Does accidentally getting pregnant prove you're too irresponsible to be a parent?

Question

There is no excuse in this day and age to accidentally get pregnant. Contraception is highly reliable, easily available and inexpensive/free. Not using contraception proves that that you're either stupid, irresponsible or most likely both. You make a conscious decision to have sex and therefore a conscious decision to use contraception or not.
Yet huge numbers of women claim they accidentally got pregnant. I would argue if your not using contraception then its not an accident, it's a clear case of irresponsible behaviour. Furthermore I'd argue if you haven't got the sense to take precautions or you believe nonsense like you can't get pregnant standing up then your obviously too irresponsible and stupid to be allowed to raise kids.

And let's stop congratulating these women. They didn't get pregnant through years of hard work, they got knocked up because they trusted some drunk guy to pull out nothing more.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I agree. It's either stupid or irresponsible.
I can understand horny teen age girls being naive. In my early teens, when I was around 16 years old, I had two girlfriends who had gotten pregnant from their first boyfriends when they were 14 or 15 years old. They had both gotten early term abortions as soon as they found out they were pregnant. But they learned their lessons. From then on they were on the pill.
That was back when there were what were called "free clinics" that didn't ask questions. I don't know what kind of access kids have these days.

I have a major problem with girls who use abortion as a method of birth control, not that I am opposed to access to abortion. As I said, I can understand a one time mistake. But those who engage in serial abortion are too irresponsible and, frankly, cold blooded, to be allowed to have children.
And any girl who can't figure out that she is pregnant and decide if she wants to have the baby by, say 3 months, is too stupid to be allowed to make any decisions for herself.

JKingOff · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't go so far as to say that. you have to keep in mind that even with every sort of measure taking imaginable that things still happen. Sometimes for the best and sometimes not. You have to keep in mind that each one of us has our own life to live, and just as much as each individual person is completely different than the next so too is what they experience within their life. As I get older I've noticed that fate and maybe even God seems to have a strange way of putting things into motion. Of course to a simple person like me who's nowhere near immortal and definitely doesn't have enough wisdom to rival that of our heavenly father I suppose it's only reasonable to see what they do as strang and peculiar even if to them it may seem completely normal. I don't see that there's anything irresponsible about having a kid, if anything it would have the opposite effect. I also don't think it's right to judge others just because they send differently than we do, that right is reserved for the Lamb of God alone.

CupcakeKiller · Accepted Answer

No I don't think it proves that. Lack of general healthcare and education play a massive role. If someone is excited to have a baby you can still congratulate them. Lastly, having a baby typically doesn't take "years of hard work". I don't think unplanned pregnancies are a good thing however I think drawing a conclusion like this is logical. It would be like saying "do you think a woman getting IVF means she doesn't care about children enough to be a mother?" Or that she must hate orphans? It is a very narrow and nonsensical inference.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

There are still plenty of people that got pregnant while using birthcontrol. It's not always 100%.

I got pregnant on accident without using any birthcontrol but I was ready to be a parent so that's one of the reasons why I didn't worry about using birthcontrol in the first place. If you think you are responsible enough to be having sex then you should be responsible enough to take care of a child too. Dont be having sex If you aren't in a place to have a child. Its that simple.

MrOracle · Answer

I will give women one exception to what you've said (which I otherwise agree with completely): TONS of women don't know that other medications - in particular antibiotics, but there are others - will reduce the effectiveness of hormonal birth control (pills, implants, certain IUDs) while you are on those other meds, and doctors do a terrible job of pointing this out, so I would not hold it against women who get pregnant for that reason.

But the ones who aren't on BC at all, or who don't take it reliably, definitely are being irresponsible.

AustinMan · Answer

While that may be true a lot of the time, things like a malfunctioning condom that it torn when he pulls out after is no one's fault.

MrCommodore · Answer

Things go wrong in the heat of drunken passion or in the heat of being horny. Accidents do happen.

Warmapplecrumble · Answer

My mum got pregnant with me whilst she had a copper IUD and I came out negative on urine tests and scans.

Lov2PlezUgurl · Answer

Yeah I agree and pulling out is no substitute for rubberized protection I like the saying that A pound of protection is worth $250,000 dollars
That's how much it'll cost to raise that child not to mention that bringing children into this world couses people to become... There Parents

ohshee · Answer

It's either that or you were both to drunk and thought the other on put the condom on and no one knows any thing until she says are the sprinklers on something keeps dripping down my leg or damn it I just had another wet dream and I just closed my eyes or stop spilling beer on me. OHSHEEIT I just peed all over myself I didn't even know I had to go ,, no I think I'm going with your answer

Ericalovescats · Answer

I agree that the majority of "accidental" pregnancies are a lie but birth control isn't always fool proof

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

Most women also don’t know that antibiotics will cancel our birth control. Shit I didn’t know and boom. My youngest was born.

ChocoBrownieMonster · Answer

Is the Virgin Mary an irresponsible parent?

cjgsu · Answer

Not using is irresponsible but i know someone who boyfriend got her pregnant and she was on the pill.

Dargil · Answer

I don't think so.

TCredo · Answer

Well said all around... it's a way to make it sound cute and take no blame... key word in your post was "claim"... which means they are lying :) Unless they don't know how babies are made.. lol... I forget what movie it was there was a line along the lines of... you need a license to drive a car (and other stuff) but you don't need anything to have a baby... Might need to rethink that in it's chastity belt law and gotta pass a test to get the key :)

LindseyHinton · Answer

Not all all don’t have a kid till it’s intentional but sex is so much better with no protections

cou82 · Answer

no it does not. condom can break there for you acted responsible. and or if you dont use condoms and or are alergic or do not like. just because you choose not to use condom does not mean you are not responsible. but i wouldn't call that an accident. i would call it didn't expect or try to/want to become pregnant

TheFlak38 · Answer

It proves you're irresponsible and stupid.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

Pro choice is all I’m saying. Better to fix an irresponsible mistake that can lead to a decision in life you don’t want it is what it is.

COMMODOREII · Answer

I agree that if you don't make the effort to try not to get pregnant using birth control then that proves you are irresponsible. If you tried your best and used everything you can and still get pregnant then that's just fate then.