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Does a girl crying during sex turn a guy off?

Ok, so I'm not talking about full on sobbing here. I'm talking about a little tender weeping. I do this myself sometimes during sex but I try really hard not to or to hide it because I'm embarrassed and I don't want to make my boyfriend uncomfortable. I've done a really good job pushing it back when it happens and I don't think he's ever noticed when tears stream down the sides of my face. Just to clarify, these aren't sad or bad tears, these a good tears. It normally happens when I'm feeling really connected and having really intense feelings in the moment building up towards climax. This doesn't happen all the time just every now and then when I'm feeling really emotionally connected with my boyfriend. I just want to know if this is a turn off or if it's going to freak my boyfriend out if I start to lightly sob during sex. I feel really good in the moment and I want to let the emotions out and not feel uncomfortable about it but at the same time I don't want to make things weird or turn my boyfriend off. I should probably mention we've been together for a few years so it isn't like this is a new relationship. Though it would be interesting to know if this would be weird in a new relationship as well, where your still getting to know your partner but have strong emotional feelings towards them.
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  • Coming from a woman who tears up every now and then; You need to talk to him about it first. No offense to men at all but unless your actually tell them point blank they are not going to get it. They aren't mind readers. They WILL think they are doing something wrong. Usually if you tell your boyfriend that these are tears of joy and it's a sign your body is letting go of all the tension then they're going to know they're doing something right... Once they know that, they'll want to see those tears more often ;)

  • Sometimes I feel like that too, not sobbing but my eyes do water when we are looking into each other's eyes and we are in the moment, feels as if we are one.

    • Where are all these amazing girls at I would be married already if this happend to be honest

  • Girl opinion, but I would tell him before hand so he will just keep it in mind next time lol

    • have to agree here - like anything in a relationship - communication is the key.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I've had girls do that, and as long as I know WHY they're doing it (and that it isn't because they're in pain, or that they aren't enjoying the sex), then it's fine. I totally get the "overwhelming intensity of emotions" thing - it gets intense for me too sometimes. For me, this is really just a communication thing. Tell me what's going on, let me know that you're all good, and then I'm all good.

    • Thank you, I think your one of the first people to actually read the full thing and not just instantly comment on the topic its self. That's for the insight.

  • That truly does depend on the maturity of your sexual partner. What you're experiencing is oftentimes referred to as an emotional orgasm. It is normal and natural as well as common.

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  • Yeah it might make him feel bad about himself

    • I think it would be pretty clear they were tears of joy, so I don't think that would make someone feel bad about them self. These are tears in conjunction with the big "O" not sad tears.

  • Some guys might not like it, but personally, no it wouldn't be weird or a turn off, but I would certainly wonder why so you'd have to explain this to me so I knew what was going on with you that's all. And I wouldn't want you to feel you have to hide it from me either.

  • That's hot LOL

    • It's so hard to tell seriousness from sarcasm via text 🤔

    • Lol I'm being serious, I fantasized about having little tears during, I dunno why, it'll make me feel weak and helpless, I think it's hot 😂 but I'm a weird hamster when it comes to my fantasies so forget about me lol

  • Exactly like mroacle said as long as I know its not because she is in pain or feeling bad that would make me feel terrible but if I had someone cry tears of joy while making love because thats how close she felt and how in love we were then I would think of making her my wife now has it happend with other partners more often or less often if so would effect said marrage thoughts accordlingly it may effect him dif but you should pose the question as if asking for a friend and feel his reaction out then act according to how you wish but being honest is always best long term

  • Tell him about this some time when you are not having sex so it isn't a surprise.

  • Abort mission!

  • As long as you explain before hand i dont think there would be a problem

  • Why crying will make a guy turn off during sex... Illogical thinking🤔

  • I've had a girl do that but only cuz I accidentally stuck it in her butthole.
    but if it's something sweet like feeling very connected to the guy then I wouldn't mind at all

  • If he is an emotional​ guy then definitely its a turnoff for him unless you explain him the reason.

  • Depends on the reason.

  • I have not encountered such a scenario before but I will definitely feel weird, not turn off

  • its honestly a very very big turn on to me, i know its weird, but yeah, it is a big turn on to me

  • I think that's pretty fucking awesome. Maybe a little too awesome. So I think you should tell him. Tell him the truth. When u feel really connected and climaxing. Who knows maybe he'll weep a little w you. Never heard of anything like it. Don't just break it out w/o saying anything because he might think it's bad or sad or there's something fucked up. Sounds cute though. Sounds like you get really emotionally attached through sex... We all do to one extent or the other

  • Lucky boyfriend.

    • Haha I don't know if your serious or being sarcastic 😮

    • I wonder what he thinks. As for me, I have only wished to have not only a girlfriend but one that's really into me as such. So no, not sarcastic. Guys are emotional yet are fearful to show or admit it.

  • In a new relationship, it would probably weird the guy out. I wouldn't know what to think, "am I hurting her"; "is she in pain?"; "is she reliving a past traumatic experience?" I'm assuming your boyfriend is comfortable if he hasn't said anything by now. I think in a new relationship, you probably should bring it forward as a heads up. The reaction will probably still be the same though.

  • Fuck yes why cry for that's weird

  • it only makes things a lot worse then it has or had been

  • Of course yes! We can't pain our partner and enjoy sex alone.

  • For me no, quite opposite actually, other guys maybe.

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