Do you wish you had a bigger body count?

Question

There have been a few questions about body count recently. I wonder if people regret not having a big body count, especially after they get married.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

Nope, I do not... but what happens, happens.

I never thought much of it, until guys I was with cheated on me, their excuse was... they were the underdog, that I had 3 times as many as them and even though they initially said it did not matter to them, it ate away at them and eventually did.

This is why I say, number, means nothing... people should at least try to be similar, because if someone has 25 times the number as the other, they may subconsciously resent it.

I no longer believe anyone when they say it doesn't matter that their SO has more than them, I call them all liars, due to my personal experience.

The interesting thing though, is the higher people get the less numbers do seem to matter, so someone with 50 vs. 80 it matters far less than someone with 3 vs. 25. I suspect this has to do with the underdog at 50, still has a decent amount of experience and is able to more easily accept that they are the underdog, whereas someone with 3 vs 25 thinks, their partner has more than 8 times the number of partners as them and they feel they didn't get much experience.

I honestly can't say I've ever known anyone, where they were both virgins and got married that said they wanted more experience before getting married or a high body count. It always seems to be the underdog that feels this way... but I'm sure they are out there.

Msputiton · Accepted Answer

Naw. My 475 is enough🤣

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

no and I think of it more in terms of relationship, of which, I'd rather have had one. I think the body count thing is bs baked up by our corrupting society.

I think having some body count maybe helpful to reduce the temptation of "what if" "don't know what I don't know", etc. But I wouldn't pursue it for that reason.

I think it's human nature that "the grass seems always greener" somewhere else and social media plays on that human "temptation". being satisfied with what we have when something that is known makes us question what else there is. So experience can help alleviate that.

Try getting a dirt bike. You'll love it, then you'll want a different one... they are all different. Ditto for instruments, animals, cereals, people. Ok, maybe coco wheats was the best cereal ever, but that aside. It's how we are trained... to always want more, want something else, want something new. We can get bored and that's dangerous.

I wonder how this question would go culturally, like with old cultures vs modern society. I wonder how it changes with age and perspective.

I guess life is about managing oneself, the work required to keep life in perspective and fresh and new.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I would regret not having lots of sex. But I don't regret not having a bigger body count. I'm just grateful to the girlfriends I had along the way. All were beautiful and all but one were good people. There were five, in particular, that I am grateful to for teaching me about sex and life. I couldn't have learned more if I had fucked 100 different women.

I do think l'd wonder if I had missed out on peak sexual experiences if I had been a virgin when I got married. I'm grateful for my sexual history.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Why would I wish that? Quality trumps quantity

DizzyDesii · Answer

I wouldve preferred a smaller count. I’m at 2 and never wanted to surpass 1. I would prefer my future partner have a count of less than 5

whirled_up_girl · Answer

Not really, in fact I didn’t really know it was a big deal till I joined this site.

Irishgirl02 · Answer

No. My body count is one, I'm happy with that.

TrueConfection · Answer

Nope, but sometimes I wonder what sex is like for other people. Some sound fantastic and some sound like a nightmare.

LazerBean · Answer

Not at all.

Apple1996 · Answer

Yess definitely wish I had been with a few more people before getting with my husband

Reece12345 · Answer

This whole BC thing is a  crock of shit . Why is it ever brought up? As long as you play safe no one should even give it a thought.

BrightBubblyKat · Answer

God no. I’ve been with about 11 men. Why would I want more, unless I were to fall in love?

SnowedIn · Answer

Fair question. Definite no.

NathanDavis · Answer

if I really had any interest on that... It would have been quite high since my late teens but no... I am what I am

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

At any given time, I am usually trying to make it one higher.

EmmaMary · Answer

No, absolutely not.

slatyb · Answer

There are women I stupodly didn't get involved with and wish I had. I don't wish that I had generally just been with more women.

BeMuse · Answer

Doesn't really matter. The only thing I care about is the time I woke up in someones bed in a house of someone I didn't know after blacking out... Time traveling isn't fun. I can live with everything I remember.