If a desire is strong enough to deserve being called a fetish, then, yeah, I'd be pretty sure that it will shape a person's sexuality for life.
I'm NOT saying, though, that someone's desires won't continue to *evolve*. As someone gets older, she/he will probably continue to discover more and more strong sexual tendencies, desires, and, very possibly, fetishes.
Also, certain fetishes might be *transformed* as someone gets older. Like, a guy might have a lifelong fetish for stockings... but, if he marries a woman who gets him *really* into wedding dresses and bridal lingerie and all that stuff, then he might find that his fetish is now specifically focused on WHITE stockings. <30 0 0 0Oh, *mine* in particular? Lol
Well, the strongest undercurrent in MY sexuality is probably my thing for what I'd call "controlled fury". It's the sort of uniquely male anger (I don't even think a woman could credibly have it) that makes me feel both protected and submissive at the same time.
I don't even know if this could properly be called a "fetish" -- because it's such a common female desire (the word "fetish" is generally reserved for more niche desires) -- but, I was well aware of it at a VERY young age. In fact, all the way back before I even knew, or even cared, what sex was.
I discovered these desires when I was something like 9 years old. I wrote about that here (it's the girl mho):
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1864826-girls-at-what-age-was-ure-first-masturbation-process-did-u-tell
When I first met my husband, I knew he was The One mostly because he had that fury in his eyes -- I wrote about thathere (in the regular girl opinions):
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1838555-what-was-the-first-thing-that-made-you-notice-like-your-actual
Incidentally, that ^^ was one of the first opinions I ever wrote on this site.
I don't think I have any particularly strange fetishes... but the tendencies I do have, I tend to have to a GREAT extreme.
I hinted at that a little bit here (in the regular girl opinions), although there's only a certain amount I'm willing to write publicly on a site like this:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1969724-what-is-your-idea-of-rough-sexNow that I think about it -- I suppose I do have 2 things that are sort of like fetishes.
1)
Tasting myself on my man...
As described here
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2050541-do-girls-have-fetishes
2)
Wedding stuff...
This actually started out as a way to seduce my man into liking the idea of marriage and commitment more, lol. As soon as we started talking about marriage, I started *relentlessly* associating "yr wife" and "marry me" with hot filthy dirty sex. I'd wear white stuff to bed ALL the time... I'd tell him "cum inside yr wife" when he'd finish inside me... I'd send him dirty pictures of myself in white lingerie with messages like "I can't wait"... and so on.
Well, here we are, fifteen and a half years of marriage later, and... both of us are still obsessed. I have a whole drawer of bridal lingerie, and a couple pairs of super tall white stripper heels, under the bed -- and I even
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they probably do. with my ex we would do all sorts of sexy stuff and the handcuffs came in fast and so did other things. she had send me some pics in a pink sexy cute girly girl sleeping dress she wore it when we did sexy stuff and now i have this fetish for these types cute sexy girly clothes.
its weird how these things work man.0 0 0 0I have lots of fetishes but I dont hide them from gf's what is the point of a fetish if they are hidden? If she doesn't like or can't accept my fetishes I throw her back and keep fishing
0 0 0 0That doesn't answer the question... lol
@redeyemindtricks what about yours, hunny?
@redeyemindtricks your right, well I'm only 40 and my fetishes have changed. I live out a fetish and then I either like it or don't. Sometimes the fantasy is more appealing than the actual act. For example BDSM. Loved the idea of it turn out I enjoy the BD but not so much the SM
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2 3I would say no, if someone is fulfilled than fetish becomes secondary. Some also get there wish and thing, I was crazy to want this.
0 0 1 0Yea, to a certain degree. Some new ones may replace old ones, but it is part of your sexuality, not a distinct illness or something negative.
0 0 0 0Yep Femdom is my life now
0 0 0 0Mine started at a young age & are still with me.
0 0 0 0childhood or puberty? and do you try to hide it?
Before puberty & yes I hide it from most people.
has it come up due to an event?
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