Do you think their is anything wrong with having sex before marriage?

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  • It was a bit of a struggle for me internally to see how I weighed and viewed sex to my personal standards and values. But ultimately no, I personally didn't see it as "wrong" for desiring it before marriage. But I'm not one to promiscuously seek out sex with every good looking guy I see either, I still hold it to a somewhat sacred value and only share myself intimately with one I'm in a committed relationship with. I find sex to be a means of bonding and connecting on a far more deeper level, something that's shared with someone I truly trust and love at the time - may he end up being my husband or not down the road, I don't know. But if at the given time of the relationship I feel emotionally and physically attached, I don't find it "wrong" to engage in sex.

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  • If you take precautions against getting pregnant, then no its not wrong.

    I'll probably get flamed for this. If you are careless and bring a child into the world without a stable relationship, I think so. Children need parents, yeah that was plural. It's not fair to the child or the guy. So take precautions. Go ahead flame away.

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  • Sometimes I'm really baffled at how young people can still have a mindset like their living in a bubble isolated from the real world.
    Why would there be anything wrong with having sex before marriage? Why wouldn't it be MUCH more reasonable to not marry someone you don't even know you're sexually compatible with? Why do people with this weird mindset act like marriage is still even a goal for everyone? So many people don't want to get married. Are they supposed to not have sex? What about people who do want to get married but haven't found the right one yet and are in their 30s? Are they supposed to live their young lives sexless?
    So many questions, so little reaonsable answers from the "no sex before marriage" cult...

  • I used to think shacking up and playing house was a bad idea. Now, not so much. If you get the sexual-compatibility thing wrong, you sign yourself up for a lifetime of disappointment and frustration.
    Hell, I would buy a pair of shoes without trying them one. A lifetime commitment to a woman? She better be ALL THAT and a bag of chips. LOL

    If you're waiting for marriage for religious reasons, then just find someone like-minded and plan it together. For the rest of us mere mortals, focus on find a really good prospect, and then develop a meaningful relationship. The sex will come naturally, and it will be really good. If it's not, you move on.

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  • As long as it's safe sex, there is no real problem.

    I would suggest waiting until you have a more serious relationship though, just because... things happen.

  • Not with the way things are today. Marriage itself has never been more rare or less viable than it is today, so I wouldn't make anything dependant on it.

    • Why do marriages fail? It's usually because someone cheats, and/or because someone isn't satisfied with the other person's body because they're comparing them to someone else.

    • @Jamie05rhs Marriages fail because people have unrealistic expectations and/or because one or both partners are selfish.

    • @MrOracle I agree 100%. That's part of what I was trying to say.

  • People have to do what is comfortable for them. Some people wait until marriage, some wait until they feel close and committed to someone and then there are people who are comfortable with casual. I'd say there is no wrong or right but what works well for the individual person.

  • Nope, go ahead

  • Not at all, in fact it is absolutely is logical and sensible. Imagine getting married and then finding out that you were not really matched sexually, that would be awful.

  • Nope, it's absolutely normal. Only dogmatic people care about what's going on in other people's bedrooms.

    • It has ben scientifically proven that fornication brings people closer to Satan, whether they believe in him or not.

    • It's been scientifically proven that you sacrificed your brain to satan and that's why you spew such bullshit.

    • Wusses cuss. It has been proven. Look it up. Premarital sex grieves the Holy Ghost.

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  • Any Twin Peaks fans in the house? Cause "What year is it?"

  • Wait for marriage for sex will not magically change or improve anything. You can wait for marriage if you want to but going into a marriage with certain expectations might disappoint you later on.

    • Such as divorce

  • It depends on a person's beliefs, like if you truly believe in a religion (or at least your understanding of it), says no sex before marriage and then you go against it, then it's wrong, at least from your own perspective, because it's a sin.

    If you're not religious however and don't care to save yourself for marriage or even get married, then I don't see the issue.

  • Regardless of what anyone else says I will hold the same belief... Yeah. It's also not my right to infringe on other peoples beliefs.

  • I don't find anything wrong with it but that's my personal philosophy.

  • Not at all. In Western countries everyone does it.

  • It's only important what you think. None of us here can give you the answer that is best for you. That being said if I had the opportunity to go back in time before I was married I would have been going to town like a year old male rabbit on meth with what ever got in my way.

  • I actually think there's something wrong with NOT having sex before marriage. Actually, marriage is wrong. It's a tragedy.

  • Nothing wrong with that.

  • No. Religiously of course. It’s your choice and a choice you and you alone need to live with. So just do what you can live with.

  • nothing wrong with people enjoying sexuality, having good time together before arbitrarily and archaically promising eachother that they won't fuck other people

  • The Christian in me says to abstain from intercourse.
    The Libertarian in me says to act responsibly.
    My record is not clean.
    The lawyer in me says that I don't know how to answer that.

  • It took me quite a while to be at peace with it but I don't think having sex before marriage is a bad thing. Make sure it is by choice. Don't let anyone talk you into doing it if you don't want to.

    Sex can definitely enhance a good relationship with closeness. I don't think sex will make a relationship better if the relationship isn't good to begin with.

  • Only if you get married, go to bed and nothing seems to be compatible there

    • Well, you obviously don't go into it blindly.

    • @Jamie05rhs Some have, there's even a story of one being allergic to the other

    • Omg. Wow

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