Does anal sex hurt?

[Anonymous]

I want to try it because my boyfriend is very reluctant in this. Would it hurt or would it feel like the first time having vaginal sex?

[roxy_362]

I am a gay man and an exclusive bottom who just loves getting fucked in the ass. If done right, anal sex does not really hurt much, but can be a great source of pleasure for the person receiving it.

The key to success is physical and mental preparation. The physical part requires a clean hole and a lot of lubrication... The mental part is about relaxing your body and your asshole. Once your hole relaxes, it can stretch beyond your wildest imagination to help take your man's cock into you...

A butt-plug may also help. This has been one of my biggest helpers to stretch my hole in order to be able to accommodate guys with really thick cocks. To that end, I'd recommend starting with a small enough plug that you can wear at the beginning. But, it should still be thick enough so you can feel the walls of your asshole stretching a little. After wearing that for a few days, you can gradually move to the next larger size, and then increase the size of the plug to really thick ones that you could not have accommodated at the beginning. This way, I've been able to enjoy really humongous cocks in my ass. I sure hope you will, as well!..

Finally, don’t worry about never having tried it and don’t fear it at all. There is a first time for everything. If you want, you can PM me and I’ll tell you about my first time getting fucked in the ass. I too had once believed I was a straight man until I got a cock in me. I loved it so much that I realized all the interest I thought I had towards girls vanished quickly. I’ve never had sex with any women afterwards, it’s all cock for me now.

Please feel free to write back if you have any more questions. Good luck!..

[annjan]

First of all bring lots of lube because the anal canal do not produce lubricants on its own. So without lube you could end up tearing some of the muscular structures in your anus and that will be painful and lead to bleeding and might even develop to become a hemorrhoid.. second it is important to be relaxed, sway your back and let him gently insert the tip of the penis, then he will feel that it is stopped and this is by your sphincter muscle, let him stay there for a little bit (like a few sec) until it relaxes and then he can continue. It shouldn't feel painful then.. and yeah, don't let him pull out too quickly if you haven't gone and had a poop, because it can slide right out if he pulls out too quickly. The anus isn't like the vagina and it will take the anus a few sec to close up again and keep your stool in your intestines. Hope this helped!

[MlleCake]

First of all, vaginal sex shouldn't hurt the first time either. That is almost always as a result of not making sure the woman is aroused enough.

Anal requires a lot of preparation, with you learning how to control your inner sphincter consciously. Getting prepared, going slow, and using a lot of condom-safe lubricant are a must. It should never hurt. If it hurts, your partner must back-up or totally stop. Pain is an indication that delicate tissues are being damaged.

Do not use numbing, warming or tingling lubes, or numbing sprays.

[UnaKaizen]

you want to try it BECAUSE your boyfriend is reluctant-or did you mean 'but'?

yeah itd hurt you need to learn a lot about the proper technique vaginal sex hurts too the first time unless you are also careful. so i dont understand 'or would it feel like first time vaginal sex'

both hurt if not careful. anal likely will hurt a great deal more. bc though there's no hymen, the nerve endings are much more sensitive and the anus is really made to deliver, not receive.

[man0man]

Very well put! Deliver not receive.. fabulous gonna use that one.

[UnaKaizen]

@man0man lol :)

[Anon-ymous1]

A little bit at first, yeah, but at long as you relax and use enough lube (always use water-based lube, ALWAYS and only), then after a bit it'll feel normal and good in a new way for you. For both of you. It'll hurt for a bit but just gradually put him inside you, then I recommend just laying there with him inside your ass as far as he can go without you moving or doing anything. Once the initial bit of pain has gone away, which should take a few minutes (he can kiss you on your neck during this time), you can start moving against him and he will respond because it feels amazing.

Oh, and use a finger first, to get the lube in there and also so you can know how it feels. Have fun

[Anon-ymous1]

Thanks for MHO

[Minas46]

It won’t hurt if u do it right. Relax lots of lube And start slowly

[classychickwfineass]

Oh no it hurts. To me it was nothing like the first time having vaginal sex, at all. It was hella terrible.

[Anon-ymous1]

You just need practice, then it's amazing.

[classychickwfineass]

What I need is to not do it again.

[Anon-ymous1]

Sigh. Shame.

[man0man]

With enough KY and a shoehorn I believe YES!

[ThisDudeHere]

Nope, not at all. Go for it. Also, tell your boyfriend to thank me later.

[GingerGuy]

Just from what I hear (I've never done it), I think it's uncomfortable at least at first (that's not the purpose of your butt lol). But what you have to make sure is that you are relaxed as possible, horny, and lots and lots of lube!! Make sure he goes SLOWLY at first and just inches it in little by little until you "adjust" to it and get comfortable.

