Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Do you think that males should earn sex from females? Why or why not?
Anonymous
I wholeheartedly believe that women should make men earn sex. Due to the growing number of low quality males who prove to be painfully disappointing and hurt the psyche of women for YEARS after they are gone, I believe that sex is something they should acquire or deserve as a result of effort and action. Now, am I here to impose my personal life choice on other women? No. I'm simply expressing myself and why I have made this decision. So don't mistakenly think that I'm trying to convince every other female to function the way I do because I'm not. However, this is what works for me and it has eliminated a lot of stress, frustration, and pain from my womanhood. Not making men earn your sexual side is the leading cause of getting played, getting used, and potentially getting knocked up by someone who genuinely would not have purposely chosen you to be their 18 year partner as the mother of their child *and vice versa: I know there are women out there who love their children deeply, but they would not have chosen the man who conceived that child* That is just plain, unfiltered honesty. Lets not be delusionaly optimistic and pretend that sex is just some free, happy thing that doesn't come with unfavorable repercussions. Making a guy earn sex is a woman's way of avoiding some of those unfavorable repercussions. Considering the decline of men who are well-rounded and possess genuine, solid integrity, it's not in your best interest to perform such a risky, intimate act with them. I think men should be deserving of sexual intercourse because there are so many long term emotional risks a female makes when she sleeps with someone. For me personally, a man must accumulate noble, honorable, genuine behavior before I even consider giving the most intimate piece of myself to him. At least that way if I do get hurt, I can proudly say it was a hurt worth having and not be overwhelmed with shame and regret. How about you? What is your personal opinion on this topic?
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Do you think adopting this mentality would make womanhood easier for many females?
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Every female, please direct your attention to Hrothgar's answer. This is my point exactly.
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What Girls & Guys Said
11 18No one should pay/get paid for having sex.
No one here said they should.
So in other threads women are constantly saying that women want sex just as much as men and are just as horny as men, but then in questions like this one they say how much they hate men always wanting sex and that they should earn it. Nothing about women earning sex and nothing from men saying women are too interested in sex. Hmmm...
So which is it, ladies? Get your fucking story straight.
I never said anything about hating men. Why do you insist on assuming things about how I feel then going off of them as if they are facts?
I didn't say you or anyone hated men. I said that women say they hate how men always want sex. Please reread what I wrote.
oh, sorry! phew! I have sleepy eyes, my bad. In actual reality, there's a select few women who are so sex crazed and want sex as much as men. Maybe there are a lot of those girls on GAG, but in the real world, in the general public, most females aren't like that.
No it was my bad. It was poorly written and kinda confusing.
Wow, this is very feminist! I think the heartache can and today frequently comes from just as much the women as it does the men. It is your decision who you let between your legs and that should be enough reason itself for carefully choosing who you have sex with. We are not dogs or pets who do a trick for the opportunity to be between your walls. Only you can decide when you are ready or who is worthy and you have that right as a female. This was just flat out offensive to all the good guys out there, thank you for the generalization. This is actually very similar to another thread I just read and posted in. My post is the long one...
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q962101-am-i-the-only-female-who-s-annoyed-that-sex-seems-to-be-a-major
Do not simplify my most sincere feelings to the term 'feminism'. 8/10 times, I don't even agree with feministic ideals and I don't appreciate you categorizing me like that.
No, this really isn't feminist. It's much closer to misandry. Most feminists just advocate both partners only having sex when they're ready, and not pressuring each other into it. This is more about the woman manipulating the man with sex.
Both of you need to stop putting words in my mouth as if you are nationally accredited psychologists with PHD's, the credentials to "diagnose" me... as if I sat down on your black leather couch and you had enough exposure to me to accurately call me a feminist or a man hater. @cipher42, do not try to twist my words my proclaiming your misinterpretation as if it's a fact. I know damn well what I meant and in no way or shape did I imply hatred for men or the notion that women should manipulate men with sex. Do not go around voicing your misinterpretations as if they are facts.
But it's along the same line of thought as the idea that women can manipulate men with sex. I'm sure that wasn't your meaning, but it's certainly a related concept. Both methods effectively view sex as a reward, as something that must be earned, not just as something to make both partners happy for the simple sake of being happy.
@Cipher, no, it's not. That's an entirely different topic. If you feel like it's on the same line of thought and you want to talk about it so much, then go create your own post about it instead of falsely claiming to other users what I think and feel.
Jesus, relax a little. If you are not interested or do not agree with our opinions, you have every right to ignore them. If you think we are wrong in our thinking, then maybe next time you will choose better words. I read and took it exactly as it reads and responded accordingly. I gave you the male perspective to your question and it is coming from a guy that was screwed over by is third or fourth girlfriend and she manipulated me into thinking she was someone she was not and allowed me to believe the things she said were true, when they weren't. I ended up giving my virginity to her and then she cheated on me with a guy I use to be close friends with. If you do not want perspective, then don't ask the question. Take a chill pill. lol
Oh no no no, don't get me wrong. I totally agree with YOUR opinion; I was just annoyed at you categorizing me as a feminist. In no way, shape, or form am I discrediting good men. I realize that there are some damn wonderful men out there, but what you have to understand is that because they are the minority, it's simply wise for me and other women to think this way. Once again, don't misunderstand: I appreciate your contribution here, that part about you calling me a feminist was just annoying lol
: / I'm sorry that happened to you with that grimy girl. Did you ever find it in yourself to move past that hurt? Guys getting used and played when it comes to virginity and sex isn't really talked about because so many guys act like they're just happy to get it that they won't even view it as getting used...
Still not what feminism is about. I'm simply bothered that both of you seem to think that feminism is about disliking and mistrusting men. So Asker, you shouldn't be offended to be called a feminist, and Anonymous, you shouldn't be using feminism as a bad thing to call something.
I did, right after that girlfriend I met the most amazing and sincere girl in the world and I am getting ready to propose to her now. I just had to remind myself that all girls are not like that and I would not give it up to another girl unless I knew it was right and I knew absolutely for sure that he cared about and loved me. My current girlfriend is the one I spoke of in this question. Once again, mine was the long answer.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q962101-am-i-the-only-female-who-s-annoyed-that-sex-seems-to-be-a-major
That link did not work for some reason.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q962101-am-i-the-only-female-who-s-annoyed-that-sex-seems-to-be-a-major
In no way, shape, or form are you discrediting good men? BullSHIT, lady!!! you know EXACTLY what the fuck you're doing!!!