Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Every few years, i tell my mom something thats happened because i dont feel like she can handle it all at once. Plus i fear she’ll run into my exes and try to attack them. And i just dont want her to ever approach them cause i know some have joined gangs now and i just want us to remain safe.
In 2020, i told her about the situation with the ex holding a gun to my stomach and trying to make me stay. It broke her heart and she couldnt believe I never told her. Because she kept inviting the dude over for me to get bacj with him.
Well just now i told her about that same ex trying to make me suck him and that i bit him down there to escape. And that when i ran into the house to get away that he chased me and tried to choke me to death. And that she broke it up without even realizing we werent “playing around.”
I also told her about another ex who was raped by his babysitter and then threatened to rape me one day. She freaked that i was raped by a babysitter too bt i had to explain that wasn't the case.
Now she's gone off and is very emotional. She just keeps saying “and to think you were the type who’d tell your mom everything.” But she just doesn't realize, I’ve kept every and anything thats sexual from her. I keep trying to prepare her for the biggest fckup in my life. But I dont think i can ever tell her how my virginity was taken. I just may have to take that one to the grave.
But yea do your parents know about any sexual trauma you may have experienced?
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Do your parents know about the sexual traumatic experiences you’ve experienced?
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I only talk about these things so openly now because i’ve fully recovered. The toughest experiences were in 2009/10. A few others were in 2019. I forgive quickly. However i dont allow myself to ever forget. So i like to share my experiences and hope it can help others going through it too. I've never let my experiences hold me back from moving on to a new relationship. And i still trust easily. I dont even keep my guard up but i do prepare for worse case scenarios. Everyone can in time 🙏
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19 37No they didn't know anything about my sexual life. I never discussed it with them.
Did they even ask
My mom was the nosy one. She did ask. I told her I'd tell her about it sometime. That day never came
Dang
guessing she's passed on then? though there is no discussion over it, i would say she knows it all by now, if my question is right.
@magiusX26 both my parents have passed. They may know now
depends on your spuritual views. by mine, yes they know now.
@magiusX26 I'm sure they will confront me with their questions when I see them again
ok..
I never had any traumatic experience in that. I'm so sorry
No im glad you didn't
My parents went to police station with me when I was sexually assaulted so yea. Other than that they know nothing about my sex life in general.
Yea my mom definitely wouldve called the cops or the uncles on him had i told her back then. But i was stupidly madly still in love with him deep down and didn't want him in jail. So i kept it to myself
Got it. And I didn’t know this person and 2 years down the line they found me and tried to break into my car. Police were honestly useless and whatever paper protection I had expired and I didn’t know so he didn’t get arrested …again.
Omg he wouldve had to get beat tf up that second time around. I’d call all the uncles, brothers, sisters, mothers, etc. Because he clearly didn't learn
I have my gun permit now Girl he can come back around a third time if he wants.
Damn i hear ya
I don't trust my parents with certain things either simply because I don't feel like going threw the back lash of doing so. As for you, I am sorry that such things have happen to ya, hope you recover smoothly.
Thankyou. I've fully recovered :) the big stuff was in 2009/10 and the other stuff was in 2019. But im fine now. Thats the only reason i try to talk to her about it
If your mom will be hurt or destroyed by the information, tell a therapist. I will listen to without judgement. I might get mad, but I can process the anger.
Yea I've never really been interested in therapy but its nice to know theyre there if needed
Yessss. My mom knows just about everything and still does. We are comfortable talking to each other about it.
Thats good
@dizzydesii yes. Sometimes we are even active at the same time hahaha
-facepalm- my mom always asks...
How did she teact when you shared?
@dizzydesii she laughs at me...
Ugh my ex laughed at me when i tried to tell him years later about how he traumatized me. People like them haven't had to go through something tough yet. They better hope they never have to
I haven't experienced any sexual trauma. My parents just don't know when I started having sex
Yea she definitely doesn't know that
Lol, as far as my parents know I'm a virgin, not a topic I talk with them about.
Lmao see thats how it was with my mom. She thought i was a virgin up until 23 when she heard some thangs 🤣 And little did she know, that was just us giving eachother oral. We didn't even have sex til a year after. But see when i was actually having sex at 15/16, she never believed anyone who tried to tell her i was
I moved out when I was 19, so yeahhh 😂
If I did have ever any sexual traumatic experience, I'd rather take it to the grave than let my parents know about it.
Damn. I wanted to tell and now i can for the most part
Good for you
I’ve never had traumatic experiences. I feel for anyone who has.
Thank you
They know it happened, but they just don't know how badly it fucked me up.
Damn. I hope you're okay now
I don't tell my parents anything about my sexual experiences.
My mom knew..
Did she help make things better
My mom doesn't know anything I've went through except of what she found out about and then she would throw it in my face or tell all our family members and even then she never had the whole story
Omg yes my mom is messy and like to do that too. She hasn't thrown trauma in my face yet but she throws other things and she would tell others
But then wants to be upset when I tell her business or return her energy. She thinks because she's my mom im suppose to let her talk and treat me any kind of way. No ma'am we are both adults. Treat me as such with respect or don't talk to me at all period 💯
Yea mine still considers me a kid when i try to make a point
So does mine and she keeps trying to tell me what i can and can't do like girl bye im grown asf and taking care of myself now
my parents knew nothing about my sexual experiences
I’m a virgin
I’m glad you are. I wouldn't wish any bad experience upon you. Plus virgins attract me more. I don't know why but yea lol
For the most part I’m glad that I am too. Thank you 😊
Nope
Would you tell if they asked
I don't think i had that experience. But anyway, i wouldn't share my private life with parents
Even as a teen if asked?
Especially as a teen! That subject was never brought to discussion.
I don't have any and I'm sorry you had to go through that
Im glad you dont. And thank u
On the future I got your back