx]

I don’t remember his response to the other times this Friday he said that he was tired because he only slept two hours

[xJayleenx]

But he has always said that he’s a little tired

[NathanDavis]

hmm, in the car? after college classes? and in bed? at that time of the day or night? is that on the weekends?

[xJayleenx]

I feel like a lot of the times that I've asked him he’s been driving to his house or something other times we were hanging out and he either stayed awake or took a nap. He doesn’t take naps everytime but now we can’t even watch an episode together maybe it’s because we only hang out for one almost full day and the other day is only for a few hours because of my shift

[NathanDavis]

if he is sleeping just two hours... then that is probably the phone addiction, perhaps he is staying up, late at night, on the phone so I think you should ask and have a talk about this, his phone habits

[xJayleenx]

That was only that one day though and he was probably studying for finals. The other days I don’t know why he was tired

[Berethor]

It's normal to be less excited than in the beginning.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/SeenItAll

[xJayleenx]

Im still just as excited

[Berethor]

You are the one who acts unusual. :)

[Chiarac2003]

The cons outway the pros….. he doesn’t work?
Big con… but only you know that dynamic.
His needs seem to be put ahead of yours. Again I don’t know the dynamics. But on paper….. he doesn’t really seem to treat you the way you deserve. I mean… the “uti” thing alone bugs me. Never mind he doesn’t even ask about ur orgasm…. I don't know. I could go on.

[xJayleenx]

He did ask me if I was okay (because of the uti) but I had to complain about it first

[Chiarac2003]

Omg non of ur cons were things I would accept. But that’s me. I’m jus saying…a pro being he drives you to work. That’s nice “but he’s unemployed” so he mine as well. Hunny it isn’t going to get a world better than it is right now. That’s all I’ll say. Jus my opinion.

[WhitneySnow]

Some people are just obsessive about clearing their notifications. The rest could go either way. Some good stuff and some bad stuff. But my intuition tells me he still loves you. You’re just feeling insecure and anxious.

[RealMarek]

I think you need to sit down with him and discuss all these things. Does he have an explanation for the notifications? Can he unplug from his phone? Does he have a plan to earn income someday soon? With sex, let him know what you need. Men and women can be very different. And the good things as well, so he knows you appreciate him.

[RebeccaBI2000]

He does love you, but he is hiding something. You two are also not on the same level. Your working and he only does deliveries at times. Sounds like he is not trying very hard

[Stevefiveo]

It sounds like he is ok but it sounds like you could do a lot better.

[xJayleenx]

He’s actually amazing compared to how society is nowadays. He’s a good guy.

[Stevefiveo]

Oh ok.

[varan69]

Just for curiosity, did my last answer made u wonder?

And there little stuff that ur looking at with all respect to me those are complains that are a bit to simple. If he treats u nice, tells u I love u, how pretty u look, caresses you then u have a good guy. Not all guys do that at all most men tend to just stop being so lovey dovey and do their own stuff and those who love their girlfriend/wife tend to love her touch her (not sexual all the time) and just listen I don't know there's so many things u should look at. And if things like those bother u why don't u tell him, I'm pretty sure he also has his complains or little stuff he doesn't like that u do. If u ever need anything feel free to message just in case

[varan69]

Sorry @xjayleenx

[Deku2009]

You might be putting too much thought into This. Does he even try to make you cum? I would talk to him (communication is key to any relationship

[Ragingwhisper]

Saying I love you means nothing.
Actions have already told you what you need to know.
He is a guy, probably getting ready to leave but not brave enough to tell you.
Decide what your worth in this life. Tell him what you need to be happy or quit wasting his and your time.
He is not god.
You are a woman... start acting like it

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nah he's still interested

[MrSmithee]

yeah

[DoYouLoveCookies]

He may love you and make you feel that way, but I don't think the truth is because money is often the main problem with people. Working is hard, but generally people don't want to work. It could be that he sees you as a savior because he doesn't want to work and that's why he doesn't want to lose you and that's why he always says he loves you. If your boyfriend is still with you when he works, he loves you.

[xJayleenx]

He has more money in his savings account than I do he just doesn’t have a full time job right mow and does deliveries maybe every other week

[DoYouLoveCookies]

If he has money he can get bored because men usually get bored easily with relationships.

[xJayleenx]

He ain’t rich though

[Anonymous]

Nobody gets a 10 on 10 in life you need to understand that first and foremost, so you gotta analyse if pros outnumber cons for you, secondly he is a human being not a robot who will act 100% according to you, he might loose his real identity he tries to be something else.

My opinion might sound harsh but all i am saying is truth and nobody should tell you whether you should breakup with him or not, you gotta make the final decision on your own.