Do you think that he thinks I’m easy now?

[Helppleasemaybe]

My boyfriend is a conservative Christian that believes in no sex until marriage even though he has had sex himself and I am a virgin. We we’re talking about our ex relationships and He told me that he didn’t see how beautiful sex was and the respect it required and when I told him that my ex just wanted me for sex and that I wasn’t ready back then and that I’m still not ready now he said that he could go his whole life without sex because he loved me and my reply to that was “It’s not like I never want to have sex I’m not a nun lol I just would like to wait for sometime” and then he replied that he could wait something like that and that he was sorry if he weirded me out because he often said that he wants to marry me. Did I make myself look easy by saying that “It’s not like I never want to have sex I’m not a nun lol I just would like to wait for sometime”.

[PrudentGuy]

That is a statement of fact. Every healthy human that is non-asexual has a strong desire for sex. This is what God created all creatures with.

After creating the animals Genesis 1:22 "And God blessed them, saying, Be fruitful, and multiply, and fill the waters in the seas, and let fowl multiply in the earth."

Also after creating Adam and Eve Genesis 1:28 "And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply..."

These two "commandments" are very special because they are "blessed" before given to animals and man.

Hence sex has its place and what you told him is a manifestation of your natural desire for sex.

For a true follower of Christ and a Bible reader, we won't treat you as easy. Rather we understand your needs and desires to balance between love and lust. Hence no worries if he is truly a "Christian" and Bible reader.

[PrudentGuy]

Oops... I thought you're a Christian. Sorry for the Bible verses. But nevertheless, if you do not want to wait until marriage, then I suggest you talk to him privately and define your boundaries and time-phase to "open up". It helps the relationship to be alive.

[Helppleasemaybe]

I don’t think he cares about marriage anymore lol I think he told me whenever you’re ready lol

[PrudentGuy]

Enjoy your romance then 😁 Don't rush, but set "goals" that will prepare you for it. It's great to live a sex-filled lifestyle, especially if he agrees to be monogamous.

[I-am-a-nobody]

Maybe, it's my own bias to warn younger folks to wait for marriage, but...
Just reading what you said, it sounded like you do NOT want to wait for marriage.
I think you should both make it clear to each other to hold off from sex or even heavy contact before marriage.
You mention that he is a conservative Christian. If you are not a Christian, I would suggest, as a Christian, that you separate.
If you're both Christians who desire to wait until marriage for sex, you both have my blessing.

[Helppleasemaybe]

I am not Christian but I believe in God I just don’t follow any religion

[Helppleasemaybe]

I don’t want to wait for marriage because I don’t know if I’ll ever get married and I don’t want to die a virgin I want to experience things I’ve been kind of fantasizing about sex since I was 10 years old and I’ve never even had it. I want to have it but after dating for at least a year because I think I need time

[I-am-a-nobody]

I wanted sex since age 11. I was a 34 yo virgin. You want to talk about waiting! It was all worth it. I don't regret the "missed" opportunities at all. My wife was a virgin, too, so we had to learn from each other. We did it God's way by God's strength. God created us. He knows best. You really need to look into Christianity.

[Helppleasemaybe]

But he’s not and he’s supposedly the religious one

[Helppleasemaybe]

I come from a Christian family

[Helppleasemaybe]

But who are you to be criticizing me for that? I’m not promiscuous I just want one person forever that’s all I want and I’m shy too but I just want to experience things it seems like everyone my age has experienced things except for me

[I-am-a-nobody]

I just want what's best for you. Not everyone is doing it. My 18 yo son isn't having sex. I know another couple that held off from having sex and they were in their thirties.

[jgracem]

No you absolutely did not make yourself look easy. You would have made yourself look easy if you had sex when you weren't ready.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Not at all

[Alexandrubaschet08]

I think you are very difucul and i don't like couple who whait whntil mariage, is a whaist of time, as long you are decided to take that person in the future

[mandowood]

No you don't look easy