[lawandfitness]

It's honestly not healthy for you. It's not sanitary and it can cause rectal problems. So yes, it's gonna hurt and can cause long term problems.

[Anon-ymous1]

Umm... wow you have no idea what you're talking about dude.

[lawandfitness]

There are a number of health risks with anal sex, and anal intercourse is the riskiest form of sexual activity for several reasons. Just do a simple webMD search on the subject.

[Anon-ymous1]

I agree, you should probably do that so you can learn something.

[lawandfitness]

The anus lacks the natural lubrication thevagina has. Penetration can tear the tissue inside the anus, allowing bacteria and viruses to enter the bloodstream. This can result in the spread of sexually transmitted infections including HIV. Studies have suggested that anal exposure to HIV poses 30 times more risk for the receptive partner than vaginal exposure. Exposure to the human papillomavirus (HPV) may also lead to the development of anal warts and anal cancer. Using lubricants can help some, but doesn't completely prevent tearing.

[lawandfitness]

The tissue inside the anus is not as well protected as the skin outside the anus. Our external tissue has layers of dead cells that serve as a protective barrier against infection. The tissue inside the anus does not have this natural protection, which leaves it vulnerable to tearing and the spread of infection.

[lawandfitness]

The anus was designed to hold in feces. The anus is surrounded with a ring-like muscle, called the anal sphincter, which tightens after we defecate. When the muscle is tight, anal penetration can be painful and difficult. Repetitive anal sex may lead to weakening of the anal sphincter, making it difficult to hold in feces until you can get to the toilet. However, Kegel exercises to strengthen the sphincter may help prevent this problem or correct it

[lawandfitness]

The anus is full of bacteria. Even if both partners do not have a sexually-transmitted infection or disease, bacteria normally in the anus can potentially infect the giving partner. Practicing vaginal sex after anal sex can also lead to vaginal and urinary tract infections.

[Anon-ymous1]

Tell everything you just wrote to the literal millions of people across the earth who have anal sex on a daily basis and have no problems with it. The mouth isn't "designed" to suck dick either-- it's designed to chew food. But I bet you like it when a girl sucks you, don't you.

[lawandfitness]

Ad hominem. See above. You don't have to like the facts, but not liking them doesn't change them. Best of luck to you!

[Anon-ymous1]

And... you also don't know what an ad hominem is either. Interesting. Indeed, have a good day.

[lawandfitness]

Well to be fair you did more than just an ad hominem (an attack on the person rather than an argument, implying ignorance on my part because everyone is doing it), you also did an ad numerum (appeal to the masses, everyone is doing it so it must be right). Your one example was a false equivalent (comparing oral sex to anal sex to justify anal sex). But yes, indeed good day. *tip of the hat*

[Biancs]

Its like two children... fighting but one just insists he's right cause he read some shit online and can remember it😂😂😂😂

[Asker]

Lol I couldn't even dare respond to these comments 😂😂😂

[Biancs]

I couldn't help myself 😅

[ryanlightning]

If it hurts you are doing it wrong

[SirRexington]

Im a guy so i'd say it hurts me as im not a guy who takes it that way. But in all seriousness, it hurts and it supposed to. The penis is not meant to go in there. Sorry anal lovers, it's not. Doesn't mean it doesn't feel good for the guy though.

Though some women are known for getting off from it, mostly due to their *Cough cough* "unique" fetishes.

[jessture]

Anon-ymous1 for the win again...

[zerinbaker]

Lots and lots of lube. Oil up girl haha nah up to you, only way to know is to try it aye.

[IAmCluelessToo]

Stick a finger up there and find out

[pomoprincess]

It still hurts but sometimes I like a finger in me while I'm masterbating well like if he's helping me of course

[Mystic-Endeavor]

Yes it does

[johnieohm2]

It depends, anal sex can hurt if your body is not used to it. Unlike the vaginal cavity already contains lubricant, where the anal cavity does not. The muscle for the rectum isn't used to something going in your anal cavity, at least not as big as the average dick size. You anus muscles want to always contract so you need to use anal play to get the anus ready for penetration, at least then it won't hurt as bad

[Cornchipuniverse]

It would probably hurt.

[WiggleWasser]

Some women can take it with no proble. I've had other women scream and jump across the bed as soon as I stuck the tip in. And that's even when they were expecting it.

[masterkamasutra]

its fun if you do it well, it need practice too.

[KingDynamic]

yea hurt :)

[illescapeplan]

It is something you have to get used to for sure, be relaxed and take your time, use a lot of lube and start small. It can hurt a lot when done wrong and feels great when done right.

[Anonymous]

1,000 times worse than vaginal sex for the first time.