Do you think that someone's sexual fetishes last forever?

[scooogy]

If you have one, you hide that? And how?

[redeyemindtricks]

If a desire is strong enough to deserve being called a fetish, then, yeah, I'd be pretty sure that it will shape a person's sexuality for life.

I'm NOT saying, though, that someone's desires won't continue to *evolve*. As someone gets older, she/he will probably continue to discover more and more strong sexual tendencies, desires, and, very possibly, fetishes.

Also, certain fetishes might be *transformed* as someone gets older. Like, a guy might have a lifelong fetish for stockings... but, if he marries a woman who gets him *really* into wedding dresses and bridal lingerie and all that stuff, then he might find that his fetish is now specifically focused on WHITE stockings. <3

[redeyemindtricks]

Oh, *mine* in particular? Lol

Well, the strongest undercurrent in MY sexuality is probably my thing for what I'd call "controlled fury". It's the sort of uniquely male anger (I don't even think a woman could credibly have it) that makes me feel both protected and submissive at the same time.

I don't even know if this could properly be called a "fetish" -- because it's such a common female desire (the word "fetish" is generally reserved for more niche desires) -- but, I was well aware of it at a VERY young age. In fact, all the way back before I even knew, or even cared, what sex was.
I discovered these desires when I was something like 9 years old. I wrote about that here (it's the girl mho):
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1864826-girls-at-what-age-was-ure-first-masturbation-process-did-u-tell

When I first met my husband, I knew he was The One mostly because he had that fury in his eyes -- I wrote about that

[redeyemindtricks]

here (in the regular girl opinions):
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1838555-what-was-the-first-thing-that-made-you-notice-like-your-actual

Incidentally, that ^^ was one of the first opinions I ever wrote on this site.

I don't think I have any particularly strange fetishes... but the tendencies I do have, I tend to have to a GREAT extreme.
I hinted at that a little bit here (in the regular girl opinions), although there's only a certain amount I'm willing to write publicly on a site like this:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1969724-what-is-your-idea-of-rough-sex

[redeyemindtricks]

Now that I think about it -- I suppose I do have 2 things that are sort of like fetishes.

1)
Tasting myself on my man...
As described here
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2050541-do-girls-have-fetishes

2)
Wedding stuff...
This actually started out as a way to seduce my man into liking the idea of marriage and commitment more, lol. As soon as we started talking about marriage, I started *relentlessly* associating "yr wife" and "marry me" with hot filthy dirty sex. I'd wear white stuff to bed ALL the time... I'd tell him "cum inside yr wife" when he'd finish inside me... I'd send him dirty pictures of myself in white lingerie with messages like "I can't wait"... and so on.
Well, here we are, fifteen and a half years of marriage later, and... both of us are still obsessed. I have a whole drawer of bridal lingerie, and a couple pairs of super tall white stripper heels, under the bed -- and I even

[redeyemindtricks]

have 2 actual wedding dresses, that he altered to make them extra slutty, just for the bedroom. We have another "wedding night" at least once every week.

[FallOutBoy2001]

I couldn't get off thinking of being screamed at, people do that to me and I literally want to just run away as fast as I can or hide. Fun fact, a woman is definitaly capable of the type of screaming you were talking about, my mother can show you that

[redeyemindtricks]

@FallOutBoy2001 While maintaining perfect control, though? I've seen women erupt into some pretty scary screaming fits, but, honestly, the "scary" mostly came from the loss of control.

[FallOutBoy2001]

I've never seen anyone have controlled anger, but yeah there's no control when she's yelling

[scooogy]

@FallOutBoy2001 I sometimes shout at car drivers in the streets when I'm upset about their dumb driving behaviour.

[FallOutBoy2001]

Ok there's that. It's kinda hilarious

[redeyemindtricks]

Tx for the MHLuv <3

[anonman32]

they probably do. with my ex we would do all sorts of sexy stuff and the handcuffs came in fast and so did other things. she had send me some pics in a pink sexy cute girly girl sleeping dress she wore it when we did sexy stuff and now i have this fetish for these types cute sexy girly clothes.

its weird how these things work man.

[Borginborg]

I have lots of fetishes but I dont hide them from gf's what is the point of a fetish if they are hidden? If she doesn't like or can't accept my fetishes I throw her back and keep fishing

[redeyemindtricks]

That doesn't answer the question... lol

[scooogy]

@redeyemindtricks what about yours, hunny?

[Borginborg]

@redeyemindtricks your right, well I'm only 40 and my fetishes have changed. I live out a fetish and then I either like it or don't. Sometimes the fantasy is more appealing than the actual act. For example BDSM. Loved the idea of it turn out I enjoy the BD but not so much the SM

[Borginborg]

My personal fetish has been mentioned many times on gag lol I like Dom (owner)/pet stuff (especially when I get to give her leash to someone else and watch him defile her). I also enjoy pushing sexual boundaries (what you mean you have never had a guy fuck you up the ass while using a 12 inch dildo up your vag?). Exhibitionism/voyeurism (nothing beats sex in a public domain with an audience).

[redeyemindtricks]

I don't like the "B" at all. Anything artificial, or involving "props", is a HUGE turn-off to me -- so being tied up with any sort of ropes, or on any sort of bondage gear, would just be a big bag of "nope". Being spontaneously tied up (e. g., with my own clothing, or with my husband's belt, or something else that's NORMALLY a part of the environment) could work, but that's about it. (For the same reason, I can't stand dildos, either.) I've seen the "D" used to stand for at least three different things. What does it stand for, to you?

[Borginborg]

@redeyemindtricks the traditional meaning of domination. and I do agree that bondage using things normal in the environment is kinkier than props.

[Borginborg]

@redeyemindtricks with the domination I enjoy when a chick is willing to 'fight' for the domination. Usually consists of multiple role reversals during love making

[redeyemindtricks]

hm... the original meaning of that acronym is actually "b&d, s&m", which is "bondage & discipline, sadism & masochism".
ironically, although the letters D and S are next to each other, that's just a coincidence; the idea that the D in BDSM is "domination" is actually a misappropriation.

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"with the domination I enjoy when a chick is willing to 'fight' for the domination"

^^ well duh... who would want to tame a housecat? lol

I actually wrote an opinion about this
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2014236-does-this-degrade-women

[Borginborg]

@redeyemindtricks kewl I will read it in a minute :)

[Owl95]

I would say no, if someone is fulfilled than fetish becomes secondary. Some also get there wish and thing, I was crazy to want this.

[madelacroix]

Yea, to a certain degree. Some new ones may replace old ones, but it is part of your sexuality, not a distinct illness or something negative.

[sweetshyguy]

Yep Femdom is my life now

[Anonymous]

Mine started at a young age & are still with me.

[scooogy]

childhood or puberty? and do you try to hide it?

[Opinion Owner]

Before puberty & yes I hide it from most people.

[scooogy]

has it come up due to an event?

[Opinion Owner]

None that I recall.