Do you think watching porn is shameful or something you and your partner can watch and learn from?

Lady's or males please explain? Are there types you would be more willing to watch
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  • I find that occasionally watching porn with a partner can open up dialogue about fantasies, so in that way you can learn about each other. People can often feel ashamed about things that turn them on or uncomfortable telling their partner.

    Years ago, before the internet, I took my girlfriend to a porn store where you could choose a film and watch it in a little booth. She picked out a gangbang film (with Vanessa Chase and Rebecca Lourdes) - I was surprised. A lot of the film wasn't that exciting for her, but at one point RL was picked up by a few men, held spread eagled while other men took turns having sex with her. My girlfriend got really turned on and I encouraged her.

    Later we discussed her fantasy, which was of being quite passive while men did whatever they wanted. She wouldn't have told me about that if we hadn't watched it together. It lead to more conversations and pillow talk about her having sex with more than one man, what she liked and feared, how I would feel. Some months later we did it for real.

    So even though porn is totally fake and a lot of people working in it get screwed up, a lot of people (especially young people) watching it get really warped views on sex, if it's approached as entertainment, it can have a role for couples.

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  • There are zero lessons in porn. It's like thinking you can learn how to create a 3 star Michelin restaurant by eating junk food from the gas station all day long.

    Watching porn is a waste of time like low quality entertainment. But sure, you have a right to waste your time if you wish to. If you're addicted to it (you'd put it ahead of your wife/husband) that's **very** bad.

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  • I think like myself, most women get turned on by porn. But I think the way a guy watches porn, how into it he gets, wether he gets hard or not, how attentive he is to her while it's on, all that factors into making a girl feel kind of unattractive in way. So they feel "less than" and maybe don't watch it with their boyfriend as much anymore so it makes guys think women don't like it. When really they want to feel like he thinks they are way hotter than who's on screen. Wether that's true or not.

    • It's not a hotness competition. Porn stars aren't even the most beautiful women. (For that matter, Hollywood movie stars aren't, either.)

  • its not shameful. Single people have more reasons to enjoy it. You can also see what things you might wanna try. Generally studies have shown than masturbating is healthy. But there surely other opinions. If you have a partner you should agree with them to watching porn together and alone as some consider it "cheating".

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  • It depends.

    Pornography is a very broad genre of media. There are hundreds of sub-genres, e. g. "Live Cams, Games, 3d, Amateur, Anal, Arab, Asian, ASMR, Ass, BBW, BiBig Ass, Big Cock, Big Tits, Black, Blonde, Blowjob, Brunette, Cam Porn, Casting, Caught, Cheating, Chubby, College, Compilation, Creampie, Cuckold/Hotwife, Cumshot, Femdom, Fisting, Fucked Up Family, Furry, Gangbang, Gapes, Gay, Hardcore, Indian, Interracial, Latina, Lesbian, Lingerie, Maid, Mature, Milf, Movie, Oiled, Orgasm, Petite, Pov, Real, Redhead, Rough, Shemale, Solo, Squirting, Stockings, Stuck, Teacher, Teen, Wife, Gay Porn, Shemale Porn"

    Porn can be educational for things like human anatomy, love making techniques or finding out what people do in real life (voyeur). Porn can be a way for people to play out their fantasies without getting involved in things which could be dangerous or life changing if done for real. Porn can help mental and physical health when sex drive is too high for comfort, and masturbation is preferable to flings and hookups - helping avoid problems like unplanned pregnancies and sexually transmitted illnesses. Porn can misinform expectations regarding sex with real people. Porn can be a form of emotional cheating. Porn can be degrading when it normalizes things that cause harm or dis-empower people's autonomy about what they do with their own bodies. Porn can fuel a form of misogyny where women are degraded to being sexual play things not requiring consent, creating a psychology that can lead to rape.

    Whether or not is is shameful depends on if you're doing harm to other people.

  • Porn is a cancer to men and women but more so men. It isn’t real or close to real life situations.. for instance as soon as the man ejacukates the scene ends a lot of the time the women haven’t even climaxed once, which aids to the stats that show 75% of women don’t climax from penetration alone…. Tells you something

  • I personally think it's shameful and that you shouldn't be watching it if you already have a partner. However, I know people still will anyway. I don't watch porn nor get why people want to. A dude watching another dude f*ck someone is what people like?

  • Why would it be shameful?

    • It’s not shameful to watch 25 guys pull a train on one woman and then stand around her in a circle to jerk off in her face?

    • @Agagagagaga Do you feel shame when you watch that? Also—you do know there are many types of porn, right?

    • @Gagname Only when your mom is the star.

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  • It’s not shameful unless it’s illegal. Too much of it is unhealthy like everything else… just learn to please your partner and study what she likes and go from there.

  • As a politician, I've lead and got passed a provision to block pornographic material from the state-provided Internet in my jurisdiction. When I'll become provincial commissioner in the next year, I aim to expand the ban to private connections and make it illegal to display and play erotic/pornographic material.

    This is just one of the many innovative projects I have in store for the future.

  • Personally not into watching other people get lucky.

  • Not at all shameful. I wouldn't expect to learn much from it, if anything. Best to learn from your partner what she likes.

  • Can't say I haven't watched porn, but there's nothing to learn from it.

    You only get screwed ideas on how sex really is.

    • @dawty how do you know as you saying haven't watched?

    • @MasterKS Read again I acknowledge to have been a porn consumer.

    • @Dawty Would you be willing to look at the questions I posted? Maybe give some advice?

  • I'm not ashamed.

  • I honestly dont wanna know the kinda stuff he watches and i dont want him knowing the stuff i watch. What i watch is personal to me and i know im a very insecure woman , i'd overthink everything he watches.

  • Not shameful at all. There are some things to learn... for both of us. It's mostly just a trigger though.

    Preferred is amateur couples... they're most like us.

  • I had an ex that liked watching porn, so she would get all hot and bothered, and I was there to reap the benefits

  • I don’t think of it in terms of shame. The problem is that it can create difficulties in relationships, is an avenue by which powerful interests can subvert culture, and for men can cause erectile dysfunction or disinterest in sex when they’re with real women.

  • I don't watch it but if my boyfriend wanted I would be ok with it.

  • Why should it be shameful? Nearly everybody fucks sometime! If we weren't SUPPOSED to fuck, we wouldn't be able to fuck! Why hide it? It's as natural as eating or breathing.

  • I don't mind if my partner watches porn I watch porn too. As long as is not an addiction.

  • It is not shameful if it does not effect your life . It can be fun to watch it with your spouse

  • Watching porn is wrong even though you can learn but watching Sexual education videos, web, or books is healthy and a great way to learn especially with your partner. I feel a shame for watching porn with many years (Over 30 years) even though I learn a lot and that is why recommend Sexual Education (especially if your mature and responsible).

  • For watching it with a partner I think that would be major kinky yeah it's a bit shameful,😀

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