Does anal sex hurt?

I have never done it before.

Do you know whether it hurts or not?
Can you tell me?
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  • I am a gay man and an exclusive bottom who just loves getting fucked in the ass. If done right, anal sex does not really hurt at all, but can be a great source of pleasure for the person receiving it.

    The key to success is physical and mental preparation. The physical part requires a clean hole and a lot of lubrication where water-based lubricants often work the best. As for cleanliness, I would recommend making sure you have a complete bowel movement and a good shower before getting fucked. As you can guess, food that helps digestion will also work here to your benefit, like fibers, etc.

    The mental part is about relaxing your body and your asshole. Once your hole relaxes, it can stretch beyond your wildest imagination to help take your man's cock into you...

    A butt-plug may also help. This has been one of my biggest helpers to stretch my hole in order to be able to accommodate guys with really thick cocks. To that end, I'd recommend starting with a small enough plug that you can wear at the beginning. But, it should still be thick enough so you can feel the walls of your asshole stretching a little. After wearing that for a few days, you can gradually move to the next larger size, and then increase the size of the plug to really thick ones that you could not have accommodated at the beginning. This way, I've been able to enjoy really humongous cocks in my ass. I sure hope you will, as well!..

    Finally, the position of anal sex is also important, especially for the person taking it. That could depend on gender, but also personal anatomy. My favorite position getting fucked is the missionary position. Lying on my back with my man on top of me while raising my legs over his shoulders proved to be the most natural position for me where I always draw a lot of pleasure.

    Please feel free to write back if you have any more questions. Good luck!..

Most Helpful Guy

  • i've done it with 2 of my past girlfriend's (me giving that is) and if done right, no... if rushed absolutely it will...
    if it's your first time it might feel strange at first but when myself and my first girlfriend tried it she said it felt a little tight at first but we eased off and i went back to using my finger with more lube and when she was ready to try again she asked me to try again and she felt more comfortable, we didn't rush and until she felt comfortable in deeper or picking up speed i suggested she control the speed and depth

    and when she was ok with me taking over she indicated to me to do so... she actually came from anal too.. and tried to push as deep as she could

    the last girlfriend i went out with who wanted to try it seemed to be more determined and focused on rushing despite me telling her if we do this you need to take your time and be patient as rush and you can hurt yourself
    plenty of lube and a bit of time and preparation always does the trick and she loved it too

    • also each girlfriend that wanted to try realised that preparation is key, and a must, and that it doesn't hurt if done right and start small with the preparation and work up... my last girlfriend used butt plugs had 2 one smaller and one medium and she'd leave one in for a while after preparing her anus and lubing up then she'd use the smaller, then say about an 30mins to an hour later she'd change to teh medium she then nearer when she was ready to try she'd put more lub and massage to get herself a little more relaxed for me

Most Helpful Girls

  • It frustrates me when I read some of these answers, often provided by guys rather than girls. To say anal won’t hurt if done right is like saying that any girl who experiences first-time anal pain just wasn’t prepared, either through her own fault or that of her partner. And the so-called preparation usually consists of gradually accepting pain and discomfort so that it doesn’t happen all at once. It’s like saying a broken leg won’t hurt you if you’re prepared for it, or if you just break it slowly over time.

    Honestly, it is good to be physically and mentally prepared for anal. It’s a strange feeling that can be shocking the first time. The more you simulate the insertion process beforehand the less intimidating and intrusive it will feel. But it will hurt, especially at first. It will feel tight. It will feel like you’re being filled up. And you may feel the urgent and uncomfortable need to move your bowels. This is what makes anal shocking, it’s a combination of many feelings all at once. Add to that the knowledge that he’s actually in your rectum and it can be pretty overwhelming to any girl. Long ago anal was reserved for the daring or adventurous but now it’s very commonplace so even the sexually timid will likely experience these feelings. Yes, anal will hurt the first time. And it will hurt more or less depending on how you work up to it. There’s really no right or wrong way to do it, it’s just a matter of how much you want to tolerate at the time. But the experience is more than just about the pain. That will dissipate within a minute or two. The key is to recognize all those other shocking sensations as intense pleasure, and girls who can push past the initial pain are rewarded accordingly.

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  • It hurts more than vagina

  • Not if you do it carefully and properly it doesn't

  • does doing the splits hurt? it's all a question of "how" you do it...

  • You would feel pleasure if you do it slowly the first time. Most stories are where girls end up with rough guys

  • If not done properly

    I would never do it

    EXIT ONLY

  • Try it and find out for yourself

  • Did you ever stick a large object up your butt? Ever have someone else thrust one up there and yank it back and forth vigourously?

  • use plenty of lube, if you have ab orgasm first it may help

  • To me it doesn’t hurt

  • Hurts

  • At the first yeah.

  • it hurts some at first, not much different than first vaginal sex
    you get used to it pretty quick

  • There are many women who love anal sex and experience it without pain. It can feel great and give them very strong and unique orgasms.

    However, it takes time and effort to get ready to a point where you can enjoy it without pain. Unfortunately, most women who try anal for the first time do so before putting in that time and effort, so they end up having a painful experience and many of them get turned off to anal forever as a result.

    It is very important to "train" your ass before trying anal sex. Anyone who tells you otherwise is ignorant. Get a tapered butt plug, preferably one that vibrates (you'll thank me later). It should have a small tip that gradually tapers to a larger diameter in the middle. The widest section should be about the diameter of your man's penis. Get some good water based (NOT silicone or oil) lube and use the butt plug to gently relax and stretch your ass while you masturbate. Do it many times and have lots of orgasms because that associates the sensations with pleasure in your brain. Once you are comfortable taking the full butt plug (which can take weeks) get a dildo of a similar size and shape to your man and use that to masturbate after first relaxing your ass with the plug. Take your time and don't push yourself outside your comfort zone. Don't try the real thing with your man until you are comfortable with the dildo and are enjoying masturbating that way.

    I can't overemphasize how important it is to have orgasms during the training process. You'll understand later when you find you really enjoy anal sex with your man and you have the best orgasms of your life by rubbing your clit during anal.

  • hurts like crazy and my ex isn't that big and we had lube

  • it does

  • Do you ever do a poop so big it hurts a bit coming out? Imagine that repeatedly until he cums

    • hahahahaha logic answer