Do you think you can call someone a sexual predator if they meet the legal definition of a sexual predator?

So if the law says someone is a sexual predator, is it valid to call them a sexual predator or do you need more information or see actual harm from the person to call them that?

I had this argument yesterday, and he told me for someone to be a sexual predator they need to use force, but in my opinion they don't.
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  • Is the following a sexual predatort?

    My name is Brian Kelmar, and I am the father of a 24 year old son who has autism and auditory and sensory processing disabilities. Our nightmare began almost six years ago, right after my son graduated high school. It’s a case of the “perfect storm” that resulted in my son being punished and treated as an outcast in our community and in society.

    Do words like “trusting, bullied, eager to please, and not understanding social situations” sound familiar? These words describe my son and how he interacts and/or experiences the world around him. Like others with autism, he had few friends growing up, let alone a girlfriend. That core need for friendship hasn’t changed. He continues to long to fit in and feel included, and have friends in his life that he can talk to. So, when a female friend of my younger son started texting my son, he was so happy that he found someone nice to talk to.

    The girl’s texts started innocently enough with just small talk. The communication began when he was away at a college summer orientation where he was learning about the autism program he was to begin in the fall. The texting from her soon became very sexually aggressive, and he did not understand what the texts were about. He answered her questions with short words or answers, such as “like”, “what”, “ok”, and “huh”? She pointed out to him, “you really don’t understand what I am talking about” in regards to her sexual statements like “friends with benefits” and “hooking up,” along with more graphic content which he did not understand. When reading the back and forth texting, it’s clear to anyone reading these messages that they were going right over my son’s head.

    After he returned from orientation, she repeatedly began asking him to meet with her. He had no idea of how to handle her sexually aggressive messages, and he certainly didn’t foresee what would happen next. When he met her in person, she became very sexually aggressive. Like other people with autism and sensory issues, he can easily become overwhelmed and shut down, similar to a computer that has too many programs open at the same time. This is exactly what happened during her sexual advances. When his mind “rebooted” and his thought process reengaged, he told her to stop. She did and he took her home.

    That same evening the police came to our house in the middle of the night. Since the front door is closest to my son’s room, he answered it. Not understanding the situation and thinking the girl was in trouble because she was the aggressive one, he answered their questions before I got to the door. The police took him to jail for two days until I could get him released on $100,000 bail.

    In an instant, my son’s life was changed forever.

    My son and our family entered a criminal justice system that we had no idea how to maneuver, and a system that had no idea about autism. Our lawyer had no experience with autism or working with people with disabilities. We were told by the attorney that the only option was to plea bargain. Later I discovered that is how most cases are resolved, through plea bargaining (experts estimate that 90 to 95 percent of both federal and state cases are resolved through plea bargaining).

    During the sentencing phase, the judge heard testimony from the court appointed forensic psychologist with comments like:

    “It was the alleged victim that was grooming him for a sexual encounter”

    “He did not understand the situation”

    “She was the aggressor”

    These statements were all true, based on the evidence of the text messages. The judge understood the situation, and gave my son a ten year suspended sentence. We never had any written plea bargain agreement. Then he was sentenced to 10 years probation. What we did not find out until after the sentencing was that due to the way the law was written, he would not only be on the sex offender registry, but he would be put on the violent sexual predator list for life.

    • All I can say is WOW!!! The criminal doesn’t always get the punishment So sorry for your son and you

    • @Surely loooool it's not about him

    • Then is it about this boy? A 14-year-old boy could be registered sex offender for life after being arrested over his relationship with his 12-year-old girlfriend, his lawyer has warned. The teenager from Harris County, Texas has been charged with aggravated sexual assault after having consensual sex with the girl, who was a year below him at school. The boy's mother said she feared her son will be classed alongside paedophiles and rapists, a prospect she described as "sick". She added: "He had consensual sex with his little girlfriend and he loved her. They were boyfriend-girlfriend. And because he just turned 14 by one month, they want to make him a sex offender, put him on the registry with paedophiles and child molesters - really sick and dangerous people."

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  • yes of course a lot great comments on this question

  • Force is not required to be a sexual predator. The law is the law... you are right.

  • Not less i have proof or i could be sued

  • Force isn't necessary.

  • You dont need force to be a predator. Guile works just fine.

    • But what lf legally you are a sexual predator?

    • What do you mean? If a person has committed a sexual crime you mean?

    • Yeah

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  • I try not to label people it’s rarely helpful

  • If they were convicted there had to be cause. So yes they are sexual predators.

  • I don't think they need to use force. There are other ways like coercion, deciet, influence, etc.

  • No I think someone can be manipulated by one

    • So they have to manipulate someone to be called a sex predator?

  • I would wait until they are actually convicted that way you aren’t spreading rumors.

  • I agree with him

    • That's more of a rapist to me, but ok

    • To call someone Sexual predator he must use force against his victims

    • What’s wrong with that?

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  • Why you talking with them?

  • The legal definition is not the same as the psychiatric definition, and you really cannot rely on the legal definition.

  • Dont waste time on semantics.