Does anyone else find oral traumatizing?

Question

Even though it's been sort of forced into normalcy in the past couple decades, it's honestly traumatizing to me. People feign all this surprise when you have an aversion to it, like how could you dislike such a wonderful and normal thing? Wow, you must have been a childhood abuse victim. Just nonstop gaslighting if you dare insult oral.

The normal thing is having an aversion to it. Allowing a man to do that to you is what's crazy. It's a revolting and messed-up act. Even though I love sex, I would avoid getting my needs met indefinitely if it meant avoiding this. No man is worth it. It takes away any attraction I have for a man when they talk about this. I don't care if they can "get it from someone else". Then why don't you do that and stop bothering me?

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

Most people do not find it revolting or crazy, so thats just in your own head.

Many women literally crave doing it, and it's not even something humans started.

Many other species do it as well, including bats and other primates.

It is very much a common natural act. If you don't like it, thats perfectly fine, but if you don't want people thinking you went through a trauma, then maybe not talk as if you need to soap box this topic to get the world's permission to hate it, becuase my first thought right now, is why do you even care what any of us think? It's not like we are forcing you to do anything.

God_of_Thunder · Accepted Answer

If you dislike oral, then that's your right. You never have to give, or receive, and nobody has the right to force you. Others would disagree with you, however, and it is their right to do so, as well.

I am curious why you consider it abnormal, though, especially considering that humans are not the only creatures that engage in oral sex. There are other species in nature that do, as well, and many other actions, besides.

If you go by that metric, oral would actually be considered perfectly natural.

KarinMcDonald · Accepted Answer

I agree with you but only half way. I (for one) am NOT a big fan of giving a guy oral sex. Having a cock shoved down my throat makes me feel somewhat degraded. Now on the other hand, I (for one) thoroughly enjoy having oral performed on me! When I let my husband eat me out it feels so good, that I will get into it and even at times call him dirty names. I'm not sure why you don't enjoy it, but everyone has their own "sexual menu" that they will go back to time and time again. What works for one doesn't work for everybody.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You dislike what you like, just like others like what they like. For most people; that’s oral.

I also used to find oral sex disgusting until about 2 years ago when I got into a relationship. I don't know how, but that changed things for me. I still haven’t given it received oral yet bc I’m waiting for marriage, but dating did change that perspective for me.

Just wondering though, how is it traumatizing if you’ve never tried it? I understand finding it gross, but traumatizing?

SecretsofKB · Answer

Personally, I can't say I share this feeling. And there is nothing wrong with that.

If you don't want to do it, then you don't have to do it and anyone that wants to shame you or force you into it, they are not worth being associated with.

purplepoppy · Answer

In sex people like and dislike a whole range of stuff. If you personally don't feel comfortable with a certain act that's ok, just make it clear to your partner.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Some women orgasm more intensely through oral sex. Maybe even most women? But on the other hand some women think it is kind of gross. I think it goes back to the saying that we are all individuals.

I have had girlfriends in the past who genuinely seemed to enjoy giving oral. Others might not enjoy it.

dustybiker · Answer

If you read around in here the last couple days there are men who replied to another question about them not being too fond of getting it. The world makes all sorts.

Dburns1268 · Answer

It's fine to have your own preferences but remember this 1. Everyone has their kinks 2. If your mate doesn't agree, they can leave. 3. Would be interesting to know if u get much action.

Apple1996 · Answer

Nope I'm obsessed with giving oral😛 would live with a dick in my mouth if it was possible to walk around like that

Berethor · Answer

You don't need to do it to have children, so your aversion to it makes sense.

DonkeyDan · Answer

Just because you don't like something doesn't mean other people don't or its unnatural. Oral sex has been performed by humans for thousands of years, and some animal species partake in it too. It is definitely not the normal thing to have an aversion to it.

Birdlegs · Answer

I’ve never heard someone say it was traumatizing😭 I know girls that absolutely LOVE giving it like will come over just to give head so to each their own I guess

slatyb · Answer

Having an aversion to it? It's uncommon. Most people do not feel as you do.

ManOnFire · Answer

I don't think I fully understand which side of oral you're talking about. Do you mean receiving it is traumatizing? Or giving it?

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

What are your thoughts on receiving it?

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

I love it. But it’s your right to dislike it if you want.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Nope. You must have had a traumatic experience

StrawberryShake · Answer

No I don't find it traumatizing at all.

AydenHazor · Answer

Any partner who respects you will understand this and never expect, push or request oral from you. Any guy that doesn't respect this, doesn't respect you and isn't worth sticking around

Jamie05rhs · Answer

If you're not comfortable with it, you don't have to do it. Sexual acts should never be forced, even if it's just being forced by your own self mentally. If there's something you don't want to do, other people should respect that.