Does anyone else have sex with their man when they not in the mood or as a reward?

Was discussing it with a friend and she says that she doesn't unless she's feeling it whereas I differ because if I'm not I will definitely let him or if I'm on my period I will satisfy him in other ways or if I'm asleep and it's the middle of the night he can just do what he gotta do.

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  • Yo that's a tough one. On the one hand, you wanna take care of your dude and keep him satisfied, ya know? But at the same time, your body and consent should always come first.

    I'd say if you're genuinely not in the mood or it's hurting you physically, it's not cool to force yourself just for his sake. That can mess with your head after a while, feel me?

    Maybe find other ways to bond and get intimate that don't involve actual sex when you're not up for it. Like just cuddling, making out, giving him a massage, etc. Still shows you care.

    As for other times, make sure he always checks in with you and respects your limits. A good partner would never want to hurt you or pressure you into anything without fully being into it too.

    Consent and communication are key, yo. Take care of yourself first - your mental and your health down there depends on it! Hopefully your dude respects that and y'all find a balance where you both feel good.

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  • absolutely we both do but we make sure the other is in the mood to do so. which means that we may need to make the other feel extra special. for me that sometimes means I have to get my wife flowers, go on a walk with her, make dinner for her, give her a massage, brush her hair etc. then she'll be the one jumping me. for her same kind of things

Most Helpful Girls

  • If I’m not in the mood, I usually just give him a blowjob or a handjob. Even if I’m not in the mood, I don’t want him to be denied of sexually pleasure.

  • No. I'll give him a bj or let him wank over me but I won't have sex if I'm not in the mood. Rarely happens though, I'm always horny

    • I do that too.

    • How would you react if he just said " Im taking you baby , Im going to fck you hard " ?

    • @molonski2 I'd let him. Unless I'm ill or something.

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  • No if it isn't going to be fun it ruins it all so just decline sex if not in the mood or time.

    • I could never do that.

    • @alicem611 I couldn’t either

  • Well , I don't know about what all others do , but I think your actions for your boyfriend are reasonable enough , particularly when young I loved sex during periods , and middle of the night asleep , I actually love that thought.

    However , also I like denial , so its a double edged sword.

  • I don't think this really happens in our bedroom. If one of us does something kind for the other, it generally will be a turn on for both of us. Intimacy is far more enjoyable when we both want it.

  • I cannot accept reluctance or her doing it out of obligation. I'd rather sleep on the couch than make love to a woman that doesn't love or desire me back.

  • You shouldn't have sex unless both parties are willing to do so. Nobody wants to be forced into doing something they don't wanne do..

  • You're a good girl Alice.

  • Yeah, I’m pretty demanding. Very rare she doesn’t put out for me. But if she’s really not feeling it, she’ll still suck me off, and that’s fine too.

  • Well I'm straight and single sooo.. But I would hope my future SO has a similar attitude of at least not being stingy with her wonderful body..

  • Alice, you should please your man.

    • @jennz6 always the good girl. 😉😘

    • @RedInnocent68 thank you Sir

  • I try never to deny my boyfriend sex

    • He has a very stressful job and works long hours. I'm a flight attendant and work shift work. He's come home a few night and I'm already asleep. I've woken up to him inside me

    • Same. I actually don't mind him waking me up that way, sometimes I just sleep through it mostly. The only thing would be sometimes when he goes off to work after I'm left horny as hell

    • I actually think that's super hot , waking up with him inside.

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  • Not everytime. But sometimes.

  • That's really nice of you, but how do you get wet/enjoy it? It's not awkward?

    • For starters I'm not going through menopause

  • Good girl, well that's what a good wife usually does cause it's the husband's right to make love to his wife at any moment ofc if she ain't suffering from something and also a good wife is always available for her husband!

  • Yes, sometimes yes.

  • Right, there are plenty of ways to satisfy a guy, and he can always jerk off

  • I would give them bj or handjob

  • I am always in the mood so this is never a problem for me.

  • I think what you're describing is normal. Nothing is wrong with it, I would say it only becomes a problem when sex is unenthusiastic most the time. I can't relate much because I am kinda intense during sex (not bragging). So even if I woke her up at 2 am for sex she couldn't just ignore it because she was getting banged really hard. The fact she was 5 foot tall petite and I'm 6'2 athletic build makes it hard to just lay there as her cervix is getting pushed into her guts lol. I'm trying to be as pg 13 as possible, I don't like to go into detail unless it's in dms.

  • My wife only does it when she’s in the mood. I don’t get a BJ if I’m in the mood or nothing. I just jerk off then

  • Damn

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