Do you think this was ok?

A mom became a widow and is lonely and doesn't get any sex. She asks her sons friend who is 21 and attractive, to keep her company and have sex with her discreetly, without her son finding out. Do you think its OK or wrong?
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  • They're both consenting adults. One of the best friends with benefits arrangements I've ever had is with the widower of a much older cousin (I was born late in a family where most of the members started young so most of my cousins are a good 20+ years older than me). I was 23 when we started and he was 48. It's the only friends with benefits arrangement that doesn't go on hold when I'm in a relationship. Everyone, man or woman, I enter into a romantic relationship with knows I will still be sleeping with him. It's one of the litmus tests I use.

    We're not discreet about it because of the age gap. I've never been ashamed of that. My parents even had dinner with me and a boyfriend at the time who was a good ten years older than them. It's because of the taboo in my family of being involved with someone with close blood ties to someone you have blood ties with. As the marriage ended with my cousin's death he no longer has any legal ties to me, never had any biological ties to me, we'd have no legal obstacles to marriage, but his children are blood relatives to me and, since I'm only one and two years older than them and we spent every day of every summer of our childhood together, pretty much my little brothers.

    No one in my family would object to the age gap if they knew. They learned when I was 19 dating a 70+ year old that their objections would fall on deaf ears and that's being reinforced at the age of 40 when I bring my 20 year old boyfriend to family events. Their objection would be "he was married to your cousin and he's the father of guys who are practically your brothers." Well his sons don't care. They know. They caught us, they were glad for us (they knew how lonely he was and they knew how frustrated I was with my drought), and if they stop by his place while my car is out there they know not to go in the bedroom, then when we're done we'll sit in the living room and chat just like we always have.

    So there's not a thing wrong with an unmarried man providing comfort to a widow old enough to be his mother, whether or not he's friends with her son. He has needs, she has needs, and it's good that they can meet those needs without running to strangers.

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  • both of age. i dont think its wrong. the only thing to worry about what maybe if someone gets feelings down the line, then you may have an issue, other then that consenting adults.

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  • This is totally okay, thought it might be socially awkward. If she wants to fuck the 21yo son's friend, then here are somethings she must accept, and work accordingly
    1. If she is looking for temporary sex and fun, it is totally okay
    2. She must remember, that if the relationship comes to light, it might make her own relationship with her son, and the son's relationship with the friend awkward
    3. The friend might develop feelings for her, (given that she's 21, still young) , and might lead to complications

    If she understands these, and knows how to tackle them, she should take the jump! All the best to her! She deserves to be given company and sex!

  • A good friend wouldn't come between the relationship of a son and his mother. Its selfish and desperate for the mom to ask the closest male like that. If she has good qualities she shouldn't have any problems getting a man. If not she should make herself cute/approachable.

    • Yeah she is immoral

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    Do you think this was ok?Do you think this was ok?

    For me, I do not care what she does. She is mature and can take decision. Not a baby and etc.

  • I mean legally it’s okay sure but morally no because he’s her son’s friend and if he finds out, it’d be hell and it might even ruin their relationship. She’s perfectly in her right to have sex but she can find someone else I’m sure

  • No big deal men do the same thing, he's of legal age so whether right or wrong, it's between them (or the sheets)✌️

  • Such a mom is placing her son at risk for both losing his friend and any respect he has for his mom. She should find her own friends with benefits.

  • What happens between two consenting adults is no one else's business. As long as you aren't dating your son's friend and it's just a fling then it's perfectly alright. People have needs and I'm sure the 21 year old is having fun.

  • Thetes nothing wrong with that, I tnink the son would be pissed off at both if he found out

  • It's wrong because it's her son's friend, nothing to do with age.

  • To each their own, I guess since it isn't exactly illegal.

    I can say without a doubt that I would be extremely put off if one of my friends' moms had made this offer to me.

  • The secret part probably isn't good but if they are both over 18 and both consent then it's really none of anyone's business.

  • They are both consenting adults so I think this is okay.

  • They are both adults, and it’s reasonable for her to keep her sex life private.

  • Its definitely a morality issue.. She is an adult and so is the son. I would not want to put my kid in that situation.. personally.

    • Not with the son, but with the son's friend...

    • I know.. What happens when the son finds out that his friend is getting with his mom? That's the situation that I wouldn't want to put my kid in. Granted if he doesn't care then it's all good. If he has a problem with it. His friend could be his best friend and he may loose that friendship and drive a big wedge between him and his mom.

    • I see where I worded it wrong.. sorry about that

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  • I think it is great. Women of all ages still need serial satisfaction

    • What are you talking about?

    • Oh nevermind, I didn't read your response properly

    • I meant sexual not serial

  • If her son finds out he probably be mad but as long as she doesn’t get busted then it is what it is

  • My issue with it is that he's the sons friend and she's jeopardising that friendship, and possible others when it's found out and the group of friends all react differently and take sides. There are plenty of horny 21 yr old who will be her toyboy, nothing wrong with that. Just don't choose sons friend

  • Whether or not this is wrong depends on if the son and his friend consent to it. Doing it discretely jeopardizes the son's relationship with his mother as he can no longer trust his mom or his friend as they are doing things behind his back.

  • Borders on poor decision to keep it secret from friend, but not really wrong no I'd say it's probably okay.

  • I see nothing wrong with it, if the guy feels comfortable about the situation. It might even be a win win for both if the guy isn't currently in a relationship of any kind. I'm assuming the mother is still fairly young, maybe late 30's and just looking for friendship and casual sex, they are both adults, with probably a 20 yr age difference. It could be very satisfying for both... until maybe the son finds out. That's a hard thing to hide from a friend to friend. or Mother to son. He might lose a friend, and she might have a lot of explaining to do.

    I have read sex stories of Mother/son sexual activities after a spouse has passed away. So I guess it would be better if he was just a friend of her son's.

    I might have considered such an arrangement back when I was younger, if the opportunity would have ever appeared.

  • Sure, it's fine they have sex the guy could have been age 18 and it wouldn't be an issue

  • Both are of age and it seems okay to me.

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